Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
So did you score?
unfortunately yes. beer googles + low light = ugly morning suprise.
Someday I will go to a party and get drunk. Today is not that day.
Doesn't stop me from feeling extreme envy whenever I see a happy couple, though.
love isn't everything. I'm done with it. There are other things in life.
does anyone have experience in quitting masturbation?
I'm trying, but I'm going nuts over it. any suggestions to make it more easy?
>>55
Just keep busy. Pursue hobbies and make goals for yourself. The urge to fap really is short lived, so even a short activity like a crossword puzzle or something could help you. If you need something physical, you could always exercise or something.
>>55
Why would you quit masturbation?
>>57
'cause it drains energy that you could use on other activities. Besides, theres a psychological effect to consider too. You know all too well its not "the real thing" and it makes you feel bad in the end, despite the momentary relief.
It doesnt drain energy. Thats an OLD OLD wives tale. Like the boxer who doesnt fok before the fight..... "IT" doesnt make you feel bad afterwards, its fucked up issues that make you feel bad after you do it. Its not supposed to be the real thing any more than having sex with someone you are dating is suposed to be having sex with someone you are married to ( what many consider the only real thing)
It doesnt drain energy. Thats an OLD OLD wives tale. Like the boxer who doesnt fok before the fight..... "IT" doesnt make you feel bad afterwards, its fucked up issues that make you feel bad after you do it. Its not supposed to be the real thing any more than having sex with someone you are dating is suposed to be having sex with someone you are married to ( what many consider the only real thing)
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I'm sure the people posting here prefer to find someone they could love instead of masturbating ! lol ! It's not a solution for me against being single ! But when you are shy, It's so difficult to meet someone... Is meeting website the only solution for people like us ?
I think that just because you are shy doesn't mean you won't meet someone IRL...And even if meeting someone from the net is the "only solution", what is wrong with that? Tell me. You are a normal person sitting behind their computer screen. A girl who you pass by on a street could be doing the same thing (as in, using a computer to chat). It's just a tool to facilitate making friends and finding partners. Sure there are creeps on the net. But, there are creeps IRL, too. And last time I checked, it's alot harder to be raped through your computer screen.
>And last time I checked, it's alot harder to be raped through your computer screen.
Soon, though. I'm working on it.
>>64 But don't you think today when you tell someone how you meet your girlfriend (by internet), people judge you like if Internet is not the right way to find someone ! I'm feeling that they think i've not chosen the correct way to find a girl ! There is sort of taboo about meeting someone from the net
Yeah but when you tell your children how you met each other they wont be surprised. Things change, and this looks like it could be one of them. The enormous number of people using the interweb for this alone supports this.
Oh for sure people will judge you. ...What is your point? If you meet a girl who's all yay and you're all happy and things work out well, what the hell does it matter if moronic idiots are gonna say, "Oh, you met her on the net?! OMG!" They have no argument or valid reason for judging you. You shouldn't care. I know it's hard...but I really don't think it matters. The only thing you have to say to rebound their stupid judging is, "I'm happy."
Aww, there is no "correct way to find a girl". If you meet someone on the net, it's FINE. Why do you think all those online internet dating site are so popular? Lots of people do it and I think it's great ^__^ I really like the idea of online dating because you start to like the PERSONALITY rather than going to a bar and liking the girl for her looks alone. Like of course with ICL (inchatlife), you'll eventually get closer and ask for pictures...use microphone and one day meet. I think it is a good way to get to know the person and establish a friendship.
yeah, agreed. not that it even matters how you met, anyway. like, arranged marriages!
Single here.
The funny thing is, I've been giving sensible advice on this board since around the time it was made ...but I really have no courage to follow any of my own advice. orz
It's so easy to encourage and advise other people, but my mind practically freezes up when it comes to myself.
>>69
even in arrange marriages even if you dont see the other person, your parents or relatives do. and parents do have sense of taste. buts looks always matters, you can have an awesome personality but if your looks arent at their standards then they will tell you to fuck off.
I hate being fucking single. Fuck all those bitches who won't give guys like us a chance.
Maybe you're going for the wrong girls? I'd totally give you a chance if you didn't sound so...mean.
would you give me a chance?
moeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Only if you live in Florida. I'm too horny for long distance relationships (haha?)
actually i live in jacksonvile
oshi--
I am so glad I am Indian because I have arranged marriage to fall back on.
You're kidding me! I do too. Well, it's closer to Orange Park, but it's technically Jacksonville. I'm currently going to UF though, so I'm rarely home.
This is weird. I live literally live right across the river on Mandarin. But I go to school in NC so I seriously doubt a meeting.
Where are all the nice geeky guys around here? Heck, I'll even take a girl. Stupid New York and all these ghetto people. Curse my shyness too.
Where are all the nice geeky girls around here? Heck, I'll even take a... wait, no I wouldn't. Stupid Riverside county and all these old people. Curse my shyness too.
>>80
It would be funny if a couple actually met on this board.
In other news, GRRR I'VE NEVER HAD A GIRLFRIEND AND IT'S MAKING ME INCREASINGLY ENRAGED
>>84
Yeah, it would. Why didn't we think of hooking up with each other before??
Arr,,, Same here, >>85, and worse, I keep attracting gay people!
(And I don't like that)
>>85
In other news, GRRR I'VE NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND AND IT'S MAKING ME INCREASINGLY ENRAGED
lol. i don't give a crap actually, but it does bug me that i'm one of those "little sister" girls. seriously, all the guys i've ever met always try to become my role model or something.
so how old are you?
>>91
Rest assured, there are guys out there who would treat you as an equal. Based on how I act towards girls who are younger or shorter than me, I think I would count myself among them. (But unless if you live in Minnesota or Massachusetts, I don't think I could be your boyfriend.) You should probably look for the shy kind of person, not necessarily a geek, but someone who you have to approach yourself and invite him somewhere. Taking the initiative would at least show that you're not interested in a senpai-kouhai sort of thing.
I've only had one girlfriend in my whole life and the worst thing was is that it was a long distance relationship. From the start i knew it wouldn't last long and I ended up being correct.Ahhh......This boring life of mine.....what to do.
How the hell do you know if she wants a boyfriend?
Don't ever take yourself from granted and entitle yourself to being a potential boyfriend of hers just because she says she don't have a boyfriend. It's like you think she needs boyfriend like you without her consent and acknowledgement, you simply went ahead and condescendingly said that you can't be her boyfriend under your bullshit conditions. Do you think she would give a fuck about you? Who do you think you are? talking like you already claimed her without her permission. It's fucking rude!
Ironically that you said there are people who would treat her equally, who admit being her potential boyfriend?
This is coming from a guy like me.
What to do? Go and kill yourself.
There needs less people like you who only think about getting a girlfriend and having sex.
>>95
Haha, you are a hoot :p. I think I saw you flaming Mireille Guy in that other thread lol. He deserves a kick up the ass once in a while though.
It's true, I'm not actively looking for a bf. I'm more of a take-things-as-they-come person. But at the same time I guess I don't like how guys see me as a cute thing to pat/teach/protect. I mean it was okay for a while, but not at this age. Before you suggest anything about acting/dressing more maturely, I can tell you I've tried that, and people become strangely intimidated. Ah well, watchu gonna do. But I will keep that in mind >>93, if I ever decide to go bf-hunting =/.
true that, same shitty grammar, and completely overreacting on something wholly besides the point anyway.
Nothing useful to add to the thread though. So yeah, with 17, you can be my little sister. (younger than the other ones I have, actually)
you're only 17. There are plenty of use here in our 20's who have no love experience. Consider yourself fortunate.
>>99
Amen, hallelujah, peanut butter.
I am 18 years old and have never been in a relationship. Throughout high school I was slightly over-weight and never gave too much thought about my personal appearance, by the time I was ready for a relationship I felt it would be impossible due to the hole I had dug myself. With college approaching I saw it as an oppurtunity to start over. I decided to get in shape in an effort to re-invent myself and finally meet someone. I am now a commuter in a large state school and have been attending class for three months. I have yet to make one friend, male or female, since I started college. Even with my "new" body I still don't have the confidence, experience, or knowledge to approach a girl. In high school most of my friends would meet girls at parties, but I don't drink and feel very akward and nervous in these situations, not to mention I don't even have any friends to go to these parties with right now. I am a total romantic and being completely alone like this has left me so depressed. I feel so hopeless.
>>101
My freshmen college experience was similar. But I found that the major difference between sophomore and freshmen year is that you know almost everyone. Talk to your classmates that are in the same program, join clubs that have girls, socialize as much as possible. Over time it will get better.
and start drinking.
I'm not exactly single at the moment but at the same time I can't say I have a "girfriend" of some sorts. Special situation, and all i can say about is FUCK SHIT GODDAMN HELL I AM FRUSTRATED.
:(
okay I had a talk with her and i'm not so frustrated anymore phew
I was in the library looking for a desk to sit down and study in and noticed an empty one with a cute girl next to it. As I got closer and I noticed that the girl was the same girl I asked about and got rejected from. So I went to another desk.
I can feel where you're coming from, 107. Still, why not just sit there? its a small, small world!
I had a big exam coming up, I didn't need any distractions.
Know know what's frustrating? You go to same with school for 9 years with a very sweet girl who's been showing interest for that whole time. One time she confessed through her friend. What I did? Walked away with a "meh". WHY, god, WHY? ;_; There were other instances where she hinted she wanted to get close. Just walked away every single time there was a change. End of comprehensive school was last time I ever saw her. -.-
I'm 21 now and never dated.
I know that feeling. We went to school together for a few years, she moved away and I realized what I missed out on. To add insult to injury I found out my friend is her cousin. But its too late for anything now.
Reminds me of how in high school a girl I liked cam over to me and asked "Are you dating anyone?" I thought "Wow, is she asking me out? Yay!" and said, "No, why?"
She then said "Oh, my friend was curious," and I responded "Oh... okay." She then ran off shyly.
It was only years later that I considered the fact maybe she was asking for herself after all, and possibly just using her friend as an excuse. I probably should have said something like "Oh, I was hoping it was you who were interested." But yeah, way too late to do anything now.
And then there was the time my school had an anonymous Valentine's day thing going on. You paid like 50 cents, and they left an anonymous Valentine on your crushes desk along with any messages you wanted on it.
unfortunately, I was friends with some of the people running it, so I would have admitted to them that I liked the girl, and it would have defeated the whole purpose. So I passed on it.
>I'm 21 now and never dated.
About 6 months ago, I went out with this girl whom I would consider my dream girl. We went out for about a month. However, due to work stress and bad timing, it didn't quite work out. We stopped going out together but we still see each other in school.
I still have feelings for her but i'm afraid of asking her out again in case she rejects me. Everytime i see her in school she'll flash me her radiant smile and i'll go all weak in the knees. I really want to try it again with her but i'm really scared she'll just reject me and then won't even want to be friends with me.
The thing is, during that one month while i was with her, I gave her a rose in a glass jar which is suppose to be everlasting. I told her that if she likes me she'll always keep it by her side. Recently, I found out that she still has that rose on her study table.
I wonder if this means i still have a chance or it means nothing. Either way.. i still feel weak whenever i'm anywhere near her....
>>112 Thats the way life is. There are many missed chances which we all end up regretting later... If only we could turn back time...
>>112
Don't worry. You're not alone... I know that doesn't really help too much. I'm 22! Just make sure you recognize the next chance a bit faster, eh? Live and learn... after messing up many many times...
>>113
I think you should go for it! If things seem better now, maybe it could work. She still has the rose, it seems, y'know? If I liked someone enough, I know I'd keep such a special gift from them close. If not full out ask her out again, then just talk to her and see if she's even interested in the idea. What do you have to lose, really? Who's to say she won't want to still be your friend if rejected? For all you know, maybe she does want to get back together.
>>115
I totally agree with what 115 said. What matters now is that you don't repeat the same mistakes! But then... sometimes its not very easy not to repeat the same mistakes... When opportunit comes, the window of opportunity does not open long..
>>116
Thanks for your advise.. Next time i see her online i'll try to ask her out.. I'm really scared but like they say nothing ventured nothing gained... I think...
I can't call her because the last time i tried calling her to invite her to my student committee investiture i ended up mumbling nonsense... And i don't think i can ask her in person too cause the last time i tried to give her something i ended up throwing it at her and it hit her face... i can never forget that embarassing incident.
She was complaining that she had gastric pains because she wasn't eating right and she was stressed over the exams.. I decided to get her a pack of antacids to clear the gastric.. i included a nice letter to go with it. I wanted to give it to her after our morning lecture.. however, while i was walking towards her.. she saw me and give me that killer smile again.. i panicked and just threw the whole package at her... sad to say.. it hit her face cause she wasn't aware that i was going to throw anything at her... I felt so stupid after that...
But she did send me a thank you message afterwards... I feel very hopeless...
Arghhhhh!!!! Before i could message her online she already message me first... chatting with her online now!!! Talking about the past semester in school... What should i do? What should i say to ask her out!!!!!??????
Finished talking to her online already.. and i still have not asked her out... how come with other girls i don't have a problem asking them out or even flirting with them... but with her i can't do it... very frustrating!!!
>>120 You're afraid. Afraid that if you screw up, you'll lose her forever. You're in sence are comfortable in the relatationship you have with her. That's why kiddo.
on another note, I'm still single and have always been.
Single and lonely here.. --;
Remember guys that all those missed chances will come back and haunt you when you're about to do anything similar again. Live and learn and all that.
I'm gay, and I fell in love with a straight guy. Again. This is really fucking me up.
>>126 Alcohol + a nice stary night and..who knows |_|
You will need a lot of alcohol to make a straight guy gay for the night
why is it that I keep attracting gay guys? its hardly something I desire for. I could do with some attracting the nice girls. I need to change something about my personality, I guess. Perhaps make more dumb comments like 'check THAT ass,' or 'I could bang HER.' Personally, I'd go for 'Wow, those are some hefty supply curves over there... That's gonna raise some serious demand! (uhuh uhuh uhuh...)'
But seriously, I need to get rid of the gay-vibes.... without becoming an asshole.
Hey, lately I've been going through something very strange. I guess I'm just feeling desperate but, I really want some physical contact with the other gender, even a hug would suffice. It's been like a little more than half a year or something. Maybe it's always been there, but I've been going to a new school where I don't have too many friends so that may be a factor. Does this ever happen to you, where you just need a hug?
I'm tired :(
>>130
I felt that way for about a week this college term. Now I don't care about the physical contact as much as emotional contact. Age = years without girlfriend.
>>133
Same here... but I had friends who were girls and it was nice to do stuff with them... mainly stupid stuff like grocery shopping or cooking or just walking around with them. I guess, it's where I get my "fix."
So there is this girl and like, I like her.
I asked her out, and she said no.
However that was a month or two ago.
It sucks to know girls only in your class and that albino girl across the street.
Damn :(
Isn't it very usual to know people only in those places where you usually are? >>135?
No, like, there isn't much to choose from.
I don't really seek for a girlfriend right now. But I do think it would be wonderful to have one.
Can anyone tell me how do I know if someone had crush on me?
If we knew the answer to that question, we wouldn't be here complaining about being single.
>>138
Well, if you had one, most likely you'd find yourself liking a particular something about that person. It could be looks, or personality, but only a very shallow basis. Be objective and truthful.
Usually if the person attempts to contact you unnecessarily and asks you to hang out, they like you. For instance, if someone you meet in class asks you to study with them despite you being a complete dumbass, then most of the time, they like you. Got any specific questions? What's your situation?
There's this cute girl in one of my classes. I wonder if anything will happen. Probably not but it's always nice to consider "what if".
Have you talked to this "cute girl"? You should go for it! What can you lose?
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go for it
So I herd this was a singles rant thread...
yeah all of us mostly i think ＿|￣|○
ugh. theres someone i'm completely in love with, but for certain reasons (damn sexual orientation) i can never have. i thought i was starting to get over him, but i saw him today. it was only for about 30 seconds. and, yeah, i'm really not over him.
>>148 You and I have the same situation! And the weird part is, I have a boyfriend.
yuka, how long have you been with this new guy? maybe its not too late to go back to the one you love?