Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
will she pick up? will she see the voice mail? does she know what we are going to talk about? does she have the courage to call back?
Just broke up with my girlfriend...welcome back single rants thread, I surely missed you.
Not that I don't love you guys, I cannot accept the fact that I am coming back here. I hoped this would just be a temporary venue and one day I will be free of its bondage. And I think for that I thought like that, God decided to spite my arrogance and ended it with her. Man this is rough, but I will live. Usually when I have a problem I would go to her, she would listen, but now I really don't have one, except my best friend who is also suffering a similar heartbreak.
I really don't want to come back home, I have been to the top of the mountain and quite frankly I loved it; I loved her. I never told her that...Right now I am holding myself back from finding her and shouting at the top of my lungs 'I LOVE YOU' Won't do me any good. I know she loves me but due to circumstances, due to social context, due to religious beliefs she does not want any of it. I say FUCK IT, but it will not do me any good. The problems she has will never leave and thus we can never be together. To all you guys out there looking for love, I wish you the best on your journeys, for this old sailor will be taking a break from the sea. Any advice I can give you, ask but looking at my recent success, don't count on it being good.
I wonder sometimes if maybe the person that's my soulmate got into some accident and has been dead this whole time
>>654
I undersand exactly what you mean. And quite frankly, I totally understand you don't want to be 'here'. Because, well, we know what that means. I thought I would be able to break away from here too, without spite or anything, but just because it's obviously better out there. But things don't turn out that way, and I still hang around.
To follow up your metaphor, this thread is kind of the harbor you don't necessarily want to go to, but still know it'll always be there when you've nowhere else to go. It's not the best place in the world, but still it's better than nothing.
Best luck on your 'recovery'...
I feel sick. I cannot sleep, I cannot relax. It is 2am in the morning all I want to do is sleep or throw up. I feel like if I throw up all of this pain I feel will be flushed out of my system. But I know that the awfulness will build up again in me. I just want to fast forward in time so I can put all of this behind me and forget.
Stupid me, to think I can love a girl and have her reciprocate the feelings. Well I can promise you this /love/, never again will I allow myself to be fooled by a girl or be fooled by this silly idea called love.
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>>657
Saying it will never happen is the best way to bring it on. I don't know if it's Murphy's Law, or some other law.
Well I am wiser and I will not let my guard down so easily for another woman.
And this feeling of hope is the worst ever. I have some delusion that she will call me and tell me we made a mistake.
Fuck my life
What I want
is a girl
with whom to walk
down a bright city street
on a warm summer's night.
>>661
Aw.
As for me, I'm a 19 yr old girl who is feeling very conflicted. Despite being confessed to quite a few times, I've always been single, and never been kissed. At the moment there are numerous issues I have to deal with before pursuing a relationship. Some of these are; religious family (who believes in abstinence till marriage), finding the right guy, self confidence and my studies.
I've never been particularly desperate to find a boyfriend. I'm the sort of person that goes with the flow. And considering that life is good, I'm happy to keep things like this for a while. However, I do worry about my lack of relationship experience. My friends always come to me for advice, which is rather ironic. But I'm scared that at my age, if I don't start working on my non-existent love life soon, it will be too late. Basically, I'm starting to see myself as a 40 year old virgin. Yet I can't do anything about it because of my circumstances. Meanwhile my social circle is getting the impression that I am frigid, because I've rejected anyone who confesses to me (I just wasn't interested in any of them). I know this is a silly question, but should I start to care? Am I really missing out on the prime of youth?
>>662
If you are not ready, then for the love of God, don't do it. That is what happened to me, I went with a girl who thought she was ready, but wasn't. So not only she hurt herself but hurt me as well. Just enjoy your life and just be who you are, one day you will find a guy who will be the answer to your prayers.
As for me
I feeling much better now. The first night, I was literally sick. But the next day I felt so much better. While we were dating, she made me join her dance team because they needed guys and we have a show coming up next week. I easily could have not gone and quit, but I am being a gentleman about it and going to perform in the show, but I have no more obligation to be there, so after I am done with it.
Last night, she wanted to talk to my friend about us. My friend probably took the break up harder than we did, since he recently broke up with his girlfriend and literally told me that we were the only sign that love still existed. I demanded that I listen to it so I could get some closure, hoping that there some other reason for the break up. But turns out it was the same reasons, basically she got scared and wasn't ready for a relationship. But since I was there, and my friend can get angry easily, we started to ask her hard questions and basically made her feel guilty. At that point she got upset and ended the conversation. My friend got upset that he may have ruined his friendship with her, so I called her up and told her I was there and you shouldn't be mad at him, you should be mad at me.
So tonight we are going to meet and tie up any loose ends. The thought that we can still be friends are gone and any hope that we can get back together is over, even though there is a ember of that hope in pit of my soul but I will stamp it out as soon as I can find it. I really don't want it to end, but the truth is, it is over. My mind has accepted that fact, it takes a little longer for my heart to do the same. Am I crazy to think that there is hope? Please tell me yes, please tell me that it is over, because honestly I cannot fully accept it and I don't know if I fully will.
>>663
There shouldn't be hope. Drop the case. If something happens in the future, well, then be it, but don't hope for something to happen.
Do not ruin your health, your sanity and whatever, thinking about it over and over again. Seriously, it'll do more damage than good.
Once more to the number of the Beast.
I'll take the so-called evil post number, I'm already cursed so another can't hurt. My curse is my initials; SWM, which also stands for Single White Male. Just my luck, eh? Been single for almost 29 years now despite all my efforts. Maybe girls just aren't into skinny self-sufficient gamers who won't put out and don't drink? Who knows.
>>667
now ITT: we guess what your name is
Stephen William Madison
obviously, Super W. Mario
James T. Quirk
Irving Theodore Teatime
Lex Oswald Samson
Ezra Renault Schmidt
Final update:
I am fine now, a week later my life is getting back into order. I am moving on, meeting new girls and already have a date next week. The ex has been trying to talk to me one-on-one for a while, but I have been taking my time to schedule something. I really don't want to, I want to put all behind me. Eventually we will talk, about what I dunno, I don't care, but honestly I just want to move on.
So everyone that has fallen off the horse, it really isn't that hard to get back on. Just have a positive outlook, good friends and be ready to take risk and life will work out.
651 signing out.
>>651, thanks. I think I knew the "right" answer, but wanted some confirmation. It didn't used to worry me as much when I was younger, but lately with all these newfound responsibilities, I'm really starting to feel my age.
Anyway, good to hear that things are looking good for you.
so it turns out this girl i had a huge crush on is... wait for it... gay.
FUCK
which is surprising as hell, because NOBODY knew she was gay. one of my friends made a joke about her being a lesbian (which seemed ridiculous at the time, she doesn't act like it at all, just shy), and i brought it up around her in a teasing way. then, a week later, she tells us.
so now, on one hand, i don't care about anything. one the other hand, i feel sort of relieved, because she never knew, and i think i can keep it from getting awkward, and keep her as a friend. and it's better than blissful ignorance.
and she seemed so perfect, too (don't they all?). except that she's into objectivism right now, a phase i'm hoping will pass.
>>677 Looks like the popular saying among females, "all the good men are either taken or gay" applies to both genders as well!
>>677
Maybe she's bi?
>>679
fucking wish. we had a discussion a couple of weeks ago about how she thinks there are no such thing as bisexuals, just gay/straight people who are confused. aoeugghcrudaour.bsog
So the girl I liked who turned out to be married but I found out just in time before I went ahead and confessed... some other guy gave her valentines day chocolate and she let him down. The guy was depressed as hell, but the important thing is it made me feel a whole lot better because it could well have been me in that position and I escaped from it.
Okay, so... I kind of progressed since the last update. I've been through some hard nights, but now it's mostly okay. I have a few physical issues (ie sudden cough & suffocation) that probably are due to too many interiorized feelings and stress, but in my head it is almost fine. I'm doing stuff to keep myself occupied and fixed myself some mid-term objectives, to be sure I'm not drifting away.
There's just one main thing that is bothering me right now. I feel like an ass for how things went when I kind of "confessed" to her. Seriously, that wasn't right at all, I should either have done that with more tact, or more likely not said anything at all. It was, I guess, kind of bluntly... I really do want to apologize for that. It's been some time now, but I don't know if it's enough.
Also I learnt that she and my other friend kind of broke up something like two weeks ago... something not really right about him not returning her calls, I don't really know (and don't want to know, that's not my story). This gives me a weird aftertaste, a mix of relief as things won't be so awkward and tense between us three, and of disappointment in my friend, and of sadness because, well, I always feel like that when a couple in my friends doesn't work out well.
And now with the knowledge of this fact, and the surroundings of Valentine's Day, I think it would really be innappropriate to apologize now.
But is it appropriate at all?
hai
First thing first, what your heart told you to do?
Peace
>>684
What do you mean? What did my heart tell me to do at which point?
im in love with a girl and i know she loves me. yet we cannot be together. i know in time our love for each other will fade away and i will find someone new who will love me more than she has and the same for her.
yet i dont want that to happen, i want her, i need her. she is the only one for me. but she is not mine, i am not holding her in my arms, i am not staring into her beautiful eyes telling her that she is my happiness. no. there is nothing between us but an illusion of a feeling called love.
Bump. I'd still like some input for >>682 ...
>>686 Grow up already. "I need __" is a useless phrase.
>>682 What's there to apologize for? You were basically just freaking out, right? it happens to everyone. Just keep moving on and acting normal.
If it stays in your head, then just mention that you wish you'd have had more control and didn't want her to be put into an uncomfortable situation.
Or am I missing something here?
>>688
Nope, it's kinda what happened. And I think I'm going to put it sort of the way you said it to her.
Getting quite lonely, yet only because of my insecurities. I wouldn't subject someone to my selfish dependence... Though I'm becoming increasingly tempted to. Every time I walk to the bus I catch for school, I almost just walk past it, out of the city. I just want to die in the desert, reading my books.
Daamn, reading through large chunks of this thread makes me go "and I though I had it bad."
But.. ranting, right? Might as well throw out a life story while I'm at, and get it off my chest.
Highschool relationships didn't go to well for me. Or rather, the only one that I had didn't really go anywhere. But for all my loneliness by the end of my two years there, it wasn't so bad. That being said, I went to college two years early, and not the 'regular' sort either. Evening School (at a good university, batchelors degree and all, but those who've taken evening classes know that socializing isn't something that one does very much there.) Work kicked in around the time I was 17... And on the relationship front I went through one long-distance e-lationship.
Then shit happens, and I when I finally get the opportunity to lose my virginity, I fail. Yeah. Nervousness can be a bonerkiller.
Perhaps I should explain something. The girl I was in a long-distance relationship with, well, it was a turbulent relationship to be sure. We'd split, come back, like two uncertain pendulums. At the time of my fail, we were not together... but hey, she still flips. (Not that that matters, girl had a quick temper but a quick cooldown time and a surprising ability to think rationally.)
The problem I'm having... well, I can't pinpoint the exact time that it started is the fragmentation of feelings. Most girls I fall for, the feelings are not reciprocated , and I think this leads me to have several "backup crushes" so to speak. Combine this with my desire to get married and have kids(!?) at some point in the (preferably near) future, and you have a recipe for emotional disaster.
tl;dr - Liking a lot of girls at the same time = massive fail.
I fall for girls, never get enough confidence to talk to them, then they get boyfriends ._.
This has happend too many times.
I just have to post it somewhere. I need it off my chest.
There's this girl I was really into, for about 3, 4 years. I never told her though. Then, I asked her at a supermarked where she works parttime if she would want to go to the movies, but I messed up real, REAL bad. Of course, she shyly rejected.
She probably was a bit into me but that was the end of it. Though she didn't have a boyfriend for 4 years, 3 months later she had one. That relation failed, and one month later she had another one.
I feel like I spoiled it for the both of us. Though I am over her, I'll probably never be over this memory.
I find myself liking this guy who has absolutely none of the characteristics that I'm into. He's not asian, he's not skinny (at all), not that tall, curlyish brown hair, and even though he's a gamer, he's all for the first-person shooters. But he's really nice and accepts me for who I am and I can't help but like that part. A lot.
But he likes another girl. Not like he knows that I know, but that part doesn't really matter. I really don't stand a chance.
One time I poked his side and realized that he had a big tummy. Normally that grosses me out. I giggled. Wtf is wrong with me?
I met so many girls, got on well so much with them, slept with so much of them at parties, even at home, and nothing ever happened... ever.
>>695
I'll trade your confidence for my sister.
>>696
Do you do home delivery?
>>697
Sure. First we must find out a way to transfer personalities ._.
Just tell how you get all the confidence! It might radiate a bit onto me.
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A friend of mine has a sister I've known since she was about 11 years old. I was about 14 when I met her so I paid her no mind relationshipwise but stayed friends with her up til today.
Now I'm 21 and she's 18. And she's so fuckin hot. And I'd love to ask her out but I'm positive I'm not the type of person that she's go for due to the fact that I'm an otaku and she's a college party girl. She calls me every once in awhile to hang out and we have a good time and all but it's just me and her like she likes to hang out with me but she's almost embarassed to be seen with me.
She's planning to move away in about 3 months too ;_; We took roadtrips together just me and her drank together but...
Chances are I'm hopeless by now unless something big happens.
>>701
You put stupid romantic story ideas in my head. Such a cute history you have.
I'm imagining a sappy romantic continuation... the girl moves away, and you don't see each other for a long time. She meets a lot of guys, but none of them are what she really wants. She eventualy feels a bit disillusioned. You, the otaku, felt pretty down when she left your life, and it got you thinking about your situation. You decided that although you weren't going to change yourself from being an otaku, you also wanted to be the type of guy that can attract hot girls like this. With the brains of an otaku, and the attractive power of a regular good looking guy; this is one of the coolest and rarest kind of guy.
Given your long history with this girl, you inevitably cross paths again sometime, and by then, you've acheived your goal. Of course, by then, you'd pretty much forgotten the feelings you used to have for her. Until, of course, you see her again. She's matured somewhat, and you've become attractive to her. The connection which caused you two to be friends in the past is re-established. Sakura petals swirl around. You see eachother again, and an epic romance quickly blossoms.
I hate it when posts seem personally relevant. Now I'm going to have to spend the rest of the night convincing myself that you're talking about someone else.
Well, there was this one girl who is actually my ex. We'd probably still be together if I didn't fuck up our relationship. Anyways, she's pretty much the only girl in this town that I can see myself being with and I just need to find a way to get back in her good graces. Let's see... Alright, my Junior year of high school is when I first started going out with her mostly because I was too shy to ask her during Sophomore year but I decided to go out on a limb and blah blah blah. We went out for about three months which was a very slow three months, I haven't even kissed her, but due to my old bad habit of lying to other girls she lost her trust in me when I said something that got out of hand and broke up with me afterwards. Now It's Senior year and I think she's forgiven me but I don't really have much of a chance to talk to her anymore. Like I stated before however, I've just got to try to get back with her again (Pathetic, huh?).
I can't think of anything else except her face and voice. She smiles when I smile, and laughs at my lame jokes. All these things are great, but she isn't mine and I have no idea what to do.
I've only seen the girl once and I already know we have very little in common although if it were a few years back it would have been different. This lack of information means it can't be love (yet?) and there's no obvious sexual drive behind my thoughts so I have to classify it as infatuation.
But despite this lack of things in common and my rational view of the situation, I still can't help but fall for her.
I'm so over shit like this. Life would be so much easier if I could switch off the emotions and spend my life smacking shit with a crowbar.
I am in a somewhat similar situation. I don't want girls who I have sexual drive after to be my girlfriends. But when it's the other way around (when I am attracted to them for reasons different than sexual) I fall for them.
Don't know what's the problem about it, but I know that some guys are like that. The moral of the story is that this girl is likely what you are searching for...
Dang, i wanted a gf so bad for awhile, but then i see all this shit happening in these relationships and im still 17...so ive sorta been wary of others, trust is not something that comes easily to me
on the other hand when i was about the confess to a girl, she blew me off before i even asked her.......that sorta completely crushed me............
She probably has a guy anyway. She answered the phone a few times during the evening, I was going to ask "call from the boyfriend?" which I thought would have been an amusing way to ask the question but the words wouldn't come out.
hm. i've found myself in love with two different people. i'd be incredibly happy with either one of them, but at the moment they're both completely inaccessible - one due to distance, the other to sexual orientation.
with distance-guy i at least have a chance, but only if we somehow find ourselves living in the same country; he doesn't "do" long-distance stuff, and to be quite frank i'm not too enamoured with the idea either. but he does actually love me back, which is more than i can say for the other guy... and distance is at least something that can be overcome.
as for sexual-orientation-guy, distance is no problem, he lives only a few streets away from me and we often see each other around the place... but he's straight (and i'm not). and in a few weeks he's leaving and i might never see him again. maybe just before he leaves i could tell him everything on the 0.0000001% chance he's in the closet or something... i wouldn't have much to lose by that point, i suppose. although i'd probably have to be really drunk just to have the balls to do it.
>...just to have the balls to do it.
Nevermind me but I laughed at the conclusion of your post. No offense eh, I have no problems with that, but this formulation was too awesome considering the phrase that just preceded it :)
I feel your pain, >>709.
In actual fact I am still riding a pretty bad obsession with someone who I regard as inaccessible. She was the SO of my late best friend, so even though she's available and has in the past obliquely indicated interest, I have chosen to do the right thing and bury the feelings.
The obsession was actually getting to be pretty bad but now I have another one to keep me occupied which is slightly more realistic, which is the one mentioned. I saw her again tonight, and it reaffirmed my feelings a bit but we didn't get quality talking time at all.
My mind has been going in fail-loops thinking of plans for first dates and stuff so I've been obsessively compiling data to improve my false spontaneity.
It's awful and wonderful at the same time. I don't know if that even makes sense.
Well, it was fun, but that's the end of my story here.
So long people, I love this woman.
they sure tell a lot of sad stories here
おめでとう ございます！！！
i wish i could understand what do you mean...
I've been wanting to be in a relationship lately
(I blame reading this board for that)
Alas, I know of no girls at my school that I am interested in.
I am interested in four girls, none of which want anything to do with me.
Obviously I like some more than others. But unrequited love four times in a row is quite pathetic.
21 year old virgin never been on a date or have a girlfriend ;_;
I'm 22 and I've never ever had a serious relationship. I'm terrified that if I don't meet someone in the next couple of years, I never will. I know I'm young, but it feels like time is running out, because, after school, it's hard to meet people, and then slowly, when you enter your late twenties, more and more people around you are getting married...
Already some of my friends are engaged and it's fucking terrifying.
Good morning everyone, I'M SINGLE AND IT SUCKS
I hate people who aren't virgins. What makes them think they deserve to be so lucky?
GREEDY CORPORATE PIGS
MAY THEY ALL BURN IN HELL
RRRRRAAAAAGGGGGEEEEE
Today I kissed a girl. It was quite fun.
What?? That's not a singles rant! That sounds like good news, even!
Get that shit out of here!
Signed,
-A Bitter, Poisonous Single
>>722
I WAS ONCE LIKE YOU.
And I will probably remain as it anyway, i don't see this going anywhere.
I once waited for a girl for 2 years, but i got blown off so badly i'm so scared to put on hopes for this girl i like now, ive had 13 rejections in my past but now i'm so close to this girl, BAHH!!!
>>725 13 rejections in my past
is that in a row??
That'd a major losing streak man. I think your out of the finals.
Guys who use the "strength by numbers" approach to getting a gf often fail because they come off as desperate. And even in the odd possibility that some girl falls for it, the relationship never lasts because she finds out that you've asked out all her friends before getting to her.
>>729
Tell me about it. At the moment I have two candidates. One is really cool and awesome, and I like her a lot but she gives off this vibe of "no" half the time while giving smirks and encouraging glances the rest of the time. The other is definitely interested in me and she's nice too, but I really want the first one. They're friends. So if I go for the first and miss, then I lose the second. If I go for the second I will never know about the first.
>>730
Go for the second one. The first one sounds like a tease who gets pleasure out of heartbreaking; sounds like a scumbag to me.
agree with >>731
probably you want no 1 more because its more challenging?? dont do it.
>>One is really cool and awesome
how how does she compare to no 2 in terms of look and personality?
do you like no 2 (you didnt mention liking her) at all??
or you are only considering her because she likes you?? if this is the case dont go for no 2, only gonna hurt her, dont play with a girl's feeling, you should know the feeling (no 1 did it to you)
>>while giving smirks and encouraging glances the rest of the time
btw forgot to mention this, there's a chance that this teasing is in your head, meaning you got the wrong idea. dont read too much into this teasing unless she gives real indication that she likes you.
Go for none, love is a travesty!
well for no1, it's possible that she's sending the "no" signals because she knows that her friend is interested in you and does not want to hurt her friend's feelings by letting you know her feelings for you as well. Well, that is only a possibility.
If you think you will regret going after no1 then.. go after her. Some people don't mind dating their friends' ex; and if no2 really likes you that much, if being w/ no1 doesn't work out, maybe she'll still go out with you. Who knows...
Comparatively I would rate #1's looks higher, but probably #2's personality is slightly better, and she's also a closer fit in terms of pastimes.
I'd say I like both, but #1 caused the initial spark. I started to like #2 a little later on getting to know her better, but #1 was continuing the routine so when I think about it rationally she's a bad option, and yet rational thought still flies out the window when she's around...
>>733 I know it's all in my head. At times when they're around I can't even think straight so who even knows which indications are real.
How come everybody I love has a boyfriend?
Is it my bad luck? Do the powers that be get a good laugh out of this?
I HOPE YOU ARE HAPPY, ANGELS, BECAUSE I MIGHT AS WELL BE IN HELL RIGHT NOW
single male.
looking for significant other.
i am very sad. ;_;
I feel like dying.
i have been dreaming about my ex for the past several weeks. every night new dream, new situation but she is always in it and she is always pissing me off. its starting to get annoying
While I lie awake at night and think about the girl I like, she's getting railed by her boyfriend.
I'd like to meet someone special. I just wish I can change my outlook, that's all.
I just saw the girl I like in the embrace of another man. I think it's a sign to let go, but it's easier said than done.
Yet another night sitting in front of the computer listening to depressing music. Such a vicious cycle that is life.
I thought being single would suck, but that was before I had a girlfriend. Now I'm single once more, and, well, it's FUCKING AWESOME.
I had this dream yesterday, where i was sitting in front of my computer and as i left the room and came back, there was a young lady sitting..perfect; blond hair,brown eyes..etc and i instantly knew that the universe OWNED ME THIS, i was like "hell yeah, finally something GOOD in this life i call pain". She was hugging me,kissing and suddenly i woke up.
Never ever did any dream hurt as much as this one. I curse you MORPHEUS of the Endless!
I had the same thing happen to me, but I saw it as almost liberating. Prior to witnessing the two of them making out at a party, I had been agonizing over how to ask her out on a date. Suddenly, that ceased to be a priority.
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