I, a somewhat typical example of a losery female otaku, have vowed to make myself cute and get a life.
The situation right now is pretty terrible. I'm seriously overweight, have no friends, no job, doing nothing with my life what-so-ever. And I live with my mum. I'm basicaly a hikki, sitting in my room, watching anime, reading manga, and doing other nerdy things all day ad night long.
I have many issues. I'm socialy incompetent. I used to be hot, but then I got depressed and became fat and nerdy.
I don't like this!!!!
So, I am working hard to change for the better. I've started exercising, cut the crap out of my diet, fixed my hair. So far i've lost a couple of kilos, but there's a long way to go before i'll be hot again.
In october, i'll sart a university preparation course which will help get me out of the house, but until then, i'm not sure what to do other than sit in my room, go for walks now and then.
I have no idea how i'll go about making new friends... but once im pretty again, i figure it should be do-able.
I'm an artist, so i've started doing sell-able paintings to make a bit of money, but it's hardly a suitable source of income and i have no qualifications...
If anyone can offer any sort of advice, or just wish me luck, it would be much appreciated!
people who would befriend you for your looks aren't real friends, you don't need them. start befriending now and you'll meet real friends, do it later as a hot chick and you'll meet assholes. if not, stay away from people, the internet is all you'll need. best of luck then.
>>2
Speaks truth. I used to be a very plain looking girl, getting little attention from guys. But after a image makeover, they started to notice me. Within a month, one of them confessed. My gut feeling was that this guy only liked me after I changed my image. Turns out I was right. He was a vain jerk that dared to call my friends ugly in front of me. I seriously regret not shaking him off earlier.
op here. >>2 and >>3, yeah, i know...the problem isn't that I think people won't want to be my friend because i'm not pretty enough, it's more that I feel really uncomfortable socialising much when I don't look hot... when i feel pretty, i find it much easier to get over my horrible shyness and get to know new people. Thankfully, i'm good at picking out those who try to befriend others for their looks, so that shouldn't be a problem.
As for guys, i'm not even going to bother starting to look yet. It's just too rare to find a guy who isn't totaly gross that would be happy to go out with a fat chick. Besides, I wouldn't be very comfortable being with a guy when i'm so unhappy with my body.
GOOD LUCK, YOU CAN DO IT :)
Find some friends before you get hot. :) It's simple! I am fat and unatractive (In my opinion) and I have plenty of friends! You just have to meet 1 friend whom has the same interests as you (I got an otaku) and then meet their friends and become friends with them.
Remember to use Anti Stretch Marks Lotion or whatever, because if you lose a lot of weight without using it you will get lots of them.
Also, Good Luck ! I too am currently losing weight, i only have 3 or 4 kilos left to achieve the perfect image.
thankyou peoples!
1.) Grammar and spelling are important.
2.) Never drink soda, try to avoid aspartame, HFCS, any other artifical sweetners and go for UNPROCESSED foods.
3.) Learn to cook.
4.) Losing weight is simple. Burn more calories than you take in.
5.) Instead of driving, walk.
6.) Start reading some books that you can discuss with people that are not related to manga/anime but perhaps have some similar themes.
I lost 20lbs which was put on by antipsychotics accidentally b/c I live my life this way.
Okay, this is dangerous for people who are not significantly overweight, so I don't reccommend it for causal use. There's an energy drink on the market now called "Red Line". It has a HUGE amount of vitamin B-12. Taking this will keep you awake for 8 hours and during that time, the B-12 will help to LIQUIFY FAT. Of course, you still have to work out to activate this effect.
Now, the reason I say this is dangerous is that after running out of fat to liquify, B-12 goes STRAIGHT FOR MUSCLE. This can land you in the hospital if you overdo it. I suggest doing it once a day at the most, and taking lots of vitamin C before drinking the Red Line to soften the crash after the energy wears off.
Good luck!!
>>10
How do you know that B-12 "liquifies" fat. That sounds like some good marketing scheme.
To be honest, my boyfriend told me that when he was telling me why not to drink that stuff... I have no idea why it does that! (^_^);; He knows about how vitamins and herbs work, though, so I put faith in him... I don't even know where to start looking this up; does anyone know of a good health-related website that might explain it?
Good luck, OP!!
(-) Ahh, I envy your drive. I've tried to better myself many times, but I get discouraged and quit early on.
If you're already regularly doing things, then the hardest part is over!
But, I agree with the others, do be careful about the friends you make... Even if you're pretty, if you have no real friends to share your successes with, I think it may not be as wonderful as planned.
I think you'll do well, though.
Good luck!! \(^^)/
>>10... well, i live in australia, and we don't have that drink here, unfortuantely.
Anyway, I have to stay away from stuff like that as i'm an insomniac...another issue I need to get under control to help me live a healthier and happier life...
B-12 helps liquify fat? extremely interesting if it turns out to be true, since i'm a vegetarian and don't get much of it. Could a lack of B-12 in my diet have contributed to my weight gain? I wonder about this, since I was never eating tooo much or unhealthily... well, mostly it's my own fault for having failed to exercise.
13>> Come join me in my quest for... betterness! Thanks for the kind words.
I really will be carefull of the friends I make...i'm all to aware that the world is full of assholes... I think it'll take a long time before I actually meet people that I could call 'real' friends,[a large part of why i have no friends now, is because i refused to keep being friends with anyone i couldn't put in that category] but I'm content to start out with a small selection of 'decent' friends.
I lost another kilo and a half since I started this thread! yay! only like...another 20 to go cries
>>14
I love my small group of friends. I don't have that many friends because I'm pretty shy, but the ones I do have I know I could trust with anything.
Even if it cuts down the number, I think it's good that you're so choosy with your friends. You don't waste your time with useless people, so that leaves more time to continue with your journey!
Congrats on the kilo and a half!!
(In october, i'll sart a university preparation course which will help get me out of the house, )
but until then, i'm not sure what to do other than sit in my room, go for walks now and then.
Then seriously think what to do with your life/with your free time.
Don't hesitate to read psychological/philosophical/religous books if you can't think of anythink.
>I, a somewhat typical example of a losery female otaku, have vowed to make myself cute and get a life.
>I, a female otaku
>I, a female
>female
LIES
Lack of B vitamins can often lead to loss of vitality and depression/confusion as odd as it sounds vitamin loss can lead to psychological issues, also your insomnia is probably due to that you don't spend enough time outdoors and your body doesnt get to do what its meant to do O_o (which im just compressing into moving right now).
As for losing weight, all the necessary tips are already posted =)
If you're into games and Manga, why don't you try going to a convention and talk to people there? Doesn't have to be anything interesting, just say hi and maybe something that'll lead to further conversation (I like your hair, cute outfit, nice weather and what not)
I hope this helps somehow, Keep at it! (`-´)>
>>16 I already have a plan for what to do with my life...i'm a poor communicater- what I meant was, i'm not sure what activities i can be doing away from the house between now and when i start my course... I'm trying to get a life, and re-adjust to being in social situations more, so i'm looking for activities i can do to help me with that.
>>17 not lies!
>> I'm quite sure vitamins don't have anything to do with it... my psychological issues were brought on mostly by a traumatic period of events i went through [which was also when my insomnia started]. I also thought my lack of being outdoors in the sun and excersising was contributing, so i tried laying around in the sun and going for walks etc, but unfortunately it didn't help.
We don't get many anime/manga conventions here, but there's one coming up soon that i'm going to. I plan on entering an art competition and taking any opportunities i get to converse with others there :) thanks
I wish you luck!
also, where abouts in Australia are you from?
do you go to church? I'd suggest joining a youth-group to make friends
now that's a little less than kind, she's trying, and that's what counts.
Sorry, that "trying" is the mainreason why there a so many OTAKUS etc.!
JUST FACE REALITY!
Fact is she is fat and not beautiful.
Yeah she tries, that is one good point.
But it won't change in the end.
Just keep living in your dreams.
When you are born disabled.
What can you do then? Try? Try what? You are just inferior, nothing more.
Just PATHETHIC!
Hypocrits.
Face the facts or just die.
This is drastically exxpressed, but if you can't do it then you will live on pathethically dreaming how it would be if you are an other person etc. etc.
Well also counting the fact that on earth there is an OVERPOPULATION of people it won't harm that more people die, no the contrary!
Fact! there is a cure for fatness.
Fact! It's not impossible for someone to change their lives, just uncommon.
Yeah....although it depends how "fat" she is.
But even if she isn't "fat" anymore, she can't realy buy her a new face etc., atleast not with the medicine-technology at the moment!!
wow- so much negativity in this thread...
[good luck fat Otaku chick, nice people are sometimes quite difficult to find]
>>20 Thanks! I live kinda near sydney.
>>21. No. I agree with >>22 here. I'd rather stay in my room the rest of my life than that.
>>23, no!
>>25, maybe it's just cos i'm sleepy right now, but i couldn't make any sense of your post. disabled people are inferior and should die? ?? Anyway, I won't be deterred by negetive peoples like you.
>>27 well, i'm not not like morbidly obese fat! This is the kind of fat that can be lost in a couple of months, with hard work. I'm doing well so far.
Thankfully, my face isn't a problem. It's a really nice face, so ugliness isn't an issue, just fatness.
I will lose my fat, and be hot again! mwahahahaha!
Allright! >>1's got the motivation! I should be motivated, too! I'll start with 25 pushups a day!!
>>31
is right. If she's willing to try - I'm gonna start working out too!
>>33 I'm a wimp, though. ^_^;; I'll start with 5x 5. Last time I tried to excersize daily, I overdid it and ended up sore and lost my motivation.
OP, your goals are doable but maybe for the wrong reasons. If you get skinny and attractive, will you actually be happy? Why exactly do you want to more slim? Because the people that will end up talking to you will be the shallow motherfuckers that need a good kick in the nuts. I do however wish you luck as it is an admirable endeavor.
SUGGESTION:Try to make a couple of friends before the change, so when you do have a coke bottle figure, you will actually have real friends.
>>35 Rather than weightloss, my actual goal is to be attractive and have a life. Part of my current unhappiness is caused by my un-attractivness, unhealthiness and lack of a life, so, when i've acheived that, i will be somewhat happier.
The weightloss is an essential part of making myself attractive and healthy, and will help my confidence in gettng a life, which is my reason for it.
I'd definitely like to make some friends at any time, whether i'm fat or skinny... the problem is meeting people i'd like to be friends with. I expect it will take longer than actualy losing weight etc will- even amongst my fellow weirdos in these parts, i've always found it difficult to find people i can relate to, have fun with etc. I suppose when i start uni, am out and about more instead of at home, i'll have more chances to get to know new people, I don't really know what else i can do...
>>36 Yeah!! You should only do these kinds of things for yourself. You've got the right attitude.
You should always try to make yourself into someone you can look up to and respect. If you'll feel more comfortable and happy with yourself after the effort of becoming more thin, your life will be better, definitely! This is the real reason to do anything self-improvement related.
that's really great that you're getting in shape. don't forget about the cardio (thats most important) work out rather than just fat burn. cardio is really important!!!
i know you want to be 'pretty' and stuff but just remember people like other people not always because they're 'hot' or something but because theyre nice and kind .
have confidence, remember when you do transformations like this its not only on the outside but you also transform yourself on the inside.
good luck and keep going!!!!
You need to change your attitude about yourself. It isn't because you're skinny/fat hot/ugly successful/poor. It's because you like yourself. People are attracted to people that like themselves. Sometimes in your life, you'll be fat, mean, ugly, etc. The important thing is to be fine with it all.
Keep up the good work! I know how hard it is to pick yourself up after some hard times. I failed out of college after a 1.5 years and after gaining 60 lbs. I'm on the road back though. :)
Sometimes it's really hard to change an attitude, so it's good to start on improving yourself as a method of channeling good energy. If you have a goal and you start achieving what you set out to do, it can really help your attitude.
Some people do it forwards and some people do it backwards. What's important is that it gets done!
I can sympathize with you here. I'm not exactly fat, but I am terribly out of shape. I have very few friends (most of whom live several provinces, or even countries, away) and I don't have a job. I feel like a leech most of the time, living off my parents' income. But I've promised myself that by the end of this year I'm going to pull out of this slump. I'm going out every day, just forcing myself to interact with other humans. Going to parties, even if I don't really feel like it, just so I can talk to people. And I mess up (allot!) when talking to people, but they don't seem to mind. At worst they'll tell me they're not interested in what I'm talking about. At best, I find a new friend interested in the same things I am.
Also, I'm starting to work out more and I'm working on a better diet (although it seems pretty hard to eat healthy these days!)
Oh, and a job, too. I need one of those.
So, yeah. I guess we're in this together. You have all my sympathy and support on this.
how much do you weigh? How much do you want to weigh?
I'll be your friend. Internet friends are better than real friends anyway =P.
>>41 Sounds like you're doing good. I need to get a job too... I advertised that i was looking for a job on the internet, but only perverts offering me jobs as a 'masseur' replied so far :(
Good luck to you too!
>>42 I weight like 84 kilos! I want to weigh 60-65 kilos. :( still a long way to go...
>>43 Thanks :)
>>43
That's not really true.
Also, even with a lot of online friends you will feel alone 'IRL' - so, most of the time.
yawns and rolls his eyes
any chance of a progress report?
Good luck OP! \o/
I borrowed my friends room-bicycle to get my daily cardio exercise and I have my own set of weights. All this just because I don't like gyms and exercising with other people... I don't want to go jogging or running because it honestly looks silly to me and bicycling in nature only works on nice days - which are fewer now that fall and winter are here. I'm weird lol
Anyways, a room-bicycle + TV (put some anime on it ;) could work. At least I hope so...
Good luck OP! YEAH!
Unfortunately I'm too lazy to do what you're doing but I'll try not to get to the level of obesity. I don't think I'll be able to stop otaku-ing though.
There's nothing wrong with being an otaku as it only means a passionate interest in some activity or subject. I'm into anime and j-drama - but for some reason I do not like collecting DVDs, books, posters or dolls. You'd never guess I'm into it by looking through my room - I only have a few mangas and the entire Megatokyo set of 5 books, the rest is non anime/manga/j-drama related. Unless you start browsing my backup DVDs... oh boyeh XD!!!
Couple pointers:
Lose weight not so you look better, but so you're healthier. Too often people lose TOO much weight trying to get their look, and end up making themselves even worse off then before.
Try to cut soda and all that stuff completely from your diet for awhile, until you're able to consume that in moderation. And then, drink NORMAL coke, instead of diet coke (or any variations or other products). Aspartame is not your friend.
You're not a hikki since you desire interaction with other people. hikki's have some mental social problems (srslyUguyz) that inhibit their social interaction.
Some of us are just awkward in social situations, but it can be rectified (I use to be nearly 100% anti social during high school, but decided to shape up, and now I have nearly no problems -- except talking with complete strangers, I sometimes get the 100-yard look in my eyes).
Also, I personally don't believe you can make yourself cute. You can look the part, but inside, you know you really won't be ;p
You should find who you are as a person, come to accept it, and nothing can ever bring you down from your happiness then.
Trust me, I'm anon ;p
oh I forgot to mention.
If you're trying to lose weight, you need to EAT.
As crazy as it seems, the more you eat, the higher your metabolism stays/becomes. This allows your body to convert the food you eat a lot faster.
If you cut back on eating a lot, your metabolism will slow down considerably, and your body can't convert what you eat fast enough, forcing it to store as fat.
This in turn makes working out a lot harder. If you have very slow metabolism, and youre working out, you're basically breaking even, and will stay the same for a long time.
Proper dieting is about eating the right food, not less food.
progress report:
well, so far i've done ok, but not great. I've gotten somewhat fitter, and have put on some muscle and lost some fat. If i continue on like this, I should be able to reach my goal wieght by christmas. I got some nice new clothes and stuff, and am more happy with my appearance. really i think i should have lost more weight than this by now, but nevermind. I'll get there.
On the social side of things, I've made a little progress. I've made some nice friends online, but none in real life. But, i've been going out of the house and talking to people a lot more, and now my uncomfortableness when socialising is really diminishing, which is a really important thing for me:) In a couple of days, I begin my university preparation course, so i will be interacting with people much more.
I've cut back my time on the computer, and increased the time i spend on other things, like art. I'm still affected a little by the depressing issues of my past, but less so than before. Slowly, i am becoming happier.
>>49 i wish i could afford my own room-bicycle!
>>52/53 thanks for all the advice :)I've done a fair bit of research into weight loss, so don't worry, i'm not starving myself. As for making myself cute- well, I found who i was as a person quite a while back, like myself a lot and think i'm a pretty cute person inside lol, so once the outside matches the inside better, i think i'll be fairly cute ^_^
Awesome work, not-so-fat.o.c! :)
I applaud your will and determination. Sounds like it's coming together for you.
Can't say I'm an expert on social stuff, but since you actively want to socialise more, you already have the right frame of mind. Join some kind of club; take karate lessons or tennis or something. Having that common bond gives you a reason to talk to people instead of just bailing up some random on the street :)
>>54 I borrowed my room-bicycle from a friend of mine who's got way to many fitness stuff :D I plan to give it back in oooo... perhaps 3 months? I might even persuade her to sell it to me and it'll cost me less because it's used. Call me a bitch but I already know I am one :D he he he