Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
and maybe to kill time, too. that's how i see it. XD
Everybody has a chance, even if it's only 0.000001%, take it, jump at opportunities. Densha Otoko is a good example. See, he got the opportunity and he jumped right on it. If you go out of your front door, opportunities will come your way. ;)
>>346
Hunting people is illegal in most countries.
>>353
So i'll rephrase it. Meeting people. :)
>>353
Hahahahahahaha!
Thank you for this XD
Arrrrgghhh I just had my heart broken today. And tomorrow is my final exam. YOU CAN'T STUDY FOR MATH WITH A BROKEN HEART!
I feel sorry for you.. :(
>>356
One should not need to study the day before the exam ;) better to learn things earlier
>>358
Yeah, but it's math... :(
Anyway, I feel better now, but I'm so tired and I don't have a girlfriend to poke me.
Aww. Mind if I give you a poke, then? poke ._.
Dating online does work 345, my sister met her BF on a online dating site and she plans to get married to him next year.
Unfortunately I havent had any luck -_-;
Keep holding in there!!
you'll find one sooner or later
>>361
have hope. (ugh.. what crappy lines i have...)
guys i want to go to dating sites t00, but im too lazy atm i prefer playing games....
btw plz tell me something: on the sitez is it like teh real life, where the man has to make the move, or do the women also make first contact with men on the site?
i dunno wath to do, i know in real i must make all moves but in the site i'd prefer not to do it... so i can subscribe to all dating sitez and play games while a girl finds me.
or else should i ditch anime and stuff and become a dating geek stayin all day contacting girlz fomr the site lol?
10x all
well warez otoko, for dating sites it goes both ways. I'm a girl that uses dating sites and I usually make the first move if I see a guy that I'd like to get to know.
I was always told to let guys make the first move, but waiting for them to do so is hella frustrating >_<;;
what dating sites do you use?
match.com. It's actually the best in my opininon
I randomly go to different chat sites, like myspace and stuff
Anyone here ever try okcupid?
That said, a classmate of mine randomly said "I think you're hot" to me today... I think.
To sum it up, she said it as I turned around from the whiteboard to hand her a marker. She said it so randomly that it actually took me a second to comprehend that she said "I think you're...", I walked away thinking it was unimportant and finally figure out what the last word was about 15 seconds later.
I'm the kind of person who has trouble catching comments when they're said to me out of the blue. In such situations I usually forget to say something like "pardon?" also, unless I'm in a situation where comments are really important. Thus usually when something is randomly said to me, I don't get it and just nod or something. Bad habit, I know. But what made it even more random is that I knew nothing of the girl... besides the fact that she was my classmate.
And then there's the possibility that she was talking to someone else and just happened to turn to me right then.
Anyway, perhaps it's best that I'm not sure that she said that. I wouldn't know how to respond, as I'm always at a lost when women come onto me, online or off. The only thing I can think of which doesn't sound cliched as hell and not like me is "thanks"... which sounds sort of vain.
>>370
She probably did say it to you. Say it back just as subtly, turn the tables on her. See how she reacts.
hey, a girl with balls.
sounds like the direct type. if you want to be cute, buy her a single flower and as you give it to her say, 'wanna go out?'
that is, if you want to go out with her even..?
I think the lack of female contact has created such a void that now when I starting to reintergrate with the opposite sex I begin to think any girl that spends more than 5 minutes talking to me actually likes me. Not the fact that I with her friend who happens to be my friend, not the fact that I know more about a subject than she does. Nope, I just take any positive feedback from her and over amplify it. I guess it will go away with time.
>>373
Good to see you've opened up your eyes.
I love making, just friends, with the opposite sex. I find it better to have close friends as guys and girls, instead of finding out he or she doesn't really like you the way you wish they did. Once they know, it's like awkward to be around that person. But, hey, if you find out, somehow, if they do like you, go for it! :]
My sister met her stalker, munchausen syndrome ex on okcupid. I have virtually no desire to use dating sites because of that. But yeah, the last two girls I tried going out with...ended up turning into friends shortly after they found out I was TG...and it was subtle. I didn't even realize it until they both started dating other people, lol. Kind of sad. Oh well.
Yeah, TG? Like Trans Gendered? (Cause if you are, you may be too self delusional in the first place to find a normal human being with which to have a relationship)
>>378
Oh thank you random internet person for explaining how that all works. I'm happy that you at least aren't deluded about who I am, even if I may be. One of these days I'd like for us to meet, so you can fill me in completely about who I am. Please?
i'm 18 and i've never had a girlfriend in my life. sometimes i feel like i want one and that i want the company of a girl, but over time i've cared less and less. i haven't liked a girl or felt that i've met a girl that i wanted to be with in years. i just don't care anymore. i'd like to be with somebody, but i have pretty much no desire to be with any girl i meet. hell i don't really understand girls in general. most girls just seem weird, i can't even being to expain it. i generally don't even know what to talk to most girls about because of how little i feel like i have in common with them. i don't really know what to think anymore
Actually, I would like to withdraw that last post. It was late and I was pretty frustrated with something else, but that is no excuse. I just dont understand why someone would want to do the TG thing to themselves. It probably comes from the way I was brought up, and I should know better than to make a judgment about someone I do not even know.
So, accept it or not, I am sorry.
>>381
We need more people in the world like you. Forgiven.
>>380
17 here. Not a single girlfriend in my life, although I've had my crushes and whatnot -_- . I feel alienated too when being around girls. Not that they are weird (what is normal anyway?), but I feel embarrassed or vulnerable to them. I'd like to have a girlfriend, I'd really like to :)
But being stuck in a school in whose society (friggin' Mexico!) is alert and cautious as of relationships and pairing is a real drag. I don't feel free enough to have a girlfriend if I am in that school. The "qué dirán" (what will they say) fear is really a big problem in everybody, although very few accept it. I have that fear too, but I am trying, slowly, to get rid of it. Being in Mexico's slow and sad society is a real problem for a person like me who has other projects in life :(
hi, hows it going it's been a while since i've had a boyfriend or been on a date, but i'm a fraid to go up to a guy ask him out for coffee what do i do?
i'm 19 and my birthday is saturday so i'll be going on 20 so i'm flying to california, my mother thinks i should date within my own culture while i'm over there, but i don't care who i date, see for me in the past i had never dated a mexican guy, and my mother has always brought me down alot of levels in dating, because she told she would never approved of me being with aguy who is outside my own race, but i don't care who i date as long as i'm happy, so thats why it hard for me to date i'm afraid she wouldn't approve? you probaly think i'm stupid? for what i just said?
do it, as i guy i'd say you'd have a grateful recipient.
cultural pressure puts guys on the active side of encounters(presenation), and not all guys like that. saving some guy the hassle of that, and turning the tables, would be most certainly refreshing.
at least that's my outlook.
>>385
jewish here.. same dilemma... and the community is so small there tends to be a kind of cookiecutter mindset to most women in the culture.. (which also happens to be very cold).
my outlook.. when someone comes along who inspires me to say "f*k it, i dont care what they think", they'll be someone worth a relationship with.
>I just dont understand why someone would want to do the TG thing to themselves. It probably comes from the way I was brought up,
It probably comes from not being transgendered or transsexual yourself. :P (I'm gonna briefly define TG as "not identifying strongly as either male or female, or identifying strongly as both" and TS as "identifying strongly as the other sex, and possibly taking steps to fix ones body to match".) It's completely understandable for you to not understand it yourself. Myself, I'm transgendered; I can't really understand people being able to just clearly identify as one or the other without any doubts at all. But that's not any reason to be disrespectful, right? To each their own, I say. I'm happy you're happy with your identify; and I'm happy with my own.
>I'm gonna briefly define TG as "not identifying strongly as either male or female, or identifying strongly as both"
Frigid Onanoko not so fond of neologisms if there is perfectly ok regular word for it. Based upon above definition, lets define TG as 'confused' no? Now, gonna discern three levels of gender recognition. Have used it successfully to ascertain own gender and preference. Think you can use it too.
Level1: Your body. This very simple, you should know if you are boy or girl.
Level2: Type of partner you want. This bit more difficult. You need find out if you like to make out with girl or boy, which one better.
Level3: Type of body you want to have. You should know this too.
Level2 most important. FO believe that person can feel strong affection for both boy and girl - you can make very deep relation with either as long as you find right person. So only thing that matter is which type you prefer in your bed.
Frigid Onanoko not know if being gay or lesbian is simply fooling oneself, or something real. Must leave that to you to decide for yourself.
Anyhow, romance is just method to pave road to getting closer physically, so don't confuse it with physical love - as noble as it sound, romance is not of higher level than making love. (well, that's just what FO thinking!)
If you not really desire boy over girl - i.e. you don't know - then why not just choose for opposite sex. Going for both will make world around you very confused about you, and that probably alienate bigger group of either boys or girls from you than you will find in the transgender scene. Opposite sex is better than same sex (at least in this case) because it fit better in pleasure. (Frigid Onanoko feeling queesy writing so much about sex all of sudden!) FO really advise to narrow down your partners to just boy or just girl.
About level 3. So maybe you have boy body, but you feel you should have girl body. OK. Frigid Onanoko want to have shiny white wings, and magical powers to cause massive collateral at flick of hand. FO no have. Very sad. Have to face reality. It would be very nice. It so annoying to have to witness own limitations, but cannot change it. At same time, wanna try to love self. (This time not in erotic sense) Can you accept yourself? This maybe even more important than finding out level2 Yes, FO think level3 is nonsense. Only include it because might seem like argument for some people. But it really is not. It immature not to accept your situation and to live in dreamworld instead.
Frigid Onanoko.... believe have been respectful of people who pertain to idea of transgender and transsexual. That's what it should be at any rate, and FO hope this is true. However, Frigid Onanoko no have respect for such ideas. Those just elaborate but silly excuses to cover up being confused and not dealing properly with it. (And, can have disrespect for peoples ideas even while having respect for the people - although if would have disrespect for ALL their ideas, then no. Still, that hardly the situation here.)
Have been talking way too much again. Saying bye now!!!
Ooh, forgot to mention, FO sometime prefer romantic above sex, but still, romance far less important in determining what type of partner you wanna have!
Bye for real now!
>>391
nice derail. back on topic please. also your radical ideas about neologisms have already occurred to others, and been debunked vigorously by others still. but this forum is no more for linguistic debate than it is for gender enlightenment. so at least have the courtesy to sage when you're off topic, if you really have to post at all. thanks.
FO is a guy lol
Singles rant thread not have well demarkated discussion boundaries. It one of most broad places to.. uh... rant. It most general thread in /love. So please let FO be. ok?
>>395
I agree as well, rants in rant thread == okay
Eh, I'm good, wanted to get out to the gym today but didn't happen, but thats what tommorow is for.
Met some new college girls in Sunday school... remembered why I don't want to date college students..lol
Pretty productive overall I'd say
Everyone else?
400 GET
Anyway, last night I was hanging out with my friend. I use to have a crush on his cousin but she moved away a few years ago. I actually didn't know my friend up until recently and about 6 months ago found out they were related. Back to the story, we were talking about life and we started to talk about her. He wanted to know if I had a crush on her, but I denied it. At most I said that if stuck around, I would have had a major crush on her. But my friend is a good guy. He was saying how she has gotten prettier and is really smart. But she plays hard to get with guys (btw, after he said that I felt that it was my duty now to try, I always enjoyed a good challenge). But I feel weird now. I should have forgotten about her a long time ago, but I am sitting with my friend, her cousin, in the library studying. I dunno, I guess I can't get over any lingering feelings.
Call her. Just a friendly call to see how she's doing if you are thinking about her. Maybe she needs that kind of pick me up anyway! If you fail, then thats okay too, but at least you know that the possibility has not completely passed you by. Good luck.
I wish somebody loved me back...
Dear 4-ch, please hear me out.
I have surveyed all my options (ALL of them), and the only girl I would ever want to date right now is taken, by my best friend. There's another girl who I wanted to date in the fall, but I realized that even if I got her to stop being afraid of guys, she'd be really high-maintenance. I have NO OPTIONS. A college that is 60% women, and ZERO of them are intelligent, friendly, and available.
Someone come rescue me. For Pete's sake. I want someone, anyone female, to go out on a date with me, and at least act like a possibility for a week or so. Really I just want to give someone a hug. Oh God.
60% female and none of them are availble? I think you need to change your sample.
First of all leave your best friend and his girl alone. If you care about this girl and if you are a good friends with the guy you will not even consider about ending it for your own personal gain.
Second, for get about getting a girl for the week. Study for your exams, just study so hard that you will forget about girls. No need to ruin your grade in an attempt to get a hug. If you have any female platonic, I am sure you can get a hug out of them, just don't go overboard.
Finally, just relax. You will never get a girl if you are desperate and needy like that. You need to set your life so that dating is like 5th on your list of priorities. If you do that, then I promise you things will work out better for you, especially in the long run.
on that note, I am going to be at a uni that 95% are guys.
wtf
You're looking for a girl to date, not to marry. Stop being so dismissively critical, which I think you're only going from initial impressions and assumptions.
> Finally, just relax.
Hey, this is the singles rant thread and I'm posting the sum of all my frustrations. It doesn't reflect how I am actually going about doing this. I was probably pretty needy when I first found this forum but I've backed off a bit and now I'm just pissed that there's nowhere for me to go.
>>407 is good advice though. I was talking to this selfsame best friend for six hours tonight (let it slip that I like his girlfriend, oops, but that was kind of a mutual understanding from the start) and he pointed out that your initial impression of someone is TOTALLY different from what you will learn about them when you actually get into a deep relationship. Being a virgin I didn't know that. Thanks best friend and thanks 4-ch.
haiz.....I wish a girl would like me instead of me liking em. Im getting so tired and bored of attempting to get a girl.
Even if the girl liked you, as a man you will be expected to make the first move.
sory for being a lame person T_T
Just be Anonymous, it's easier.
Well don't attempt to "get" a girl. That goes for all of us. I chuckle a bit every time I hear the expression. Like girls are some kind of resource or pokemons to be "gotten." They are people... like you and I. And like you and I, they do not want to be tied up with someone who is not able to be happy on their own.
Bored of trying? Well maybe putting some time into bettering yourself may be what you need. If thats not important to you, then I am gonna guess that you will be in this predicament for a loooooong time.
I used to be a clingy spineless child that believed that I needed a female for happiness, until I ended up dating a girl for two years who needed me for happiness, and guess what? It was good for awhile, but I had to break up with her when I started thinking of what it was doing to my sanity. A real relationship is too draining and cannot last unless you learn to love yourself and are with someone who does as well.
All I am trying to say is that if you are not happy with yourself when alone, you will never be happy with someone else and will have an extremely difficult time getting yourself into a relationship with a girl who has any self worth whatsoever.
Agree with the second sentence, disagree with the first. The purpose of dating is to get to know someone for the purpose of finding out whether you are compatable for marriage. Unless of course you are seeking immoral pleasure.
I agree with the common sense brought to light by Seraphius. As for its relevance, I am not sure, having read no other post in this thread. I will add that it is more about finding oneself first, which will lead to self-fulfillment, than just being happy. Once a man realizes who he is in this world, a proper relationship will ensue. Of course, according to my philosophy, this is inevitable, as a woman represents the physical manifestation of just that (realization). Therefore take heed and do not sow seed in a premature breed as they are the physical snare which clamps down on your potentially powerful destiny, the fates.
i finally met someone when i went on vacation, but i was only with him for two weeks, thats when he asked if i wanted to be his girl friend, but said i don't have to reply so soon, he lives in los angeles and i live in washington state, do you think long distances relationships work out, what should do???
>>417
I've been in a long distance relationship, and.. Well, it sort of worked, but on the other hand the distance was endlessly frustrating for both of us (especially since we were both broke college students, so visits were out of the question) and in the end it pretty much just fell apart. Suppose it depends if you're the sort of person who can pull it off, though.
it would be hard for me i'm also broke, and i'm going to start community college really soon too, so it would be hard to travel.
long distance relationships are a bad idea unless you're totally in love with the person and can picture yourself calling him nearly everyday and only seeing him a few times a year.
I remember him when i was leaving in california, for two and half years, there was this kid who use to walk and stand outside of my aunts apartments, that's where i was leaving with my family, but back to my story, when my mom was always cooking, she would send me outside to play and everytime i went outside i would turn around and there he would be looking at me, but when i went to California two weeks ago, i didn't think i could see, him it was like fate.
old wounds opened up
you think you've got things under control. over the person and all and when it's put to the test, you realize you are not over them at all.
i want to have sex with yua aida fusioned with maria ozawa with a hint of kate ground
I met a girl at a party tonight, I think she likes me, but God there's only ten days left before I go back home and I'm so so worried that nothing will happen or I'll try to rush her into it and get her scared.
Being a virgin past the age of 18 is just a vicious cycle.
>Being a virgin past the age of 18 is just a vicious cycle.
How so?
Stop being a weeaboo pussy fag and maybe you'll get some tail someday.
Whats the best tip to ask a guy out?
>>432, I'd have to say I agree with >>432... Half the time the guy you want to ask out would love to be asked out, and as I guy, I can say that most of the time we're far more scared then you to show any interest, for fear of rejection... On behalf of all guys, just ask "do you want to go out sometime?" That's really all it takes, most of the time!
If I was a guy, I would think something was up if a girl asked me out.
I wouldn't think something was up, I'd be happy she seems interested in me! The only reason I'd think something was 'up' was if she was perhaps well-known already as a sleep-around or gold-digger or something already...
Personally, I'd be very suspicious if a girl asked me out. Normally, they won't even not give me the time of day -- that would be too kind. They can't even bear to be in the same room as me.
Ergo, if a girl approaches me for any reason, it seems fair to assume she's working some sort of angle.
438 is too cynical. Don't worry about people like him, you wouldn't want to go out with him anyway.
>438 is too cynical. Don't worry about people like him, you wouldn't want to go out with him anyway.
seconded.
It's true, though, buddy. Just because a few girls have been dicks to you doesn't mean every one is. And it's that sort of cynicism and suspicion that really turns off some really sincere ladies. If you're interested in dating, keep and open mind. Not everyone's gonna hurt you, baby.
at least you're not this guy
I would sort of ease up on it though. Most guys will not have any problem with it at all but they're a bit too easy. You don't want to seem "too" easy. And sometimes saying "We should hang out" might be a little too blunt. Go with what a lot of girls say "It might be interesting if we hung out sometime" or "If i don't anything better to do, then let's go out"
You don't always want to do what a guy WANTS you to do. You can still tease them. Teasing them makes it more enjoyable for both parties. Do make it completely obvious, let them guess, let them wonder, let them imagine. And don't worry about taking your time.
Sensible girl she is. >>432
Actually. I just saw >>432's pictures...
Better at this point in time to work on some weight loss and some physical fitness. There's no shame in wanting to look good and to have boys come to you afterwards. No offense. You'll feel a lot better after a nice makeover and some weight loss.
Turkey + Lettuce + Water = Great Diet.
Good luck
>>445 I'm losing weight, and the pictures you saw, are old, their a year old, i'm way thinner now.
I've been going out lately on alot of dates since i've gotten back from california, it's like the universe has gone upside down for me, my friends think it's my look, but i think my social skills have changed? I really don't know, it's so weird, but all of the guys are really kind and cute.
>>445
Ouch.
I mean, she's not exactly overweight.
Although, I guess if she does/did get into shape, you can tell she has a lot of potential.
>>432
I'm kind of in your shoes. Except instead of losing weight, I changed my hair and look. I pretty much got an immediate reaction and started turning heads. It's nice, the new confidence I have, but also slightly uncomfortable with the new attention.
Just as a piece of advice from a girl in the same boat, I think you should keep a level head amongst all this change. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for you, but it sounds as though you're a little overwhelmed and carried away with the new attention you're getting.
>>448
Keep a Level head, but at the same time, BASK!! BASK IN THE GLORY OF HUMAN VALIDATION. Because when you bask in it, it tends to attract more people.
Positive Attitude = Sexy + Cute + Beautiful.
MONSTER COMBO!~!~!
No guys ever used to pay attention to me. Then I finally met a guy, and we dated for a few months. Ever since we broke up many guys have all been jumping through hoops to be my...
friends. That's it. Friends. All of a sudden I have like 20 really good guy-friends who have no romantic interest in me whatsoever. Crap.