I'm currently writing a sort of thesis on the Hikikomori. I haven't been to Japan for quite some time now but well does anyone want to volunteer some information?
Can it be the Educational system that caused this or can it stem from just Agoraphobia...Social Phobia? I've suffered from Social Phobia myself and I quite understand what it feels like but...anyway if you people would like to volunteer some info plz reply? I'd be glad.
I wanted to do my essay on something related to Japan I guess...
how old are you now? I'm just curious. Are you an actual hikki or just a bit reclusive?
>>100 a reasonable metric for determining this is whether you bottle or not. If you bottle, you might be a hikikomori.
>>100 You have to stop wasting time and your years and just go out there. Of course you are obviously going to seem awkward at first, but hey -- that's how it works. There is no magic way you are going to go out there and be the most social person in the world.
And remember everyone has problems. Being a self-victim and doing nothing will result in nothing. Do something big and make your life change.
>>107
HEH!!! But...actually u are right. That's why I feel so useless to be like one and tries to not to become like this any more....
It's kinda slow start...but I just hope that I can contribute something to the world, for good!
Such a shame that kids in the west found out about the hikikomori phenomenon in Japan. Now so many of them suddenly think that their shut-in existence is really the same thingm and now it's justified in their minds as a completely valid lifestyle just because it sort of resembles something else in a completely different culture. It even gives their entitled, hand-fed existence a kind of solemn dignity. Would rather sit in your room and fap 3 times a day to anime porn, fail school and complain about your parents failure to raise you than actually TRY at anything? That's okay! You're just a misunderstood genius and that it's everyone else who needs to change, not you.
BARF!
>>109
Wrong! Hikkikomori phenomenon didn't happens only in Japan but actually spreads to the rest Asian country (including my country!).
It's all due the fact that humans began to enjoy higher living status (means that we are living far more comfortable than before). This sort of "comfortableness" began to infest humans' habits thus this kind of phenomenon emerges.
Also, I don't want to blame but some parents are sometimes are too
protective thus making us believe that it is better u just stay at home if don't want to get bullied or some other nasty things (some Asian culture prefers it).
Westerners should be proud for not having this phenomenon in critical status yet but ya know...the persuasive power of media is powerful...
>>108 Nobody ever suggested that was the case with hikikomori either though. In the case of hikikomori, the person is still a shut-in loser, not a genius.
>>110
A person who failed to make his body moved is NOT genius at all =.=.
and this will degrade my health and stamina as well....
I really want to go out now....
(this poster just having a sport day and having a marathon until he finds out he is extremely not fit at all!)
>>78
Hi Otaku hikki!. I don´t think you should worry about your age to re-start school or university. There are many people who stop studying for different reasons and then they come back and feel great. I knew a woman that finished high-school being about 70 (she has been a housewife all the previous time) and now she goes to university!. She´s definitely an example of courage and self-conviction.
You could also find a group of people with the same problems that you have (probably not at university but in other place). Or at least find some internet community...that´ll help a lot to share your feelings and to know you aren´t the only one suffering from that.
Best wishes for you!. Regards from Argentina :)
AUGH WE DEFINITELY NEED A HIDE BUTTON SO I DON'T HAVE TO WANT TO GOUGE MY EYES OUT EVERYTIME I SCROLL THE PAGE BECAUSE I SEE "HIKKIKOMORI" OR WORSE "HIKKI" ALL OVER THE PLACE GODFUCKINGDAMNIT
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ahhh!!
The world wasn't made for you y'know. It would be easier if you did gouge your eyes out or perhaps just ignore it?
I stayed in my room for about two years.
I'd never been very socialy confident, and after a bunch of traumatic stuff happened i became very mistrustful of people and very anxious about going places like malls, social gatherings, etc, even about phonecalls. It was always anxiety before i did something, even though i would mostly be fine while i was out shopping or talking on the phone etc. But the anxiety just became worse and worse, and i felt that nobody cared about me, dealing with other human beings in any way became stressful, and i started going places less and less, and didnt' feel relaxed uneless i was in my room, away from everyone, safe from all things which could cause me stress.
It became worse as time passed; anytime i went outside became more stressful and unpleasant than it had previously been because i had been avoiding it, and because people noticed and commented like 'oh, you went outside?!' which made me feel bad about myself and highlighted my problem. So i avoided it even more.
But my peace couldn't last forever. I became progressively more and more stressed out about the amount of time i was wasting; the need to make a life for myself, start a career etc. Finaly it was more stressful to stay in my room and do nothing than to go out and start studying etc. It was hard at first to resume a normal life, nad i had to do it slowly, but i managed. It's still a bit stressful sometimes to be around people, but im mostly over it.
>>117
I´m glad to know that and congrats for being brave enough to face all the situation. I´m sure you´ll find people that are worth being with and that understand you. Being different from what the society expects is hard but necessary in my opinion. Majorities aren´t always right (most of the times they aren´t,lol). Greetings :)