Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
I'm not taking over advantage, we hang out and go out to concerts, but other than that it's just that, Alot of the guys tell me it's whats in the inside that counts not the outside, when i heard those words it sounded really nice, I guess there are still gentlemen in this world.
If the guys are jumping through hoops to be your friend, then they have romantic interest. They are just too scared to ask you out.
>>450
joking ask each one of them if they want to go out with you and look at their reaction.
>>450
Most if not all of them want to go out with you, but they missed any signals you might have sent or they don't want to risk scaring you off.
>>450 Seriously, the only reason they don't seem to have romantic interest is because they're literally terrified to show interest only to be shot down and then feel really awkward & creeped out around you in the future for having ever asked...
If you asked one of them to go out with you sometime, I mean, seriously asked them, I can almost guarantee you'll get a reaction, as their face lights up, and their fear goes away, at finally being able to see that you're not going to shoot them down or treat them like a creep for asking!
(That's single guys' worst fear, in my opinion... We try to be friends, but we're afraid to take that final step in saying something, for fear of now being regarded forevermore as a creep!)
I came back from college and I didn't manage to ask anyone out. I came close, but only when I was drunk-- when I became sober, I was extremely awkward. It made me feel horrible.
Now I'm back in this room where I spent four years jacking off. I'm already forgetting what my female friends looked like. I feel like I failed somehow.
>>457
I feel like I failed somehow, too, in the very same way. I still have something like 2 weeks though. Maybe then...
Hehe, like I believe that.
I'm single and too lazy to read the whole thread. can anyone give me a summary?
>>459
rant rant rant rant
rant doubt rant
advice rant rant rant counseling rant
rant rant rant
rant
lol, >>460 changed the structure with that post, though. here's the updated version.
>rant rant rant rant
>rant doubt rant
>advice rant rant rant counseling rant
>rant rant rant
>meta rant
Ok my question is.. How in the hell would a asian guy get a white female in a majority white population?!
It's impossible >.< because I'm an asian guy with interest in white females :/ but, yet it feels like none of them are attracted to me and/or I don't know how to approach them. Hell, what's even sadder is that I am able to approach middle age or old ladies and have a conversation with them.. yet, I have a hard time forming a sentence with a attractive girl :/
>>462
You sound like a fob.
Piece of advice: Stay away from white girls if you don't know how to handle them. Seriously, most of the ones who seem like they show interest in you will use you for what it's worth and then dump you like there's no tomorrow. You'll go in with a full wallet and heart intact, and come out with an empty and broken one. Also, fobs seem to be notoriously dense at reading signals. They don't seem to understand that even if a white girl outrageously flirts with them, they only think of you as a "friend". Some of them don't mean it, but most do it for the sake of it. It's in their nature.
So how did bruce lee get one? Not enough chinese to go around back then in the states ?
There seem tobe more asian girl with white guys then asian guys with white girls.
He got one by being totally sweet.
>>462
i like asian guys, you should call me.
i mean, you'd have to find out my number and everything, but it's worth a shot.
I just met this girl I had a crush on 5 years ago. I thought I was over her, but when I saw her again, a whole wave of feelings literally rushed back and smacked me in the face. But I dunno if I should call her. I feel like these are just old feelings just messing with my mind, but then again by gauging the events of the night, I may have been given a second chance.
She is transferring to my college, she is rooming in my sister’s old roommate and of course she is prettier than ever. But she may have a boyfriend but I am not 100% sure.
I feel like I have a second chance, but I also feel like that someone just wants to see me suffer..
I could use some help, really.
do it
it is incredibly scary
but god when it turns out exactly how you imagined it
things can't get any better
you have nothing to lose, go for it.
It is not the fact that I am afraid of calling her, well I am a little, but will it be waste of my time to pursue this? Can I expect anything to really happen from this?
Alright I gave her a call a few hours ago.
For clarification let me add a quick backstory:
My sister and one of her roommates, Hannah, were graduating from college (we all go to the same school). My sister decided to hire my band to play at the party because she wanted some good CHEAP entertainment. We played a few acoustic sets at local coffee shops and played two full shows at local clubs. We mainly play for fun but we don't mind the money we get from the shows. While playing our second or third song I saw her walk by the band and we made obvious eye contact. She smiled and waved, while I nodded and lost the beat for a second (I play drums and bass during the acoustic sets). We played two sets the first 45 minutes, the second 30 minutes set with a 15 minute break between the two. During the break, that is when we got to talking. She told me about how she is transferring to my college and is rooming with her friend from high school, who happens to be the sister of Hannah who also stayed with them in the apartment. She moved from my town and moved to Hannah's befriend her and her sister. I thought life couldn't get any better, but then this guy Greg shows up and she introduces him as her friend. I noticed the entire night Greg would hover around her but never touched unless they bumped into each other. We finished playing the second set and everything went well. As an encore we played some songs from our acoustic set for a small group of people left, she and Greg were among them. I was able to use my singing voice for "Under the Bridge" by RHCP. After that we packed up and left, and we exchanged numbers as I headed out the door.
When I called her, she told went on for like 5 minutes how good we were (she is a real chatterbox). We talked about old times and what happened after she moved away. She told me how she is moving in this Wednesday so she can start summer classes next week. I asked her if she wants to get lunch then and she happily accepted.
I guess things are going well, but I am still not sure about Greg. I still think that they are dating, but they show no signs of it, and she did introduce him as her friend. Aside from that I guess things are going well. I will let you know how Wednesday turns out.
oh jesus
she introduced him as a friend.
they didn't touch at all.
she HAPPILY ACCEPTED lunch
MAKE YOUR MOVE
GO FOR IT
GOOD THINGS ARE HEADED IN YOUR DIRECTION
(i'm so excited)
>>472 whoa, why all the paranoia? The point is, they are not dating and if they are, they are (which is impossible) awfully cold to each other.
Greg might be stuck in the friend zone. either way go for it!
467> it's been 2 days since u've called her. any updates?
Cuuuute
Today was one of the greatest days of my life.
Sounds like someone has a new story to tell. Go ahead and tell it, we are ready to defend against shelling.
>>478
We want details, you bastard!
yeah details would be good!
Sorry for the lack of updates, I have been busy with life
The night before I decided to go to sleep early so I could get a good night’s rest. However, I was so nervous that I couldn’t sleep until very late or very early, depending on your perspective. Since I was so tired, I over slept and have a few minutes to get ready for work. I quickly showered, brush, didn’t have time to shave, and ran out the door to grab the bus to the lab where I work. But since I was behind schedule, I just missed the bus. And I forgot to mention, it was raining. After waiting 10 minutes for another bus, I got to the lab finding out that there is a contaminant in the HPLC. After about 4 hours of cleaning the machine, I was finally able to go to lunch.
I met up with her at a pizza shop on the main street of campus. It is small place that has an indie/college vibe to it, but is the best place to get pizza on campus. I showed up about 5 minutes late and was already seated. She looked a bit anxious, probably worried if she was in the wrong place. As soon as she saw me, her face lit up and she greeted with a smile and witty remark on how I should tell time.
For about the first 5 minutes we talked about the generic, boring stuff, like how her day has been, what is good to order, if she is enjoying her new apartment and if she needed any help. Soon, we were talking about old times, friends and places. She was a little shocked about how some of our old mutual friends have changed in the course of 5 years while others are virtually the same. We then talked about what happened after she left. She went on how she went to her new school and did not know a single person. The first person she met was one of her, I guess current roommates, and they met because she asked her where 1 classroom was and she happened to be in the same class at the same time. But one thing I find remarkable about her is that she is very nice, friendly, just amazing personality. And by talking to her, even it is for like 5 minutes, is that she can turn the worse day in the world in to the best. She went on how she soon became very active socially in high school, making a lot of friends, working on the yearbook and newspaper, as well as being very active around her community by volunteering and such. She also explained why she transferred. She wants to psychology and our school’s psychology program is one of the best in the state. She is also pre-med and we do have a nice medical school for her to look at.
Then she asked me what I did after she left. I was hesitant at first; I mean do I really want to admit was Captain of our Science Olympiad and Academic Decathlon teams? After her persuasion, though, I did tell her about those activities. She was delightfully impressed about it though but was curious to know how I can be a nerd-musician. She knew I played the drums; I started before I met her. I explained that I picked up the bass junior year of high school and I have been playing the guitar for about a year. I told her I no where near a master in all of those instruments and I only play as a hobby and the occasionally rent money. But again she was delightfully impressed by my talents. I felt uncomfortable about the attention being focused on me, so I switched the conversation back to her.
When the check came, I didn’t realize that the waitress didn’t split it and I paid it with my credit card, and essentially paying for the both of us. She objected to my paying, and (jokingly) complained it is the 2007 and how women are capable of paying for there on food. Rather than accept her money or allow her to pay if we went out again, I told her to think about it as a house-warming present. We left the restaurant a little more than a hour since I got there. We stood in front on the sidewalk making our awkward goodbyes and she asked if we can do it again sometime. I told her next Tuesday, there is a nicer place down the street where we can eat, but they are more of a dinner place than lunch. She said it would be fine and she can pay for her own meal, unless it is too expensive then I can handle the bill :-). I wanted to hug her or something, but I was too scared to make a move, so I just said bye and headed back to work.
oh god so cute.
i am happy. look how good this is turning out.
you guys have a dinner date now!
aaaah!
good luck!
(i can't wait til tuesday.)
sounds promising. good luck and dont forget to give an update after tues!
Quick update:
Saturday, a bunch of my high school friends "kidnapped" and took me to the beach this weekend. It was good to spend time with old friends.
Dinner is tomorrow, I told her to meet me there around 7:30. I have a fair idea what I am going to talk about, but I still feel like I am storming a Omaha beach with an empty gun. So I would gladly take any advice.
oh man I can't wait for the next update! 467 is making me believe in love again! ~_~
Where are you eating? What are you wearing? Tell meee~ !
>>486
We want the Details!
Sorry for the lack of an update, I was going to update as soon as I got back, but my laptop decided not to work. So I am now stuck to using a public computer until I get mine fixed.
Tuesday started amazing but I say it ended badly. Work was slow and it was easy for me to leave early. I left work around 4 and went back home and decided to go a run. I was really nervous and I had to work out some excess energy out of me. So around 6 I started to get ready. Showered, shaved, and put some cologne on. I am not a cologne person but my roommate insisted. Polo Black what it was called and I must admit, it wasn't that bad. I wore stripped collared shirt and some dark jeans with black shoes. I drove by her place around 7, (actually 7:07, I left a little late), knocked on her door and she opened it with a yellow and black top, kind of swirling together, with a black skirt. My first reaction was DAMN, but I greeted her with a studdered hello.
The resturant was about a 5 minute drive from her place, not too far and it is really nice and the price isn't too bad either. At first we talked about each other's weekend. She just stayed in town, went shopping with her roommate, watched a movie and basically just explored town. I told her about my impromptu beach trip and she was excited that I was naming names she once knew. After that we just had a crazy conversation with the topic changing like 15 times and we some how found a transition between all of them. I believe we started out how I attempted to surf and ended up talking about Van Goegh. And in between we would toss in a joke, like how I showed her what I did at work with bread and oil. I showed her "Plate Chromotography." Obviously she is not as nerdy as me to get the joke, but she laughed at my attempt and just general silliness of the situation (that was the worse of them, I am not that bad at telling jokes).
We were at the resturant a good 3 hours before we realize it may be time to leave. About 30 minutes later we actually decided to leave. Time just flew by, I cannot even still imagine that we were there for that long.
I was deciding to take her to get some ice cream but since it was past 11, I decided to take her home. And here when things got bad. As I was walking up her up to her door, I was debating with myself if I should kiss her goodnight and both sides had really convincing arguements. When we reached her door, the tension in the air skyrocketed. She told me that she is having a house warming/ birthday party for her roommate Mona and that I should come. I told her I have to think about it since I am going home home to spend 4th of July with my family and that I am leaving Sunday. She said that is fine but I should try to come even just for a little bit. At that point it became deafly quiet with only the slight sound of traffic and crickets muffled in the background. We were both staring at each other, it was like nothing else except for us exisited. I leaned in slightly and with my lips, I whispered "goodnight."
I think a sailor would be upset at the amount of swearing I shouted out on my drive back to my house. I told my roommate about what happend and got my laptop and then it broke. I dropped the biggest F-bomb to hit North America. I am still a bit upset but I calm down a bit. My roommate told me that I should have kissed her, but it is no loss just so long as I do it on our next date. He also told me something really surprising: he has a crush on Mona. They are friends, not good friends, but they will hang out on occasion. I told him about the party and he insisted that WE should go. (I was going to ask y'all if I should go, but I guess I figured that out).
Wednesday, I told everyone in my lab and they said I should have kissed her. The bass player in my band called and told me I should have kissed her, I swear, everyone and there mother told them I should have kissed her.
But next time I will see her is Saturday and then I will be gone for the week. I was thinking, at the party I would ask her out for date for next Saturday, when I get back. Set it up where the mood is right and then kiss her. Or should, if I get the chance, kiss her at the party?
Oh she also just called me too. Asking about the party situation. I told her, my roommate and I will stop by for a bit, but I cannot stay for long because I have to drive in the morning. She doesn't sound upset, so I guess I am safe. But I cannot allow a mess up like that happen again.
betcha she was very disappointed, but definitely kiss her at e party when u get the chance!
Just want to give a quick update. The party is tonight, supposely it is going to be around 20 people and suppose to be pretty chill. If I get the chance, I will kiss her but I cannot make any promises I can get her alone. My roommate is coming to "spit his game" with Mona, but also to run interference with the party go-ers so we have a little bit of privacy
Tomorrow I am heading for home for the week to celebrate the 4th with my family. It has been 25 years since my parents moved to the US so they want to do something special. A lot of family, a lot of food, and a lot of fun. I should be back next Saturday. So you have to wait at least a week to see if I got a kiss or not (no internet at my parent's place, sorry).
Have a good week all, and Happy 4th of July.
For a rant thread, there aren't that many rants by singles lately...
Well, I've got nothing to do on the 4th of July. I wanted to at least watch some fireworks, but I have no idea if there'll be any in my town, or if it'll be in the next town over, which I won't be able to get to due to lack of transportation.
It's depressing, really. I don't have anyone who'd go with me anyway, as my friend who I've usually hung around with on Independance Day has a boyfriend now, so she's probably going to some resturaunt with him. My other friend lives a little too far for me to go there, and her family's having a barbeque that day, so she can't come here. I'd go to NYC to see fireworks(trains go there every hour from where I live, even in the middle of the night, and the train station's within walking distance from where I live), but I'd rather not go there by myself. Even my family lacks motivation to do anything. My parents are moving to a new house soon, so they're too busy packing things to think about doing anything on the 4th.
My motivation to enjoy life's slowly draining away. I need to save my money, so I can't spend it on anything this summer. I'd like to do a lot of things, like go to the beach once, go to an amusement park, visit NYC, meet up with some old friends, but as the weeks go by at my summer job, I come home too tired to do anything. All I do is eat, work, watch anime, and sleep. I wish I could do something more productive this summer. Really, you're only young once. I'd like to have fond memories of my youth when I grow old, but if things keep going as they are, I'm just going to grow old regretting being alive at all, because I never really did anything special.
I guess I'm just antsy. I'm gonna try and call up some old friends of mine tomorrow, maybe, just to get out of this lifeless slump I'm in.
Why not, I'll join in on a good rant... I'm 26 and still being in the same boat of feeling like you're only young once... And I just about 3 weeks ago broke up with the first person I've really cared about, but who was just toying with having a relationship, and didn't really want one... Right before my company 4th of July picnic at a nearby amusement park/waterpark, which I'd planned on taking her to (and at the time, she'd said she'd love to go)...
Now I've basically got no reason to go to the picnic, but yet I'm on the volunteer planning committee for the picnic, so I have to go... Which makes for a wonderful day of sitting alone watching everyone else and their significant others and/or families having fun with each other at the park... Like I don't already get enough of seeing people holding hands & everything in public constantly at every store & place I go...
I planned on watching some 4th of July fireworks as well, but I just have no drive right now for much of anything... No real reason to be interested... I've got a convention with some friends coming up, and did hang out with a friend last night that I haven't seen in a couple weeks, but I still feel really down... I just feel like there's no point in doing much of anything lately...
(As this is a singles rant thread, at least it's only the 4th of July, not Valentines Day... My most loathed of all holidays... All that makes me think of is how, when in Elementary School, teachers made every child make boxes to hold valentines cards, and how every child bought valentines for every other child in the class, but when Jr. High and beyond came along... People realized they no longer had to, and that's when if you weren't popular or liked, you never got anything again... You were the one who had to put up with watching everyone else find roses in their lockers all around you & things like that... At least on the 4th of July, the fireworks aren't near as bad of something to sit out alone;
well fireworks would be very romantic for couples, but it's also nice to watch it with friends.
>>464
i m really looking forward to your update!I m already clutching my fist while typing with my nuckles here
ah typo it's 467 not 464. sorry
This is >>494 speaking.
You're actually a lot luckier than you give yourself credit for. Sure your significant other's now your ex, but now more than ever you've gotta count your blessings. After all, unlike me, you've still got the chance to hang around other people and socialize on the 4th. It might not be Valentine's Day, but it's still depressing to spend any holiday by yourself. Enjoy your company picnic to the best of your ability, okay? Have fun with your co-workers, and stay positive. If not for yourself, for all those people who don't have anyplace to go that day.
I know what you mean about being annoyed with people holding hands and whatnot. My best friend invited me to hang out with her college friends(we go to different colleges) and her boyfriend for her birthday, and it was the worst day I ever had. There were five people including me. There was my best friend, her boyfriend, and another couple. It felt like I was intruding on a double date the entire time. My friend wasn't very considerate at all; she kept kissing and hugging her boyfriend. After mini-golfing for a while, we went to her boyfriend's house for cake, and they just rolled all over his basement floor making out the entire time, for hours upon hours. I sware, people have no modesty these days! It's like they were practically about to have sex in front of me. I don't mind kissing or holding hands, but please, there's a limit!
Don't get me wrong, I love my friend to bits, but she gets on my nerves sometimes. The thing is, though, we've been friends since we were kids, so even though I hate how much she loves her public displays of affection, I want to support her, because it's her first relationship, and your first relationship is the one you always remember. Whether it was good or bad, you'll always remember it.
i know how you feel...each and everyday, everywhere..all the time i only see ppl holding hands, together hugging kissing...and i pity you, it's bad enough ppl that you don't know, but your case...oh god...it's going to turn ur mind around.but still live on and stay strong.good luck
500 get
hello.
for all of you single ranters, perhaps i can make you feel better - misery loves company?
i am turning 28 shortly. i have never had a girlfriend. i have never kissed a girl. i am obviously still a virgin. i am not gay, or bi - i really am attracted to girls. the girls i have liked in the past have not felt the same way about me.
somehow, i am always giving advice to friends. they go through the trials and tribulations of love and i am there for them. i have been told that i am a good shoulder to cry on. but i never cry on anyone else's shoulder. in fact, i never used to cry. but i find myself crying often these days.
i am unemployed, and seemingly unable to find work. the only reason i am not living at home is because my parents have done well and bought me an apartment. but this only makes me feel worse - the stigma of living at home is pretty bad, but try being a spoiled loser? even sillier is feeling bad about feeling bad, because there are a lot of people who are plenty worse off in the world.
all of this makes me want to put myself out there even less. there are a billion red flags in there. but how can i find love if i can't step outside and look?
at least i can sit here and cheer you guys on.
Congrats! clapclap
>502
It must really suck to be unemployed.D: Your first goal should be to get a job. Baby steps, you know?
what 502 said was right,get a job;then maybe u'll find someone you like at your workplace =D
How can you not find work? If you need a job,you will work anywhere you can. Suck in your pride and flip them hamburgers. I rather work at a shitty job than be unemployed.
Hey everyone, I am back from my little holiday.
Saturday, my roommate and headed to the party around 10ish. Rather than ringing the doorbell, we just walked in and saw about 20 or so people just around the apartment in little groups talking. As we shyly entered, heads glanced over toward us as my roommate and I tried to make sense of all the faces. Immediately someone grabs me from behind and asks "Guess who?" It was quite obvious who it was and I just played along for a bit. I introduced to her to my roommate and then she took us along introducing us to people. As I said before, this was a birthday party and a house warming party. Most of the guest where Mona's friends since they were on or near campus. They had a few mutual friends, but there also a few guest from her hometown/old college there. They were in a little group in the corner just chatting away when she introduced us. There were two guys and two girls. the girls and one of the guys I have never met, and the other guy, well it was Greg.
I remember the advice you gave and rather feel threatened by him, I tried to be very friendly with him. I started to talk with him and he and his friends decided to spend the weekend there and just party. I asked him where he was staying and he pointed to the ground and said, "right here" I offered him and his friend to come over to our place, we have an extra bed and a futon and they were more than happy to stay with us for the night, and throwing in how he should let the girls have the place to themselves. They said they would consider it.
While I was talking to Greg, my girl, Allison (by the way, I am not using real names just in case someone I know finds out about this), was mingling, making sure everyone was comfortable. I was fine with that because me and Greg were just getting along. He is a pretty nice guy, smart too. I think I really did overreact my first meeting with him. Allison came back and sneaks her way underneath my arm and also gives a me a drink (I didn't ask for one). So any doubt of her liking me was quickly erased at that point. We chatted with Greg for a bit longer, and then we went over to my roommate and Mona (I thought my roommate needed my help, but he was quite fine on his own). I had dragged Allison away from the two and it took her a good while to figure out why. Me and Allison went around the room and talked a all the little groups, there was even a group out on the balcony.
Here when life gets great. We were talking to the group when midnight was strolling by. A few of them had to go home, while others went inside to talk to other people. So it was it was just me and Allison on the balcony, alone with a night sky in front of us. I also love my roommate, he saw us two alone and comes over and shuts the door say "man there are too many bugs getting in here." Then for a little bit, we just rested on the railing of the balcony and just talked. She made a comment about the stars being bright, which reminded me of The Beatles song "And I lover her" which has a line "bright are the stars that shine" and suddenly struck with the urge to kiss her. It was quite literally a primal grip of my soul. I gazed into her eyes and she stared back. With no words spoken on my part, I just leaned in and gave her a kiss on the lips.
God I have a pretty good rant.
Ok, so I have had a crush on this guy named Zac (not real name) for maybe the better half of two years. Not continually, but yeah pretty much on and off. So about 2 weeks ago I call it quits. I say to him, nonchalantly, that I am pretty much done with him. This was while I was over his house, and not surprisingly he was fine with it, since I was pretty sure he wasn't interested in me anyway. Well, that same week, we decided to go to a movie. We also went ice skating, both did with other friends present. It was an ok time, nothing special happened or anything. We then go see the movie, we talk about how awesome it is and all.
He then springs a question on me, asking if it's ok if he comes over that night. Well, of course I am thinking, great, we're just friends now. I invite another friend, he doesn't seem to care. We are all sitting in this pitch black room, and i am sitting with my legs kind open. I then feel someone lay in between them, and it is Zac. Of course I have no problem with this, though I am confused. We eventually get up, go to bed, next day comes. We slept in the same bed, turns out, but nothing seems to have happened. He asks to stay ANOTHER night. I am cool with this. That night was very odd. He lays down beside me, on the same bed, really close laying in the oppisite direction. Then he switches direction. Now we are laying right side by side sharing a small pillow. He then turns his body to match mine, and we are spooning. Out of nowhere. I put my arm around him and he doesn't say anything. I start kinda caressing his neck and all. We fall asleep like that, and it's one of the best nights I have ever had.
That sounds normal for a couple right? Well, this is right after I tell him that I don't like him anymore. I don't understand, and I have a feeling I am being fucked with. Long story short, I am confused and still single. Life sucks.
You live on your own already? Assuming you do and are around twenty but probably older.
Frigid Onanoko no see problem with you being together like this since you both appear to enjoy. However it problematic the way you communicate to each other. If you continue saying there is nothing between you, then the verity of your words will wear off. He and your friends will think you are talking nonsense and unable to understand your own situation. Better be cool about it and maintain that you still are close to each other, something like that. That way, you no need to keep up appearances.
All you did when saying you through with him is that you no feel obligations to stay with him. I.e. when you find another guy, there no problem to fall in love with him. Until then, why not enjoy company of Zac(s body)? However, don't get lazy, don't get complacent with the situation. If you no take proper distance from him, at least mentally, then perhaps you find it hard to fall in love with another guy since your heart is still anchored to Zac.
Finally, if you intend on finding new boyfriend, then most likely the closeness of Zac will turn him off, because usually boys look for girl only, not girl and competition attached. Letting Zac around you so closely will make it more difficult to get guys interested in you.
Frigid Onanoko, saying bye! (why don't you bite him? when you do, say its because he such bad boyfriend!)
He just wants to sleep with you. He is sleeping in your bed, it is just at matter of time before he whips his dick out. Create space with him and if you like him TAKE IT SLOWLY. So far he has only shown concerned with taking off your pants.
He is awesome. In all sense of the word.
Funny, good-looking, athletic, full of surprises.
You wouldn't know it from just looking at him.
I can't help but smile when I see his face.
He ticks literally all my boxes. Which is a first, because I'm such a picky bitch.
How can one person be so awesome?
usually when people are unemployed it is because they dont realize that they need to apply everywhere all at once and many times and call the places back. it shows that you are truely interested in working and it never hurts if you get more call backs after already having a job. if the call back is better then switch jobs and if it's not the people aren't going to get to upset if you say no. another issue is getting out of the rut of how much you want to be making and how much the job pays. anypay is better than no pay.
depression guys. IT ISN'T GOING AWAY. ( ' A ` ; )
Hi guys. 18 years old here.
My problem is I'm still madly in love with my ex-girlfriend. We broke up two years ago and I haven't been able to get over her.
I have friends that keep me company, but they can only do so much, and I feel awkward opening up to them about anything... Because it usually ends up with them not knowing what to say. They're not really compassionate guys, I guess.
So, I turn to the internet.
I just can't shake the feeling that she was the one for me. We both had a unique sense of humour that no one else around us really got. She's one of the very few people I've ever met that I could fully put my trust in. She's kind to most people around her, regardless of who they are. She may not be the most good-looking person to the average eye, but to me she is beautiful. She just has a radiance around her that makes everyone love her. Some of my happiest memories are of her.
I've looked and looked, but I can't seem to find anyone out there that even comes close to her level. It feels like she is irreplaceable, and I'd be better off trying to get back together with her than go looking for other girls.
Breaking up with her messed me up, but after 2 years I'm finally feeling better. I have a decent job, I'm a lot more outgoing(I used to waste my life on MMORPGs..) and I'm feeling quite better in general. The only thing missing is a relationship, and when I think about that, she's all I can think of.
I'm ready to try again. I'll lose the weight I put on while I was depressed over her. I want to do all the things we never did before and tell her all the things I never did before, but wanted to. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to make it work this time. I want to live without regretting at least trying.
Is this a good idea, 4ch? Is reigniting old love possible?
>>514
She dumped you, right? If you dumped her or it was mutual, you'd be over her by now. She isn't irreplacable. Billions of women out there. Why you're busy feeling sorry for yourself they're happily finding other partners and you're cold and lonely. You know what you have to do, so do it.
Hey everyone. I'm at sophomore year of college now. My problem isn't that I'm desperate for a girlfriend-- I'm feeling a little better this year, and I'm always meeting new people. My problem is that I don't really know what to say to people I met last year, and everything is either awkward on my part, or it seems like they want to get out of my presence! Consider this conversation, either way:
Just needed to let off some steam.
>>516
your just making the opposite person feel awkward as fuck...instead of just saying hi, why dont you say something like 'hey where the hell have you been?'.....a way lot easier to respond to than just a vague 'hi'
>>516
You got to search for a something in common and talk around that. Hard at first, but with a little practice this becomes really easy. Avoid cliches: "So what do you do in your spare time" because it sounds corny as hell. Don't say "Hey did you see Matrix 3!" because she might think it sucks. Avoid talking too much about you, talk about her. Openers like "hey, love your outfit" but whatever you say be genuine. If it sucks, don't tell her its great. Slickest stuff is when you get her talking about her hopes, dreams, what she wants to do and where she wants to go, but for starters be general about stuff you're both likely to have in common. If you haven't done much living, can be tough because you don't have much to talk about, but trust me: once you start, it gets much easier. Just relax.
>>518 I have a similar problem, I can't complement someone unless it's something I really respect and fashion is not one of them, in fact it's mostly "geeky" things that give my complements.
my problem is that my hobbies/interests aren't popular to discussing with others mostly because i like to keep parts of my life private (out of necessity not going to expand).
the main thing i share in common with most people is drugs and movies :\ and im not an artfag so i don't really get pretentious and start "analyzing" the film, etc. so i can't really hold a discussion with that. usually i have some sort of project im working on that is incredibly boring if you are not me (like figuring out how to setup a certain type of server).
idk i just don't click with most people i meet. tips?
I'm going to be in college this in few days as a freshmen. I know I will meet more new people, but I always seems to be not talkative. Like when I meet someone new, I can't be always the one to start a convo. Like what do you say when you meet someone new?
>>520
"Hi! What major are you in/are thinking about doing? How're classes going so far?" That's what I usually say to new people in college. It brings something to the table to talk about, and you can drift from there to other topics. It's a start at least.
well, I'm now a fresh man in university.
Thanks to my choice of being in Computer Engineering I only come in contact with males during my daily life (its like a 20 to 1 ratio m:f ), of course, I'm really happy to hang around my male friends, but man , I'm 20 and with the workload we got, I can already see myself getting my masters at the age 26 with the same life I have now, only with more white hair strands.
Meeting with girls, getting a girlfriend, or even in further future, marriage, I don't ever see myself in that picture.
sorry, I had to whine a little.
>>522 You'd have some serious problems if you had white hair strands at 26... You really shouldn't be having anything like that happen until many years later...
At 20, you should hardly worry, take it from personal experience... There are lots of chances and opportunities for you...
God damn it... I want a BF before I turn 20 and it's only a few months away!
Creepiest Thread on 4-ch.
...Seriously
Tell us more 467!! How is dating situation now!?
I don't know if I like being single or not. In a way, there's so much less to worry about. But being in a relationship is nice too.
There's a girl I like, I don't know though if I want to date her or anything. Last relationship I had was kinda pseudo, I think both the feelings of both of us were obvious but I never admitted how I felt to her.
Some of my friends think there's something going on, it's been a while since I last talked to her. I don't think she really sees anything going on other than us being friends. Thing is I'm very happy just being friends with her and I'd hate to break that up by making unwanted advances.
I'm not sure what to do 4-ch, I think wait and see if any stronger feelings develop.. how does that sound?
I think you should just go ahead and wait and see what happens, 529. There's no need to pursue anything more if you're not feeling totally up to it. If you don't know if you want to date her, then you shouldn't try and change the relationship right now.
I have noticed that a lot of engineering schools always has one or two schools near it with a large female student body and that they all go to your school for the parties. Try joining a fraternity it may help your situation.
Hey 4-ch! I don't think this needs a new thread, so I'm gonna say it here...
I'm a girly, a freshman in college. Everything's really fine and dandy. There just happens to be this one guy in class I have taken a fancy to. He's really cute, pretty sweet, and just all around a kind fellow.
The first time we really spoke to each other was when he let me borrow a paintbrush from him during a class. After that I've been trying to be friendly-- to, y'know, make friends and stuff-- and say hello to him everyday. Sometimes when I look around in class, I kinda look his way and he's looking back my way. No idea if he's really looking at me but... sometimes we smile at each other. Especially when I end up waving at him.
He started talking to me a bit more, like about m glasses and stuff. Saa. I kinda like how he says my name. Eheh. Last week after one class he asked if I wanted to get lunch so we went walking around together and got something to eat before heading to our next class. I wasn't sure what to think of it-- he's probably just being friendly too, but it made me feel a little giddy. He asked the same thing today so we ate lunch together again. I'm usually a bit shy at first-- and he seems rather quiet-- but I think we're talking pretty well so far. And when we get quiet we kinda just look at each other and smile.
He also came to me and asked if I wanted help making a canvas today and ended up doing most of it for me. Eheh, my hands can be pretty weak.
So, hm, I don't know. I can't deny I'm certainly getting (or already) have a crush on the dude. But it's nothing big.. especially since it's just been a few weeks since school's even started. But I'm just wondering if he's being friendship-friendly or maybe he might be a little interested, too? I don't recall seeing him really going to eat with anyone else before.. at least not with another girl. What do you guys think?
For the meantime, I think I'm just gonna do my best to go with the flow... Things are pretty fun right now.
>>528
Good to know people actually still interested. I know it has been a while, but if you can understand, my time was spent on more important things, namely her.
Everything between me and her have been going great, just absolutely wonderful. If it wasn't for her, I would be ranting on how bad life sucks. But just even thinking about her, I feel like a million bucks. I have a full course load and actually had to stop working in the lab because I don't have enough time in the day to get any actual work done. The band has been put on hiatus because everyone is busy (though we do jam the occasional weekend). But life is just awesome with her in it. I mean, no matter how bad my day has been I can pull her into my arms, and it is like nothing else exists. Sometimes I feel like I am dreaming because I still cannot believe this is all real. I have a girlfriend.
Crap, I didn't realize that I didn't fill in the time from when I first kissed her to now. I will let know what happened (I guess you know it went well), as for now I have an exam to study for.
I think it sounds like he's trying to be extra nice and make a good impression. Good chance he's interested I reckon.
Looks like I qualify for this thread again.
HOWCAN i get a girl???????? im soo shy. HELP ME GOD.
1 Hot or cute gf is all i ask for . T_T
>>537
Chloroform.
So after that first kiss, I left the party. I was able to time it right so that I had to leave when I kissed her. Leave her wanting more. I was so damn happy with that kiss, I felt like I swam to the moon and back. I left that week for my parents home. When I came back we started to date more. At first we met like twice a week, but soon enough it was 3-4 times a week. Dinners, ice skating, picnics, basically we started to spend more and more time together. Soon enough we are dating on a regular basis. I think it was about a month ago that we she was officially my girlfriend. She asked me if I considered her as my girlfriend. I never said yes, just kissed her on the lips, she got the message. But I do introduce her as my girlfriend to my friends and peers. So thank you all for advice, but for now, this single ranting thread is over for me.
Sorry about not having more detail, I have always been press for time and since she came into my life, I always had something to do. If you really want I can give more details, but don’t expect it anytime soon.
It's not official until it's on facebook.
How???!!!! WHY!!!!!!.......So......unfair....I wanna meet someone too! wahhhhhhh=(
>>539
Clap, clap
> I never said yes, just kissed her on the lips, she got the message.
Smooth operator.
>>532
It's me again! Since I wrote that, things have gotten more friendly. Or closer. Or something.
Me and the guy I'm crushing on have been going to lunch together almost every day so far. During our last art history class he's even sat on the side of the room I sit on for once, right in front of me. I dunno if it's because of me or another classmate that he did that.
Today we went to lunch again and since we had time before we had to get back to work I brought up a song he had wanted to show me last week. He asked me to sit out in the hallway with him while we watched and listened to a video on his iPod. I asked if he wanted to see a movie sometime and he said yes so... I believe we're going to tomorrow after class, so long as nothing changes.
Saa. I'm not sure what to think of this. I guess it's friends hanging out but.. it also does seem like he's interested, huh? But it feels kinda weird and very surprising if that's the case... I mean. Me? Haa.
Still trying not to get my hopes up but... I'm enjoying where this is going.
(ｷﾀ━━━━━━(ﾟ∀ﾟ)━━━━━━ !!!!!)
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>>544
It sounds like he is interested in you, but maybe just as a friend, give more details! how was the day did you go out with him? keep informing.
>>547
Ah~! Okay! I'll keep informing them >D
So last week Tuesday, when we were suppose to go to the movies, we didn't quite make it there. Turned out he didn't have enough money in his account, so we just spent some time downtown. We sat in the park watching people skateboard for a while, talking about one of the building's across the street, 'cause it had a really cool design... Then we went to a comic book store. After looking around downstairs I told him he wouldn't be interested going upstairs 'cause it just had anime stuff and he doesn't like anime. But he said if I wanted to go, we could go up. I hadn't cared either way, but went upstairs..and blah blah. Afterwards we went to Virgin records and it was pretty fun. Aside from the black dudes outside giving out CDs and swindling people for "donations" eek.
While crossing the street, sometmes I'd hurry him along when the light was about to change and I'd hook my arm around his. He didn't seem to mind that at all...
Anyway. We soon walked all the way back to where his dorm was and I hugged him before we split ways. And he hugged back, too, of course! Then he asked if I could meet him the next day so we could go to the museum together since our drawing class had a field trip. I wasn't sure at first since I had to figure out how to get to the museum in the first place and I live uptown to begin with, but I told him we'd talk later and figure somthing out.
Sooo. After I got home and got the directions to the museum, I called him and told him where to meet me. So the next day we met and..saa. He always looks so cute. I hooked my arm around his again as we walked to the next train and I could feel him holding onto mines too, erm. However you say it. We talked some but we were mostly quiet. I'm pretty shy..and I think he's shy too.. but I don't mind it much.
At the museum we split up into groups, so I was in a group with him and some of my other friends. We were all together for a while, but eventually we broke up and me and him were on our own. It was...really nice. We were pretty much together the rest of the trip, splitting off from the class again after everyone had to join up to watch a video. We had lunch, just the two of us, and soon went back to the train. I took a picture of us togethr and everything was pretty cool~
And then that Friday... he finally sat right next to me during art history. ^^ And after class was over...he pretty much jetted out, which I'm used to by now. But he said he was really tired (it seemed like everyone went to bed mad late or something) so I didn't expect to see him again until Monday. But after I got out my english class I realised he was trying to text me to know where the class was since it moved buildings. I called him and told him it was pretty much over anyway and that we were just taking an exam that he was gonna take the next day anyway, so he didn't need to be there. I asked where he was and he said he was at a starbucks near by, so I asked if he wanted me to go and meet him. He said yes so we met up and took a walk to the park and sat on a bench watching dogs for like an hour or so. When we were ready to go, I hooked my arm around his again as we walked (I swear, I'm too shy to grab his hand-- maybe he's too shy to do the same?) and this time it stayed like that.
We saw some people filming a few blocks away so went over to see if we could get a good peek. He said they were probably doing something for the Gossip Girl. It kinda looked like it. I think. Still cool regardless. He asked if I was going to the club meeting I usually go to (whee, he remembers~) I told him I was just going to meet up with a girl friend of mine since it was canceled this week. This time when we parted it looked like he wanted to iniciate the hug, but I think I had gotten out of his reach for that, so I backed up a bit and we hugged again.
And that's all I have to report back so far... We're...really quiet together most of the time, but..he keeps coming back to me so... I guess he doesn't mind it. He said he wanted to go back to Virgin Records with me some time.. and I'm gonna ask to set up another time to see that movie. Does it seem like it's still just friendliness?
You're a pathetic waste of skin.