I rofled
>>85
it is obvious that you live in your moms house. it's just another mommas boy
I haven't chosen this life style, it chose me :(
Ok here is how it started.
First I became isolated and no it's to the point where I hate people and I can't stand being outside.
Thus I rarely venture outside.
I don't even know anybody from the outside world.
ok im sorry but Isnt being a NEET only something that happens in england and Japan because of the way socioty is?
I dont get out much cuz of my hobbies but still im not a NEET
Hey guys, I'm not a hiki any more, I've started talking to random people and I might be getting a job.
And If I can get out of being a hiki then any body can.
Gee, that means getting a life...
I don't know if I could handle that.
But, way to go, I hope things work out for you.
1) How did you end up as a hikikomori?
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?
7) What is your age?
8) Do you thin you're overweight?
9) Which of the following describes your looks the best: below average/Average/Above average.
1) Well i think i have been predetermined to end up as a Hikki.
All my life i was a loner, never having a friend :(
So after highschool with bad degrees, it was a natural thing that i will always stay at home
2)+7) I am 20 now, soon 21, so just one year, but a real Hikki!
3)Well how severe? I can't say it since i have no real comparisons. But i am like SATOU-kun from NHK^^
4)Living with my parents. (Feeling disgusted withmyself as a leecher......really pathethic)
5) I have NO talents NOR skills at all, my degrees were bad.
So what to do?´Right nothing. I can't do things, just because i need to do in order to live, rather i would die, what is most probably going to happen.
If i want to do something i want to be among the best, but i am just a moron :(( I wish i would have some talenst or skills ;(
6) hahaha, most likely a miracle! I wish a beautiful and nice woman like Misaki (NHK) would help me. SInce the chances are almost 0, the event is most probably the death, which ends me being a Hikki.
I really wish there would be women beautiful and nice as in mangas/animes. But on the other hand, even if they do exist, they won't have anything to do with pathethic lowlifes like me
:(, so i keep imagening and dreaming.....
8)+9)Well i am little thin, but have the right weight. My mother says i do look alike a woman xD.
So my looks aren't that bad^^ Infact i would say i look alike Itachi Uchiha from Naruto
Damn, if i would have met a girl/woman who would be beautiful and nice as those from mangas/animes, i would do anything to end up with her......
Those girls from Ichigo100% are really beautiful also those from the manga SEKIREI ;)
I am also in love with Honoka from Suzaku.
Ok first of all wanting to be a NEET means you fail. Second of all NEETS suck. The hell. You can't walk out of your house? ZOMG THE UV RAYS THEY BUUUUUUUUURN.
Yeah , so what, it is funny ain't it? -.-
i think i'd almost pass off as a neet if i wasn't still a student.
FAIL.
i feel as if i'll become a freeter after university...if i can get in ;___;
FAIL.
1) How did you end up as a hikikomori?
extreme school bullying, constantly being glared at in public, toomuch pressure to be "perfect," too much pressure to keep up with my grades in school.
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
Over a year now.
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
Moderate, I'd say. I still go out, but only to certain places, and it causes me extreme anxiety.
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
I still live with my parents.
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
Society stinks, frankly. I'd rather be a hikikomori than a walking target for people's bullying.
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?
n/a
>>94
There are heaps of NEETs in Australia too, mainly thanks to the social welfare system paying the scum enough to keep mooching off the money we pay through taxes.
A purist hikkikomori would asking these questions, even through the net, to violate the true hikkikomori spirit. You're not a real hikkikomori.
If hikkikomori mothers stopped leaving food out, they'd eventually get hungry and come out to get it.
>>106
(1) Observation: a true hikkikomori wouldn't talk to anyone.
(2) hikkikomori mothers still feed their sons by leaving food outside their room. If they stopped doing that, son would have to come out. just an idea.
> hikkikomori mothers still feed their sons by leaving food outside their room. If they stopped doing that, son would have to come out.
No mother would have the heart to do so. Similar;y, obese children.
Wrong!
As long as it is anonym he can "talk" or better write in order to "communicate" with others.
1) How did you end up as a hikikomori?
I'm not stictly a real hiki, I don't like society and crowds in general but I love individuals and made tremendous efforts to overcome my fears and awkwardness so I can enjoy life.
for example: I used to get panic attacks in shops so every friday I would buy myself a dessert from a small shop so I could get used to it... then went to big shops and told myself that I could leave at any time, leave the shopping cart and just go if it got too hard. My main bother was at the till, i always feared not having the money or my cheque being refused or just them being suspicious of me so I'd beathe deeply and concentrate on packing up groceries and say a simple 'good day' 'thankyou' to the cashier.
Back then it seemed so big and almost crippling but since then I've had to adjust to life as a real crip' in a wheelchair and my perspectives have changed a lot: At least fears can be fought and tiny steps made to being more socially outgoing, you can't fight nature though.
What happened is that I left home and school at sixteen to get away from my family. i knew something was wrong with my body but had no-one to confide in so I went away anyway.
Then I fell very ill (physically) - mentally I was doing fine and eventually had to come back home to them because I was unable to properly care for myself. The fact that I soldiered on independantly and in denial for so long made the illness far worse and so I guess I'm kinda paying for my pride.
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
Completly housebound? almost five years.
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
I don't leave the house or use the phone. I shop online and keep friendships to email/letters/parcels.
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
I can't. I pay my parents for my keep in repairs (electric stuff like computers and lightbulbs) and cooking.
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
No choice. My body is a weak piece of shit, its immune system is wack, it doesn't get restored by sleep and it's constantly fighting deep infection. Basically it's not getting fed properly: most of tthe oxygen and nutrients it takes in doesn't get to the cells. Shit sucks but hell at least it's not AIDS or one of those awful wasting diseases where you choke to death slowly.
I find myself exhausted by small physical tasks and social stress such as making a phone call or having someone come round.
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?
I hope to escape by gradually getting well again. I'm now on a form of chemo and trying my darnest to rest in this crazy environment. It's slow and frustrating but it's light at the end of a tunnel. I'd like to start up slowly by getting a part-time job where I get to sit down all day then maybe finish high school by distance learning.
7) What is your age?
24. I feel very old.
8) Do you think you're overweight?
Yes. I have a strict diet but there's only so much you can do in terms of exercise when your muscles won't work.
9) Which of the following describes your looks the best: below average/Average/Above average.
Probably average, I have a big nose but I take care of my hair and skin and wear a bit of makeup.
All I can suggest to hikkis is that they're not alone and yes the outside world is a bitch, I can understand that they don't want to ever have to deal with the plebs again. However, some people make it worth it all and it's not worth missing out on many good things because people are dicks in crowds.
Try gradually emerging and trying things, reward yourself for any ventures into the world however unsucessful, expect people to be dumb or selfish and be pleasantly suprised when some aren't.. oh yeah and avoid cons, even if it's a way of meeting up with online friends as they tend to concentrate idiots.
Have fun suffering further and even more.
You can still end it by yourself, properly!
However the time will come, you will get so weak that you are not even able to do so!
It is your decsision.
>>112 hahaha you are funny you hyprocrit!
He is a retard. He is not denying it.
I just suggested him what he can do!
His condition will become worse with the time.
Killing of all retarded people and old people who live on the costs of others will solve many problems.
Sounds drastic?
Perhaps it is, however it is the only GOOD SOLUTIONy ou stupid hypocrits.
1) How did you end up as a hikikomori?
Was extremely sheltered growing up. Didn't get much social interaction, I more or less studied MTV for a while just so I could know what everyone at school was talking about.
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
I was a severe hiki for about 5 years.
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
Not so bad anymore. I now have a steady 40 hr/week job for a nearby office (GE callcenter) where I work on a special team that deals with two particular areas in CA (We're in VA.)
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
I pay my parents about 100$ a month for rent and food, and I handle my own car insurance from my pay. I buy a computer using my mom's credit cards and pay her back over time (she came up with the idea) I'm currently about 1K$ in debt to her for my new computer and a doctor bill that I put off for too long.
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
Because I don't like social interaction in person, I have low self esteem, and have methods to do any and everything that I'd want to do in my room. I mostly browse 4ch, 4chan, watch anime and movies and browse wikipedia all day when I'm not at work or doing schoolwork via online classes.
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what were the events that lead to that?
I became a full fledged hiki (no job, no social activity, staying in room all day, computer and nothing else) after a big breakup with my first girlfriend. I had made a commitment to myself to become a better person and make something of myself. I had big plans and her cheating and leaving ruined them for me, as she was a big part of my plans.
I decided that I wanted to be alone, but still complete my goal of being able to live comfortably and to my liking. I knew working fast food wouldn't do it. I had a friend who started working at the office I'm at now about a year or so ago, he told me about it and I came by, applied, got it and have been working hard to work my way up since. I'd like to think that I'm doing well, but I know at least that I don't consider myself a hiki any longer.
1) How did you end up as a hikikomori?
Severe abuse throughout my childhood. There was no safety for me, nowhere, but for the times I chose isolation and was by myself.
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
on and off, in varying degrees for 24 years now.
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
Relative isolation to complete isolation. Pretty damn serious.
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
Money came my way.
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
I can't blend in with normal people, it hurts too much on the inside.
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?
I don't see that happening.
Check out this cool shirt that 2-ch is selling:
http://chbox.jp/shop/2007-03t.html
I wonder how many they've sold thus far.
1) How did you end up as a hikikomori?
Not exactly sure, but I guess since I was coddled as a child, and my father was a quasi-hikikomori, I became a full blown hiki. My big sister is a quasi-hikikomori too.
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
For just about all my life. Never really went out much. Have a few "friends" but I guess you can't really call them that if you can't socialize properly
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
Its pretty bad. Though I am i'm college I rarely venture outside of my room. My only hobbies are in anime and manga, so I no nothing about music, sports, entertaiment, etc. Pretty pathetic overall.
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
My parents are both doctors. Guess I could be considered a parasite single.
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
A combination of several different reasons, but mainly its because I am afraid of being hurt by people, so I stay away from them.
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?
Haven't escaped, but made some improvements.
Wow, that's pretty horrible.
I can relate except for the abuse part.
Hope you can find a way to break out of it.
1) I never had a chance to really become like a "hikikomori"? But for my entire childhood I remeber having perhaps 2 people I could call friends. One turned out to be a twoface idiot, and the other... the other managed to introduce me to eomething I still have severe issues from :( Sadly I'm to ashamed to speak of it even anonymously. Had a friend in primary shool who was the type one could call a good friend. Lost contact over the years... In highschool I had two friends, another twofaced bastard and another one with whom I managed to reamin friends until this day, at age 28. But... people change and so did he and we are drifting appart. But I did manage to get enough social skills in last three years that I now know quite a few people, have some nice friends and not just one at a time, and am involved in a club. I do realize I got here entirely to late, but I'm happy I did as the alternative is to be a social outcast. As many of you I was also bullied in school. I just couldn't handle the situations, my personality was not tough enough. Now... well now I'm a bitch :) slap me once and i forgive, but slap me twice and you shall not live.
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
I have periods when I shutin for an entire week or two and only talk to my parents and strangers online. Again, nothing as severe as some of you. But I have to regularely take a "vacation" from society: my job, friends, everyone else. While in school and highschool I had periods where I'd come home from school and just not bother going out or beeing with anybody. But unlike you guys I had a friend to hang with. Somebody always pulled me out of my shell.
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
Mild. Though I'd like to shut in for a while or just escape, I don't and have learned to sidetrack my mind when the mood hits me. Sure I suffer that I have to do many things that I'd rather not, but the alternative is scarier than the stuff I have to do. Most of all I hate the twoface way I have to deal with people: I have to say one thing, but inside I really want to say what I really think - but saying that would cause trouble. That's the most tiring part of my life. The other is work, doing stuff I don't quite like just because there are thing I have to pay for in life and the way to get money is to tough it out and go to work.
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
I have a job and more than enough for my minimalist lifestyle. Just managed to buy a car with cash :D While I do live with my parents I do pay a part of the bills and contribute. It's simply cheaper for me to live with them. If I find a willing girl to live with then I'll think about moving. Again - this is not hikky at all and thet's because I got pulled away from that lifestyle.
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
Managed not to avoid it entirely. But I have more than enough potential for it - the stories I read on this thread chilled me, some I can totally relate to.
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?
The particular conditions I live in prevented me from becoming one. Meeting some interesting people who are very social also helped. If I hadn't their support...
Good luck people. I was lucky, but many of you weren't.
1) How did you end up as a hikikomori?
Mental breakdown from stress
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
1 year
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
Slightly. I'd only go out at night, barely see my small group of friends
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
Parents
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
I don't
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?
Going back to school, making more friends.
1) How did you end up as a hikikomori?
Actually I don't know.
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
6 months.
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
Somewhat servere.
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
Parents.
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
I'm trying to cut loose from the lifestyle.
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?
1) How did you end up as a hikikomori?
I graduated from college, couldn't find a job, had no plans, and really just wanted a break from life. I didn't even know what a hikikomori was until after I became one. I've heard it referred to as a quarter-life crisis, which was certainly what sparked it for me: there was nowhere for me to go, and I didn't know what I wanted to be, etc.
2) For how long have you been a hikikomori?
I was one for just over a year (from before I turned 23 to a little while before I turned 24).
3) How severe is your hikikomori condition?
Not as bad as some. I would still go out to stores if I needed something, but I would try to go places with self-checkout lanes, and I would see people occasionally, but the only people who saw me more than once during that year were my folks, my girlfriend (who was surprisingly patient with me over it all), her folks, and another random friend of mine. I didn't have anxiety problems with society and socializing, I simply had (and continue to have) no desire to get out and meet people or spend time with anyone offline.
4) How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?
My folks graciously let me freeload. When my money ran out, I simply stopped buying things.
5) Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?
I'm not one anymore, but in all honesty, if I could afford to go back, I would in a heartbeat. If I got a job that I could do from home, I would go right back to it and never look back. I wouldn't care if it cost me my friends, my girlfriend, my health anything. In a way it might possibly have been the best year of my life.
6) If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?
I wouldn't call it an escape. My folks were getting sick of me mooching and irritatingly kept asking me why I didn't want to go out and start my life in an attempt to understand. I thought I'd get an apartment so I could be alone when I didn't have to work, and unfortunately there were no jobs, so I wound up having to get a place elsewhere, with roommates who took a good couple months to stop bothering me. Also, some minor motivation came from a dread of my own mortality that I'm guessing I had largely because I spent far too much time idle, and from watching silly idealistic high school anime and realizing that no matter what, my best years were in high school and college, and they were far from perfect, and I can never have them back.
Honestly, if you want to stop being a hikikomori, do it on your own terms. Try to draw strength from your fears. If you can sustain it easily, decide whether you want to rejoin society or not. I doubt I would have been so troubled by it if it were something I could have effortlessly managed to maintain for the rest of my life.
Even now I ask myself why I didn't just kill myself toward the end of that year, and can't help but wish that I had, because even now that I'm out of the lifestyle and laid out my own path before me, I know I'll never have another time in my life where I'll be as free and unburdened by stress as I was that year. I've already lived the best year of my life, and while I feel cautiously optimistic that money, friends, and arguably success and fulfillment in any conventional sense of the words lie down the path I've chosen, it still barbs me to know that it won't bring me any greater satisfaction personally than if I had spent my life stress-free as a hikikomori.
Ok, ok, ok, I've posted in this thread before but didn't really give a good answer so I'll try again.
1) "How did you end up as a hikikomori?"
I was forced to go to school, but all my life I've had real trouble in school.
Finally my mother "home schooled" me but as it turns out, I'm actually not schooling myself like I should.
I did have a friend, but I hate that fucker, and as time went by I grew hatred for people.
This one day I went to the mall and there were thousands of people there, out of nowhere I got this feeling inside of me, all the people there, their talking and noise I wanted out, so I got out of there ASAP.
Ever since then I hate everybody outside of my apartment and I stopped hanging out with my friends, I don't even answer my cellphone.
And for some reason now I can't stand hearing the sound of people talking, I don't watch tv except for movies.
So I guess you could say that this has either been building up all my life or I've always been some kind of hiki.
2) "For how long have you been a hikikomori?"
Almost five years!
3) "How severe is your hikikomori condition?"
Even if I do go outside, get a job, date, friends, my feelings about people won't go away.
I'll probably have this hatred of people forever.
4) "How can you afford the hikikomori lifestyle?"
Family.
5) "Why do you continue staying as a hikikomori?"
Because I love sleeping in, waking up, getting something to bite and then playing video games until I pass out.
6) "If you have successfully escaped your hikikomori lifestyle, what where the events that lead to that?"
Getting a job would get me outside, but I'll always been waiting to get back home so I can lock the door and shut off the lights.
almost two years now, still a hikikomori, and can't even leave the house at all now. glad i have supportive parents.
Throughout this thread I keep seeing the same type of responses about people. The people who filled out the Hikikomori criteria all say they dont consider themselves severe hikikomori. Theoretically if most of these people here think that being a Hikikomori means being a anti-social person, someone willing to segregate themselves from others due to some type of social stigma, then at heart thats not exactly what a hikikomori is at all. Everyone in any place on this planet feels anti-social at some point, this dosent just refer to Japan or the U.K. Maybe certain cultures, espeicially those of first world nations contribute to the number of anti-social people but thats not the point of my post. I just want to point out that if you dont go to EXTREME (I MEAN EXTREME) lengths to isolate yourself from others. Then your not a real hikikomori. There is a medical term for people like that and I bet that 99.9% of the people who claim to be hikikomori just happened to come across Densha Otoko and NHK ni youkoso on the internet while trying to become more Otaku.