Hey everyone.
To start off, I must say, she's the worst human being in the world.
She spits at me, she swears, she pulls my hair, she throws things at me, hits me things, gets me in trouble for who knows what, and throws tantrums here and there for the most idiotic of reasons.
Just being around this person makes me want to kill her, then myself.
Usually, I'm the peppy nice guy that just wants everything to be good in the world, but with her, I'm the psycho murderer with a single target, her.
I can't do anything to her for 2 reasons:
oh, and,
3. I'll get in trouble.
Even worse, she's only 7.
And last week, she tried to stab me with a knife, then when she missed, tried to chop me up with a butcher knife.
Please! Anybody! Help me!
Dude. You could do all that shit everyone else if telling you and maybe you'll affect an outcome you can live with.
Or you could just spike her food:
http://www.getmedsdirect.com/Products/Xanax.htm
You know what to do. Go. Go. Go.
(And post pictures...)
>>23
...Um. Okay then. I'll try that once I can get a bell.
>>24
Yeah. I've been taking all of your advice considering the show her some discipline thing. I even threatened her with my tennis racket. >.< Worked for a moment, though once I turned my back on her she spat on my door.
>>25
Yeah. I agree on the whole, 'she's not crazy, but just a bitch' thing. >.< Though, I think even though she's not crazy, she's a little unstable. More mood swings that a PMSing teenager. I'm scared what she'll be like when she's REALLY a teenager.
>>26
Respect from her is non-existent. My parents and grandma don't even have any respect from her. Okay.. Maybe that's probably cause they're so sweet to her. Time to show her who's boss.
>>27
Umm.. Ahh.. I'm flattered and all, but I don't think of myself as a price.. And as I asked before.. What the heck is a troll?
>>28
...Hmmm. Spiking her food. Sounds okay. As long as it doesn't kill her. (...How do you post pictures here? I thought this was an all text board?)
Thanks everyone. Nice of you guys to reply and all to this topic. >.< At first, I though ALL the posts would involve "rape, rape her" and stuff. But you guys have been pretty helpful.
Though still. Whenever I do something back to her, my parents only get mad at me and when I ask "What the hell! She just attacked me with a fork and I only yelled at her!" they ALWAYS reply, "Look at your age and look at hers."
Really.. A bad deed is STILL a bad deed regardless of the age. It's not like if a 17 year old guy tries to stab a 40 year old guy, the police will get angry at the older man 'just because you're older than him.'
WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR PARENTS?
...Ummm. No thanks then. NO pics.
...EWWWWWW.
15. Gonna be 16 in may.
>>36
You're obviously an underage newfag. You should lurk moar before posting, maybe until you're 18.
Did I say fap? I meant you upload pics so we can better assess the physical stature of your sister as to better help you with your problem...
Haha we're just kidding. We just want pictures so we can put a face to the name of this epic thread.
Slap some sense into her. Never answer or give in to her. Don't give her any attention. If she bothers you, slap her in the face until she learns some common sense. And don't show any emotion towards her other than indifference.
Don't get discouraged by her crying. She's your sister, she's family, so you should do what is best for her - better she learns her limits now by her brother with some force, than later being fucked up for life because noone showed her that she can't get away with such a behaviour in the real world.
And please, don't be so stupid to listen to your parents. If they're so stupid to be easily manipulated by this little shit, they don't even deserve to have an opinion on this matter.
And if slapping (not hard enough for her to get injured, just often enough for her to stop terrorizing you), urge your parents to get her professional psychological help.
>>1's a lot more mature-sounding than many of the supposed 18+ people on this board, so stop telling him to "lurk moar". (Although not knowing what a troll is might mean that he does need to read up a bit on board terminology. BTW, a troll is someone who's just posting nonsense outside of the nonsense (DQN or /b/) board.)
As for the actual topic at hand, my advice is to just refuse to be alone with the squirt. Tell your parents that you're not going to babysit her anymore because you legitamitely feel that she might hurt you and that even though you are bigger than she is, no one's taught her not to stab people with knives and you fear for your life.
When your parents argue the point, stand your ground. Above all, just say that you refuse to be in a situation in which there is not an adult present when she is with you. If you ever do find yourself alone with her, just go in your room, lock the door, and come out every so often just to make sure she hasn't slit her wrists or something. (After all, she IS your sisiter, and you don't want her to go balistic and off herself instead of you.)
I don't suggest slapping her, just because I've never seen violence really solve anything. Then again, I'm a girl, so I haven't had much use for violence anyway. ^_^ I guess guys have different ways of dealing with things.
Alright.
Just tell her to cut the crap, and tell your parents you are sick of it. Don't yell, be honest and calm with them. Don't let them dodge the subject. Make sure your sister knows who is boss.
Also, pics?
I really just think you should give her a good anal raping...
>>42
Thank you very much! That was actually really helpful of you. Also, thank you much for the compliments. Much thanks. I'll try that.
And to the rest of you, NO raping will happen and I will post NO pics of her. >.< Okay then. I hope you all understand.
Much thanks to all that have given me advice.
Recently, my sister has gone to acting like a baby when she doesn't get what she wants. Crawling around, drinking from bottles, and just watching tv. Hmm.. I don't know any babies that watch family guy. HMMMM.
She's even gone to the extent to crying and whining and rolling around like a baby. Talking fully normally however. Wow.
I'm not gonna be surprised if she starts wetting herself to prove a point.
Damn. I'm getting really sick of her.
>>46
Wow. That is so sweet of you. Helping me in my times of need only to see pictures of my sister so you may do whatever in your head with her image in mind.
Is this really how a majority of the people are like on this board?
The people who are like that are most likely from 4chan. Don't let them get you down. They're just stuck in the "Tits or GTFO" mindset.
maybe she wants attention... or something. just still be patient. i know its relaly difficult and stuff but just be patient. she's little. she'll change when she's older.
try to talk to her more or something. or do something that she likes with her. if she really hated you or something then she wouldn't give you so much of her attention.
>>49
Yeah. Okay. Thanks for the pep talk. I'll try to keep my spirits up.
>>50
Maybe.. That'd explain a lot about the things she do.
But yeah, that's what I always say, "she'll get better" but lots of the friends that I talk to about her say things like, "or she'll get worse".
I don't really wanna think that kinda way..
But, yeah. I'll try that too. I am interested about why she keeps doing this stuff. I even try to talk to her, and it seems like she responds really well. Well.. Until after I'm done, then she goes back to doing things like locking me out of the house. >.<
sigh What's really annoying about her is how she HATES being criticized. Sure, lots of people are like that, but do something like correct her spelling and soon she's crying and whining on the floor. T.T
I think you're looking at this the wrong way. Have you considered why she is so sensitive to criticism, and why she doesn't like it when you ignore her or don't talk to her? She loves you, she admires you. You're the older sibling, she wants to aspire to be as you are. She doesn't like being criticized by you because she doesn't want to disappoint. She just loves you a bit too much, and isn't good at expressing it. Try to talk to her about it, tell her that you love her and that you think she's a cool kid. When she acts well and doesn't have temper tantrums compliment her on how well she behaves, and she'll want to do that more since you told her it was good. Try positive reinforcement, slapping her is just going to make her feel worse about herself. And also, don't think of her as just an annoying little bitch who wants to make your life hell, because she actually just wants to please you.
>>52
Umm... You DID read the part where she tried to stab me, multiple times. Right?
But.. Yeah. On some level, you're right. But probably not on the 'she loves you part'. Maybe admire, but very low chances she loves me. Considering that just today, she was crying to dad to get another brother, or have a better brother. And to hit brother until he was red and bleeding.
It's possible she's just really twisted on that part.. But eh. It's all possible that she just really sucks at showing good and admiration. Much thanks!
She wants a new brother because she doesn't think her real brother loves her. She wants to stab you because she loves. She's just a kid, she doesn't know how to handle her emotions.
Thus, love = stab.
love=stab? Cool, a new metaphor for me^^
But to the opp, >>54 could be right. However, this is no reason not to be firm with her. I would generally not recomend slapping her, but if you at some point or another actually feel physically threatened, and if she wont accept time outs or television bans, it could at some point become the only option. I dont quite understand how the female mind works, so maybe this may have no effect on her general behavior, but on the other hand, it may scare her just a little bit, which is the first step to gaining respect.
Another thing you could do to try and gain her respect is ask for more priveleges from your parents to show her that you are her elder, that you are more mature, and that your level of power is closer to that of an adult than that of a child.
Also, just out of curiousity, how did she learn all of this stuff? Have you considered that maybe the way she acts is a direct result of the influence of you, your parents, and the television? Perhaps you could suggest to your parents less television watching, getting your video games in your room, and less arguing and swearing in front of her to help curb her behavior.
Finally, when you think about the way she acts when she gets criticized, does there seem to be a reason for this? For example, when she was younger, did she have some traumatic events related to criticism, or was she just harshly criticized in general? And when shes at school, does she react the same way? Because if she doesnt, thats evidence that she can change the way she acts any time she wants, and shes acting the way she does at home out of pure choice, which I would thing backs up 53s point a lot more.
>>54
That is incredibly and most possibly the most inane explanation I have ever read. ...Also. It makes the most sense here. But.. As >>55 stated, it's no reason not to be firm.
And yeah, she did learn it all on Television. I've talked to my parents about cutting her tv off, but she watches it nearly 24/7 anyways. And when they try to, she cries for 4 hours STRAIGHT and they cave.
About criticism, nothing about her really traumatized her. She just REALLY doesn't like being criticized. She just REALLY doesn't like it. I just think it's part of her personality. shrugs
You know she's sensitive, so why don't you act more sensitive when talking to her? I think all that's required here is that you think more about what you say and do before you do it so that you don't upset her, since you know what upsets her. Not to sound like your parents, but she IS a kid, and you are older and more mature. You should be able to think more about what you're saying and be more sensitive to her needs. She may grow out of it or she may have some sort of chemical imbalance or disorder that causes emotionally instability, either way you need to be sensitive. If you're living with somebody that is highly sensitive, you have to talk to them in a certain way and act a certain way to them. Do be firm, but don't do things to piss her off like trying to stop her from watching television just for the point of exerting power and trying to earn "respect". If you try to make her respect you she'll just react worse.
But I AM sensitive. I always try to please her, but it never helps. And yes, I do know what pisses her off. Everything. On some level, she can find a reason to cry for anything.
She once cried because she was holding her chopsticks right. Nuff said.
And when I AM nice, she just walks all over me. I've talked with her endless times, but as before, all fruitless attempts.
And trust me. You have no idea how bad she is. I'm not saying she's the annoying little sister. She's worse than that. Even all my friends agree. And some of them have real bastards for parents that used to hit them when they were younger, and they ALL say she's the worst person they've ever met.
If you ever meet her and she gets used to you, you'll be on this same board with the topic, "I just met the worst person in the world!".
T.T I don't like her.
Maybe she has something deeper going on then? You don't sound very sensitive, insulting your sister when you don't even know what's really wrong with her.
My patience with her has LOOONG since been destroyed. I insult her cause I have nothing else to do without snapping and doing something I may or may not regret to her.
She has NOTHING deeper going on. I've watched over her her whole life. And other than being massively spoiled, nothing else has happened to her other than the normal childhood things.
I DO know what's wrong with her. She just doesn't like EVERYONE. I've had over seven years to realize that. You don't think I've thought of those things you said during that time? Well I have. And all have them have died in dead ends.
She's just an incredibly spoiled brat that watches way too much tv for her own good.
What sucks the most, is that when I was a little younger, when I first heard I was going to have a sister, I was in a private school. Every day I prayed that she'd grow up nice, healthy, and sweet. Up to seven times a day. When I woke up, before breakfast, during morning prayer, before lunch, during afternoon prayer, before dinner, and right before I went to sleep.
You know how crushing it is to get HER instead? Very crushing indeed.
Get the bell, now.
You do mental illness isn't just caused by traumatic experiences? Some people are just born with different personality types, and unstable emotional states as an innate part of their being. "I insult her cause I have nothing else to do..." you've just proved you're not being sensitive and doing as much as you can to improve your relationship with her. So why don't you try to stop insulting her, be nice to her, and then you can complain if she isn't acting well. God you're so self-absorbed it's disgusting.
And you say this from a first hand experience? I may be self absorbed with this part of my life, but that's because this is a majority of it. She's there every day. I have done my best to do something about our relationship but nothing works. I insult her this way because as I've seen, she is the little devil incarnate. And you don't THINK I've been nice to her? Every single day I try without success. And that does loads to the self esteem knowing everything you've tried is fruitless. And yes, I do complain, but do my parents care? No. Do they even TRY to do anything? Yes, but she always gets them on her side. Even going to the point where I can in trouble for things I wasn't even anywhere near to.
Whenever something is wrong it's always me, if there's a fire in the kitchen it's me. With all this negative attention, of course I'd be self-absorbed, but negatively.
And you know what? All you can do is tell me to do the same things I've done and tried for years on end with no absolute success, all with no first-hand experience this kind of pain is. Your explanations do make sense, but they're all things I've already done.
And please, I came here to find help. Not to be insulted for something I've tried and failed to control and improve.
When you get attacked to the point where the blade barely misses your heart, throat, or any vital point on your body, and all for something trivial like a glass of milk, then you can insult and criticize me about my point of view all you like.
Man I really hope you grow up one day kid. You know why your parents don't feel the same way? Because they're not selfish like you. You really need to mature then come back to this board looking for advice.
Okay then. If you say so. Maybe I'll mature over time.
Thank you everyone that helped me, regardless of things some of you said about me in negativity.
I'll be back one day when I get my problems sorted out. Who knows, maybe my relationship with my sis will get a little bit better in time. Probably when she gets to the age of 10 or something.
Well, till another day, and another topic.
Ja ne!
When you come back don't be such an immature self-centered selfish insensitive person.
And one more thing. For somebody who insults his sister's inability to handle criticism, you sure can't handle it when anybody says something you don't like.
Maybe it's genetic?
For me it seems like both OP and his sister aren't able to withstand any kind of criticism.
Of course this is bad, but you should exploit the fact that you are older.
I see some kind of problems on more fronts.
Your sister is indeed a problem child.
Your parents don't seem to grasp the problem.
And you, who don't even own your own spine.
She is -seven-, show that you are older.
I do have a brother who is somewhat like your sister, only not that extreme.
The way I made it able to live at the same place like him, or even just being able to be in the same room as him is to make it clear who is the older one.
He might be nagging all the time, and never shut up, and not take no as a answer.
But all of that is forgotten if he actually manages to enrage me.
Im mad, and he knows he should better shut up and run away before my temper gets the best of me.
It usually takes no more than a enraged shout before he's almost crying.
The thing is that you don't own your own spine.
You do your sisters biddings, and return her insults.
Why are you putting yourself on her level, or sometimes even below her level?
That way, even if you're enraged she looks at you like you're younger than her.
Why don't you make a request from her of a change, and instead of insulting her just look like your unsatisfied.
If she does it, fine, thats it.
If she refuses, don't act angry or return any insults, just look unsatisfied.
If she hates critic, that should be even worse.
If you continue this every time she behaves like an arse, she should perhaps get a hint.
If she makes a ruccus in your room, just throw her out without a word or with a calm "that kind of behaviour you can do outside".
If she starts acting whiny if you deny a request, follow the same procedure.
Just keep yourself calm and show her who the older one is, and that you can easily ignore her if she acts that way.
It might be a pure hell in the start, but once she understands you're the older one, she should calm down.
But as said, get yourself a spine.
You're freaking out if a kid with a knife comes, and I dont blame you for that, but if you just disarm her, throw her out without anger and make it clear that you don't accept that behaviour and lock your door, she should understand in due time.
When she is at her worst, just go "I have better things to do" and go somewhere.
If all that doesn't help, move out.
You're fifteen, you're old enough to get a job.
School shouldnt be that of a bitch yet, so you've gotten the time.
Compared to the time wasted on your sister, that might perhaps even give you more spare time.
Just do it all calmly, and -never- under -any- circumstances put yourself to her own level of anger.
You may be angry, but always be the older part.
Even when you're angry.
I have a sister just like that.
And I don't want to murder her.
Stop being so insensitive and grow up. She's at a point in her life that's called "childhood". Everything you said she was doing is NORMAL for a 7 year old.
Don't tell me that she has behavorial problems. Ask almost /anyone/ who's had experience with a little brother or sister, and they'll say the same thing. Anyone who says you should try to improve your relationship with each other obviously has never had a little brother or sister. Just ride out this phase, because there's a lot worse things out there.
She's only 7. You are more than equipped to deal with her. There are plenty of ways to show her not to mess with you without attracting the action of your no-doubt babying parents.
Scare the shit out of her. Make growing up scary as fuck. Otherwise she will turn out to be a total bitch.
no
Hi
I want to tell you something. It might sound sugary sweet , but is true
Once upon a time i was in your situation only i was the sister.
She does all her stupid things because she wants to play with you, enjoy with you , and that is coz she loves you, you are her hero, she needs your time and attention. remember we only respect people we love and admire.