No matter what I seem to try, I always fail at it. Always. I failed studying biology at my old college, I failed to make friends, I failed trying to become a comic book artist, and I failed to make any impact around me. I'm always the worst one. I just don't know what to do anymore. I honestly try hard, but I keep failing over and over again. And I hate myself for it.
I always tell myself: "I have to keep trying no matter what. I shouldn't give up."
Even if I feel like I should give up or don't even want to try I always remember the things I've said to myself and things that I heard from everyone else. The sayings the quotes that inspires me and perhaps motivates me to try harder until I can't try no more.
I don't know about you but I always have to try no matter what. I don't know the reason why but I just need to.
What I'm trying to say, don't feel down too much because of the things around that don't turn out well for you.
Here's an example for ya: Would you let someone push you down to the floor because of your failure? Or get up and fight back to try harder. I don't think you should give up so easily. Everyone has it hard on themselves but things to give up easily and/or things given easily in negative is not something you need.
I'm not good at cheering up on people but all I know is that you should get back on your feet and try harder.
Ryuuchi, I used to be the poster child for never giving up. It was weird, but in high school I kicked all sorts of ass in classes and in sports. When I got to college, it just all fell apart. I fail every day now, constantly. And nothing seems to go right. I don't even want to eat now, and I used to love life with so much vigor too. How do you get back on your feet, when you get knocked down the moment you try?
>>3
Some of the things you describe make me think of depression symptoms. Depression isn't just a small blues, it's something you should seek help for - I mean, you very possibly have an underlying problem that causes you to unconsciously fail everything you attempt; or at least to make you feel like nothing goes right, and such.
But yeah, life is hard, and if when you were a kid you got used to have it go your way all the time well... you're probably not very well prepared to face all its hardships. I know what I'm talking about... still, you have to keep in mind that everything is not that wrong, and some stuff will eventually go your way. You have to keep an eye open for this.
Seriously man, talk about your issues to your close ones, and maybe think about seeking help with a professional. Take care.
>>3
Maybe in your school days, you expected everything that it will go well for you and it did. However, going to the real world, going to college, and all that it seems things went hard for ya. It's like a nice product sale going up but then in a couple of years it went down because no one is interested in buying that product no more because probably a new product came that's better than the old one.
What I'm trying to say is that, maybe you need to explore new things for yourself. trying out new things.
How do you get back on your feet when you get knocked down the moment try? Then try harder. Try until you can't no more and find something else to try. Finding new things to try out may help out for you or maybe not.
You may know already but you can't expect things or do things that you think it will go well for you. I have a friend who is like that and it seems he gave up easily. He's the type to give up and I can't find the words to get him back on his feet because I'm afraid he might take it the wrong way. So if I tried to help him, it seems nothing will get in his head that not giving up is something he should be doing.
It's not about being failed at things that you try. It's about things you have accomplished back then and maybe the things you have done that turned out well, the other things you try out now may turn out well or not. It's a challenge for ya and if a challenge doesn't motivate you then nothing else does.
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Actually, two years ago I was treated for clinical depression after failing a few classes from my old school. I kind of think im having a major relapse, because those same thoughts and feelings are coming back like a freight train. I'm scared to tell my parents though because they want me to be normal and I feel like im disappointing them by not being that way.
>>5
the thing is, I do try harder. I spend so much time working on my projects, getting everything done on time. But I always fall short, no matter what it is. Even if I did better than last time, compared to everybody else I suck and I know it. Its like its thrown in my face every single day. You can say "try harder" or "learn and grow", but when you look at the work that you spent 12+ hours on and say it sucks, it feels terrible.
I don't know if you are trying to be perfect but you shouldn't try to be perfect because really, no one is. If you meeting your parents expectations than that's something to put into pressure in part of things that you already have been pressuring in your life.
What you should do is do the things you want to do. Do your own thing and don't worry about anything else besides the thing you are focusing on doing. I can't put it into simple explanation but what I'm trying to say is that you should know that you tried your best and work hard on something. That's the good part because you are a hard worker and you try the best that you can to get it accomplished. Don't say that it sucks but look it in a way that this is what I have done and you should be proud of it.
Everyone makes mistakes or whatever and we all should learn from out mistakes, move on, and hope to fall into the same mistake ever again.
I'm trying hard in my life to GET my life going. I envy you OP because you got it going on and I don't. All I do is stay at home and without any ambitions or goals I don't have them in my mind but now I'm building it up in my mind on what I should do in my life or whatever that I should try things out and see what's best for me and what's the thing that I want to do or have the most.
>>7
Ryuuchi, you make a good point. And its great that your trying to get your life started.
I just feel like I can't stack up in anything. Just about the only thing I can halfway do is play fighting games, and that's just sad. I want to be able to draw, and have fun too, but I can't. I just see what I can't do.
Hey, I play video games most of the day, everyday, and that seems everyone's perspective of "sad". I just like what I do and I guess playing video games most of the time without worrying my problems. It just stacks up before I even realize that I needed to do something.
Trying things out is the way to learn things. Even the mistakes and failures you've made are the things you should learn. Like Yoda said: "You must unlearn what you have learned..."
For someone like you, it might be helpful to "start a new life." Move somewhere where the air is fresh and the people are friendly and get a job where you do something with your hands. It's sort of a stereotype now, but it really does increase your sense of self-worth when you do a day of hard's work that has tangible results. Even if it's something really small.
You have a long life ahead of you, and the trials you've undergone are behind you now. It can pretty exciting if you think of your future and realize that you have control over it. I'm not saying you can do anything you want, but I do believe your life is the result of your own decisions. If you're into weird anime and want some inspiration, watch MindGame :)
Anyway, I suffer(ed) from clinical depression. I still take Wellbutrin but my doctor thinks I'm in remission. Don't be afraid to admit that you're having a relapse, a sense of shame will only make things worse. Life is all a matter of perspective. Changing your way of thinking is the key to getting out of a slump. Of course, you can't just magically change your way of thinking in one day, especially when you're stuck in depression. That's where meds can help and get you to a level where you can reevaluate things. :)
>For someone like you, it might be helpful to "start a new life." Move somewhere where the air is fresh and the people are friendly and get a job where you do something with your hands.
That's certainly a nice sentiment, but most people simply cannot afford to drop everything and move to a new place.
OP you are a failure. Stop complaining and keep trying.
We both know you really didn't try to study biology that hard, we both know that you wont become a super cool comic artist without alot, and I mean A LOT, of effort first.
Go back, try again, this time be a man, smile and work hard.
>>12
Boy thats pretty easy to say now isn't it? Its fuckers like you that make me mad. Judging someone who is asking for help. Yes, he needs to work, but saying that so matter-of-factly like that when you haven't gone either route makes you look stupid.
i guess i just cant really do anything. thank you anyways guys. ryuuchi, you'll do it, because you have drive. i'll stop posting now.
sorry, I got over-emotional. Let me type this again. I've been attending art school for 2 years now, and I feel like my work is not good enough at all. This quarter almost killed me, especially in critiques where my work was mediocre. I don't really have enough experience with this kind of thing, so I need some advice.
I can't really time manage well with my projects, because this is the first time i've ever done something like this. >>12, honestly your post bothered me, because I did study biology. I had a B, but I just didn't want to do it. This is different, so i'm getting used to it.
I just want some advice on ways to improve, not just on art, but on my attitude towards my work. I lack confidence, so what is the best way to gain it?
I see.
Be positive that you will complete work so that you can get points from it. Get graded on the assignment very well. You know, positive thinking. It can be stressful at times but it's one of the ways to go improving.
About you studying biology, had a B, and you just didn't feel that you want to do it. That's the problem. I think you just have to deal with it. Finish the work completely and get graded well.
Find yourself to the limit of your abilities and from there push yourself over it and you might see how far you really can go.
>>17 Yo, I'm also a art student who is going to attend a private art school. I am trying to become a digital animator. I haven't really gotten any terrible critiques on my art during my high school years, but I have never really done any animating now that I look back. I would suggest you to keep trying your best in improving your art. Anyone can become an artist if you try hard enough and draw everyday. Our greatest enemy is sloth. If you become lazy and stop believing in yourself, you lose.
Never ever give up, and be more enthusiastic about what your doing. Being a comic artist is one of the best jobs in the world, in my opinion.
BTW, I wouldn't mind taking a look at your artwork. I would love to give you some tips and help you improve.
I know I sound a little bit arrogant when it comes to drawing, but I take art very seriously and I never regret whatever I say about art. i spent the last 2 years as a graphic arts student, and although i had several projects that went over well, i really am not as good as my classmates. also, they seemed to all have some kind of intuitive grasp of programs that caused me major frustration (ex- adobe flash, grr)
i won a significant award for one of my projects this year, but i still got so discouraged that i did not attend an internship and have dropped from the program. there were also financial reasons behind this.
i'm not sure where i am going with all of this... maybe just know you are not alone? i fail at most things i attempt too.
i think, though, that it has more to do with my anxiety and depression than an inability on my part. i sort of lock up with anxiety when pressure gets too high. i come off as an excellent student and very intelligent, but i am always waiting for the bomb to drop.
what sucks the most though- i am 36. i'm never going to get my act together at this rate.