>>37
You can update if things go well too, let us at least know how the date goes!
Remember you can always sage your own post if you don't want to bump the thread to the top.
screw all those haters. I wanna know how the date went. grabs bag of popcorn
screw all those haters. I wanna know how the date went. grabs bag of popcorn
I just know that there's something really messed up with this world... No offense, but the last thing I would want (as a guy) is a girl who just dumped another girl...
Please stop making threads relating to Densha Otoko.
There it is, written at the top of the page, very official.
hi...haven't posted in this section in a long time (Romance section)...
>>41, you're right. Not only is it messed up to date someone who broke up with her ex, but also break up with an ex that's a girl!! I'm ok with the bi/homosexual environments that exist in this world...but i don't want that to go around in my own life.
Anyways, you sound like a really nice woman, Crusher (can we give you a better name too?). I admire how you like to take certain things positive and at least try to make it happen. To me, you're the female Chinese version of Densha Otoko...and apparently you are giving hope to some of these people who read this thread. Unfortunately, I'm like >>39-40 here...WHAT HAPPENS WITH THE DATE?!!!
One thing is certain: you can either be a Densha and try acting "fake" for a while (Guy [amazed]: Wow! I didn't know you were this kind of woman) or just be yourself...but slowly show your true feelings. If you're aiming for the latter, just try to have one-on-one activities and share some personal stuff about yourself (NOT TOO MUCH HOWEVER). Eventually, he'll start listening to you more deeper and probably become very interested in you.
I spent too much time thinking and typing. Just do your best!! At least here...you got friends by your side (even if you can't see us).
>>37
No anons around here. Only a bunch of Secret Admirers ;)
>>41, >>43
I can understand teh feeling...years of being only interested in girls and then a guy comes along makes all the girls angry at you, too, like you "betrayed" their community. I admit, I used to hate those girls most, too. And now I'm one of them...
No matter what, I think if you're "bi," people don't like you either way lol.
I only believe in being devoted to one person, though.
>>42
Not REALLY related? Yeah, sorry for the reference. If I ever start a thread again, I'll leave it out.
>>43 I wouldn't mind a better name! I think Secret Admirer is right, I have been too lacking in confidence when I'm already better off than many people. It's just every time I have really liked a person, it has ended in disaster. -laughs- (Two times, people: one boy and one girl. The boy rejected my confession, and the girl, well...no more talking about her.)
I'll try and stop being so enthusiastic.
Everybody says be yourself, I agree this is most important...I guess it's just trouble when you think a person might be The One.
...trying to sage my own thread, hope it works...
/lol nub
To all others beside Crusher: WE NEED TO GIVE THIS GIRL A SOMEWHAT CUTE NAME. Any ideas? I have one: Hidden Mandarin (idk...just thought "Chinese" and "Anonymous"
@Crusher (temp name): have you ever heard of the term "trial and error?" Each new date or confession is a new trial. If it doesn't work, you try looking at yourself what is the problem and improve on it. Sure, people are different, but only YOU can sustain or improve the image of yourself. Eventually, you'll find someone you'll be able to go out with, and if possible, someone you'll spend the rest of your life with.
No offense, but I really think "Thundertights" made lol more than one of us. What about that?
You guys, I was lolling and about to suggest that myself...just as a joking on myself, of course.
!! I am getting dressed for the "date." Argh. What to wear what to wear.
Question: Do nerdish guys think lolita clothes are cute, or just too frilly/only worn by bitches? ??
p.s. Am also considering "Thunderlizard"
ITT Complete Fabrication.
lol, I can post pics if you don't believe me.
>>48
I personally think lolita outfits are hotness, but I don't know what this guy likes. Your best bet is to probably dress casual and just gauge his interest for now. Of course if you WANT to dress up lolita style, go for it! If he doesn't like it, his loss. If he likes you, I don't think it'll matter what you wear, honestly.
>>51
Yeah, that's about it. Lolita = hotness, but he might be scared by high displays of sexiness so soon, I don't know.
I'd vote for casual for this one. Get to know him more.
1st date. Go with casual. Maybe he aint into it.
@Thunder-chan...if you're thinking Lolita...THINK AGAIN!! Just be casual...try not to stand out and just try to dress casual. Like what >>51 said, that the best bet...but also, to make a first impression, just don't try the Lolita style. Maybe...during the date...ask him if he minds you wearing something like that...
Hi guys, I just got home. Hm, not too sure to say if this went well or not...I dressed casually (well, my style, but casually) as per everyone's advice. I think it was good advice, thanks guys! :D
I also took some pics while I was in my loli outfit (that I wore today) so that you'll all know that I exist and I'm not just some 4-channer's fantasy. I suppose I'll update the thread with those later. (They don't show my face, of course, haha.)
I seem to make really long posts, sorry. OTL
So...I took him to a sushi restaurant, because I love sushi - I mean, really. It's a surprise I don't have mercury poisoning. He's from down South and so he admitted to not having had much sushi, but it was right near his apartment, and he said he was really into trying new things. He let me order whatever I liked, and he said, "I'm sure I'll like it."
Oh! When we were walking to dinner, he brought up that he was once seeing a girl in the area - once implying not anymore, and facebook says he's single, but I was so jealous! You don't bring up other girls to someone you might like, do you? At this point I thought maybe I was the fun weird girl again. I made him laugh, some...so at least he would like me as a friend...but, seeing as how horribly attracted I am to him, I feel like that would be pretty painful. (Like all you friendzoned guys out there)
We talked, a lot. Conversation was surprisingly easy, but he also is the type to talk to complete strangers (so am I). This is a bad gauge for liking people.
Also, like someone here pointed out, I'm overenthusiastic.
Him: I love spicy food.
Me: Oh my god, I love spicy food, too!!!
Him: (clearly making fun of me) we have everything in common. -smirk-
Me: ...hahaha... ._.
I also mentioned how I used to be really shy in high school, and I had no friends, and one day I just decided that I was sick of it and I made myself become outgoing.
Him: ...that's funny, me too.
(Which gives me HOPE.)
And then later, he repeated, "That's so funny, that you were like that, too..."
Um, so he's really cool. And really good-looking. And really, really smart. All of these factors combined = 2 1337 4 m3.
but...I think, with you guys' support, I'm going to try and go for it anyway. I mean, worst case scenario I get rejected, right? Like >>46 said.
Also, he really really wanted to get drunk with me, but I have school tomorrow so I turned him down. Hopefully, this means I have an excuse to see him again...
Oh! One part of conversation bothered me, though. He jokingly called someone my girlfriend:
Me: Oh! Don't worry, I don't have a girlfriend! In fact, I'm very, very single. (hint, hint. I mentioned seeing a boy before, once, so that he knows I like boys, too)
HIM: I think everyone in college is very, very single.
Me: Oh?
Him: Yeah, I don't think you can date in college...
Me: Oh...
(internally: Crusher is CRUSHED.) <---sorry, had to use that nickname one last time.
But maybe I can convince him? I really want to WIN him, you guys. I'm really infatuated with him, even though my chance is slim.
That's it for tonight.
--THUNDER OUT
>>55
From his comments sounds like he's not too interested, or he hasn't realized your intentions. It sounds like he had a good time though, at least, which is good. I would avoid getting drunk, that could cause problems...a drink or two would probably be OK if you need courage, but I wouldn't get drunk so you lose control, ESPECIALLY around a guy you're interested in!
Possible suggestion - When you see him tomorrow, try bringing up that you really enjoyed his company and would love to go out on a date again sometime, maybe even suggest a time/place. If you mention the word 'date' it pretty much confesses your interest/intentions without being 'OMG I R LOVES J00!!'. If he doesn't react positively to that you can at least save face by changing it to 'go out as friends'.
The situation sounds like borderline friendzone though, so probably best to make your intentions known before it's too late. I could be wrong though, I've never had a relationship myself [lol friendzone'd MANY times] so take my advice with a grain of salt.
Good luck, and keep us updated!!
I think this guy has something for you. If he's 'shy' like you, maybe he didnt know how to show interest. Thats why he really wanted to drink with you, because alcohol makes you lose your inhibitions. Or he wanted to get u wasted and get in your drunken pants.
Either way dont give up!
OP get a trip code. Fake or not, this thread is quite good for killing time. I think we need a resident ASCII artist here.
Seems like a good date eh?
>>55
He seems like opening up to you which normally indicates that he is interested. Good job at keeping him talking and not having those weird pauses(if you didn't have em). One question: How was he responding to your questions? I mean what did he sounded like. Did he spoke softly like when he said "Yeah, i don't think you can date in college..."?(or for the other answers that he gave for that matter)
How dare you say your chances are slim! Going out with him is the first of many milestones. Don't give up! Chui koi!("chase him" in cantonese)
Okay, so. Here are PICS to prove I exist.
http://img404.imageshack.us/my.php?image=bigpiccy010copyca4.jpg
http://img204.imageshack.us/my.php?image=bigpiccy011rq2.jpg
http://img404.imageshack.us/my.php?image=bigpiccy012copyhh6.jpg
so, you see, a girl like me (who likes internet, and is into weird things) exists. And thanks to this BBS, I now know that there are many guys out there who would like a weird girl like me! I hope we've all given each other hope and, if this guy doesn't work out, maybe I'll be giving you guys a call. LOL. (´-`)
I got a tripcode. I have different ID's all over this thread because I post from school's wireless, which has different IP's all over campus.
>>56 I found wanting to get drunk encouraging, kind of. Like, do guys get drunk so that they can make a move? I know when I'm drunk, I'm super-affectionate. When I was chasing my best friend I really wanted to get drunk with him so I could be lovey and have an excuse the next day. (It worked, like, I did lovey things, but in the end, he still said, 'I'm sorry, I don't see you that way.' -_-")
>>57 I'm also kind of afraid that he just wants to use me for sex. As you can see from the pics, I'm on the chubby side but not too overweight, and the kind that a guy probably could just sexxx0r without thinking about. I'm a virgin, though, so LOL, not gonna happen.
@Superman - lol, now I'm imagining Superman going "gah yau, gah yau!" (add gas) while pumping his fist in the air for me. That is really encouraging! (￣ｰ￣)
No weird pauses. I got nervous, though, like, trying to eat and talk at the same time. I was so nervous I wasn't even very hungry and we had a lot of sushi left over. I asked him if he wanted any more, and he said, "No, it's all yours!"
Me: Oh, hahaha...maybe I will have a little more.
Him: (fake serious look) Of course I'm judging you by how much you eat.
Me:......... -eats one more piece, puts chopsticks down-
Most of the time he said things in a very matter-of-fact tone. (Like, this is my opinion, but it might as well be fact.) Usually I can kind of tell when guys are flirting (?? maybe?) but I could not read him at all. I think I'm probably blinded by how much I like him.
Mostly I think his tone was cynical...
Oh! I don't go to school with him, but we discussed maybe doing something this weekend. I'll probably call him or text him in a day or two.
This is getting long, huh. Sorry, guys.
Oh, >>56, I'm too afraid that using the word "date" straightaway will scare him off (Worst case scenario: This weird girl likes me, she might be a creepy stalker! -runs away-) We don't go to school together, but it's not much hassle for me to go out to his area. In fact, we kept on saying how easy it would be for us to hang out and he emphasised that he would be in the area for summer.
ok, question time: What makes a date a date? One of my guy friends says that any time a guy goes out to spent time with a girl one-on-one, without a previously established friendship, it's a date. I always thought that if the boy paid for you, it's a date, or if he at least offered to pay.
He didn't offer. We split the bill. But I don't like guys paying for me, anyway, it makes me uncomfortable...
Also, is friendzone possible for girls? (I know I have experienced it, but) I've been reading on this board that a guy wouldn't be friends with a girl he wasn't at least somewhat attracted to...is this true?
I would say that using the word date won't scare him off, as while it does show your intent some, there's still the fact that going on a date doesn't actually mean anything binding, really. I'd say that you're fairly safe on being not considered a creepy stalker.
That said, I personally think that the friendzone is possible, but not really all that likely, for girls. There are a few girls I know who I would never consider dating that I hang out with, but for the most part, I do tend to meet my female friends because I was attracted to them in the first place.
P.S.- You're totally awesome for what thread you were reading during those pictures :P
well, we are all rooting for you, Yoshiya. -smiles- just remember to come back and tell us how it went, eh?
>Okay, so. Here are PICS to prove I exist.
（ °∀°）
>do guys get drunk so that they can make a move?
YES. Definately yes.
Which is a terrible thing because if anything happens, you'll wonder if it was alcohol speaking or not. But this can also be used as a lame excuse if anything went wrong. Oh double-edged sword.
>I think I'm probably blinded by how much I like him.
That's probable. He might also be the kind of guy that's hard to read. Some people are like that. I know I am. And that I'm inexorably attracted to girls that are the same. Of course this leads to many awkward situations. Like dropping hints like madness (a thing I usually don't do) and being persuaded that everyone around me got where I was going, but in the end NO ONE suspected anything. "You hide your game well", told me one friend. Which really was the one who should have realized it first. Of course even the girlie didn't get it. Duh.
>Also, is friendzone possible for girls?
Yes it's possible. But not for the majority.
>What makes a date a date?
Depends on people and culture, I guess. For me, it's when a girl and a boy spend time together one-on-one, and that at the end of it things between them go "level up!" (that doesn't imply anything sexual or even a kiss - just that the relation between them both closes up a bit).
----
That's it for the answers. Now, as I see it: he likes you. He likes hanging around you, and if you're really "weird" like you say, you might be some kind of "rare species". Rare + liked = prizable, if you see what I mean. Now just you try and grow on him!
The idea is not suffocating him by being always around (this is one of the things that makes guys run away), but still somehow pressuring him. Think fishing, it's the same process. Pull too hard and you break the line; leave too much room and it slips away.
Find a way, however you propose it, to get another date. You have to get it soon, but not too close to the first (ie, as soon as possible decide on a "date" next week or so). And each time you have this kind of one-on-one situation, your objective is that at the end he likes you "a bit more", to the point (let's hope it happens) things get flirtarious and such.
He seems a cool guy. Best luck to you Thunder-chan!
>>60
Hihi, #56 here.
First off, love the pics. Lolita still = hotness, and it fits you well. Also,
>I'm a virgin, though, so LOL, not gonna happen.
You win so much for this. I'd totally give you my # if it doesn't work out.
Anyway!~
I only recommend against getting drunk because as you mentioned you were worried he might just want to use you for sex (which also makes me a bit concerned that he might not be a good guy to pursue if he makes you feel that way). #64 also mentioned another reason why alcohol isn't so good for confessions. If you have a good amount of self control tho like it sounds you do, then go for it if you think it'd help--just be careful!! ;o;
As for mentioning the term 'date', I've heard from friends that unless you specifically say the word date, it's not. That seems to be my experience as well, as I've gone out with female friends in completely platonic situations many times. This also answers your friendzone question...a lot of my friends back home (I'm in college, master's degree in game design, etc.) are girls, they have boyfriends but we're still really good friends. One of my female coworkers I used to frequently go to lunch with, and it was all friends-only. Same with my former roommate who was a girl, she was taken and I never thought of her as more than anything but a close friend.
Overall, if he likes you, mentioning the word 'date' will not scare him off, but he'll be totally in to the idea. If he's not in to you, then it might scare him off, but if he wasn't in to you to begin with, then.. D: [Not offering to pay isn't a good sign, IMHO. ]
Bottom line: It's really a judgment call on your part. We don't really know what he's thinking [If only it were that easy, right?], so I imagine you have two choices- either go for the straight out asking for a date/getting drunk and confessing, or just stay friends and slowly try to win him over (well, or doing nothing, but that's no good!) As a guy, the latter seems to typically fail, but if you get a good feeling about making progress, feel free to give it a try. Either way, we're all rooting for your success!
Thunder, I hate you because I want you.
In a fire with you.
Burn.
off topic; this topic breathes some nice life in 4-ch. Continue!
>[Not offering to pay isn't a good sign, IMHO. ]
Don't know. I know for some first "dates" which I wanted to come as casual and not "too strong", I didn't propose to pay (or just acted like it was a mutual agreement to share without even lifting the case) - either because I shyed out or because I, well, wanted to take my time.
-laughs- you guys are all confusing me now. I've been trying to think about ways to ask "do you want to go out on a date with me" but I can bet you all right now, it's going to sound like, "wannagodawime" aufjfjlfdfkk;
Hmm...we're supposed to hang out this weekend (no specifics set), and maybe I'll muster up the courage to say that word, "date," but. erm. don't want him to be scared away. (Some guys are afraid of commitment!)
Our hangout this weekend supposedly includes one of my best best friends. (He's a guy, but he's obviously gay.) I feel like Hermes...bringing a friend along to see how he measures up. (Okay, no more densha ref, but my friends are very important to me!) He didn't suggest that I bring the friend, I did...am I shooting myself in the foot?
I have more to say on date vs. not but I write too much, already. Thank you everybody for your input, trust me, I am listening!
>>66, one word for you: HAWT.
@Thunder-chan: Do you have a closet-full of Lolita clothes?
In a way, I think that is cool because it shows your interest in whatever style you're in...but I also think it is creepy because it tells me THAT'S what you only wear (but I guess that's just a common opinion to most people).
Anyways, back to the thread. I can tell you first hand that when I was "dating" (and I mention this because we weren't really close at the time), we kept splitting the bill every time we went out. Before I continue, I can tell you that I'm from the upper-middle class (I'm not ashamed because that's where I come from) and my girlfriend is from the rural class (basically...poor). Even after we began going out, she still demanded me to split the bill. She tells me later that it's not because we're not lovers, but more likely she puts it as "WE'RE NOT MARRIED, STUPID!!" Eventually, she let me pay for most of our dates because I showed my dedication to her.
I'll clarify more...but I have to let my roommate in the dorm...brb.
sorry about that folks.
What I was trying to say is that "splitting the bill" might not always be a sign of unaffectionate attention. Sometimes, the guy might not have enough cash, so therefore he requests you pitch in...other times...he can just be a dick and not realize that he should treat the girl.
Regardless of the reason, the main focus should of been whether his tone of voice was calm and social, or you think he's putting a face. As I read your post, I basically remembered the times when I told my girlfriend "you can have the rest" (even though I was still hungry and she was weight-conscious) and I got a slap in the face. I'm not surprised though that you didn't do it this time...but if it repeats again...you think you'll retaliate?
Quite honestly though, I think it should be fine that you are worried to say the word "date." In most cases, it's the guy who should say it because us guys are supposed to take the lead. However, since you initially stated that you like to take an aggressive approach, this could be an exception (just don't force it on his face!). I believe you like to hang out with him, and that's good. My question is: do you like to hang out with him some much that sometimes you feel you only want to hang out with him, and block your friends out for that moment?
Good luck on the hangout though. Remember, you and that guy are just friends still at this point. Until either you or that guy musters the courage to say "can we go out," just imagine that you like to hang out with this guy more than anyone else.
As for >>65, STFU! We're supposed to help Thunder-chan out, not reassuring her of losing her virginity if this doesn't succeed.
Yo Thunder-chan...you're a great girl; don't forget that.
@soccerfuu9
Haha, I think a closet of only lolita is pretty creepy, too, because sometimes it's inappropriate wear, and those dresses are expensive, y0! I used to be REALLY goth, so my closet has a lot of black...I also used to wear a lot of really punk clothing (zippers, chains)...but I've mellowed out since then. Nowadays I'm still "stylish" but I like fashions that are more mainstream-appropriate. I like a lot of skirts, though...and tights/stockings...I kind of hate pants...
I didn't retaliate meanly, I just sort of laughed it off. I'm self-conscious because I'm a little on the chubby side, (NOT fat, don't worry, I'm not crazy) and he seems to have a really perfect body. Maybe next time I'll joke and try to feed him...(but that is a BIG forward move!)
I would like it if he asked me out, that would make things a lot easier! (´~`) If he doesn't, well...we'll see where this goes, I'll try to be myself and gauge his interest.
...of course I want to hang out with only him...I think I sort of panicked when I invited my friend along...(plus, he really wants to meet him...)
ah, time for this face: ＿|￣|○
@Thunder-chan: "plus, he really wants to meet him..."
I hope he ain't gay...
Anyways, for now, I guess hanging out with him like normal people is a fresh start, Thunder-chan. You have to let him know that you are a friendly person to hang out with and that you are free to let him talk about whatever and vice versa. Joking around and trying to feed him isn't a "dating" move in my book...it's just for fun. It's only a "dating" move if you start calling him "honey" or some random shit.
Where do you buy your clothes in HK? High-end department stores?
Oh...and for future posts, maybe you should post pics of yourself in other clothing (though I'm pretty sure some of the Lolita fans here will bang their heads).
Have fun with it Thunder-chan...you're doing fine. And don't make that face!! Be :)
what's wrong with this thread? How come I can't see all the postings?
>>137
Some idiot found an exploit late last night that made threads show no content, and spammed it pretty much everywhere. Some thread pruning probably had to occur as a result, I imagine. I notice some threads that were here last night no longer exist, as well.
That's pretty depressing!
This is why we can't have nice things ;[
Ah, well, at least this entire thread didn't disappear...unlike a lot of other people's threads...
YAY!!! At least Thunder-chan is still here to keep me company
Hey guys. I'm feeling kinda down. It's Friday and it's almost 9 o'clock.
Boy said his finals ended today, and for me to call him. He made me promise to call him (it's kinda weird, isn't it? Isn't the boy supposed to make the calls? Oh, well...) and he said we'd do something. I called a couple of hours ago, and he didn't pick up. I left a message: "Hey, just wanted to see if you were free tonight and maybe wanted to do something. If you've already got plans, that's cool."
He hasn't called me back, and I'm probably worrying for no reason. We didn't say that we'd do something on Friday, but he's leaving for a trip on Sunday, and it'd be nice if he called to make plans for tomorrow...I don't even care if he has plans, it'd just be nice to know what's going on.
I don't want to call again, because I don't want to be too clingy/scare him away.
Even though I have work to do, I was looking forward to going out tonight. I dressed up for him and everything...
Oh, well. Time to do my work, I guess.
if you're thinking of pulling out the "stood-up" button...don't fret yet. I suppose he has a particular reason why he hasn't called you back. However, when he does...just ask him simply "how was your day?" going into inquisition mode just will make things worse
I'm just a 15 year old boy, but I know that Thunder-chan is a good person and that's what matters most!
WE LOVE YOU THUNDER-CHAN!!
Hey guys. I love you too, heh.
He texted me last night and said he was sleeping and so he missed my call, but when I texted him back asking if he wanted to do something, I didn't get a reply. I texted him once more and called him with no response, so I figured he went back to sleep and so I left a message that just said, "Call me, okay?"
He didn't call me as of yet today, it's 4 in the afternoon, he's going away tomorrow. Even though I know the ball's in his court, I really wanna see him, so I just called him. He didn't pick up. I didn't leave a message this time.
I am trying very very hard not to call him again, because I remember he said he hates clingy girls. I might have to delete his number from my phone or something to remove the temptation :[
...I guess it's back to the old drawing board, huh...
>>145
Aww, feh...sorry to hear it's not going so well ;_; He doesn't know what he's missing out on. Hopefully you'll hear from him before the day ends, at least, but still, bleh. What a meanie, leaving a nice girl like you waiting. Well, we know how awesome you are, even if he doesn't [yet!]
For now just try to distract yourself with other stuff, post here, play some games, anything to keep your mind occupied. It's hard, I know, I've been there before when I had huge crushes on girls.
To offer a different opinion than the majority: You sound like an annoying bitch who tries to dress interesting and act bubbly and "unique" to make up for the hideous black whole of nothing that is your personality.
js
>>147 and you like skinny-ass bitches who starve themselves to death and say "I look pretty like a celebrity"...screw u
anyways...Thunder-chan...it's about timing at this point of the game. I'm not quite sure myself what the deal is why he isn't responding...but "clinging" is a very possible issue. Still, you can't blame him for being busy and such. Don't delete his number though...you might hear from him again soon.
However...
This might be a good move for you...the next time you go on a date with him. How I put it...if you talk with him and tell him "you know I've been trying to get a hold of you"...I bet he will get annoyed at first. However, if you also tell him "i'm not trying to annoy you...you are my closest friend, and I really care (or "like" if you REALLY want to make a move) for you," then he might see some reasoning into why you want to hang out with him so much. Regardless...it's up to you whether to push the "clinging" button or not.
Hope he will go back to you soon...
hahaha, I know I have a personality. I can see why it might be tempting to stereotype me, though. Thanks for your thoughts, venomous anonymous!
Soccerfuu, I'm trying to keep my cool. I'm sure it's nothing and I'm overly worrying.
Still, it would be nice to send him a card that says, "Do you like me? Circle one...Yes/No/maybe."
^^^oops, that was me.^^^^
I think I'm also paranoid because I've never liked someone so much before. And because I feel like I've had experience with things that look like they'll go somewhere and then fail spectacularly.
while Thunder-chan's love adventure is on hold...anyone else trying out love via Thunder-chan's experience?
well i think it's getting more exiciting with this love story
@thunder-chan
i think deleting his no. is not the right idea who knows maybe he will contact you again. have more patience peace ^ ^\/
Sorry Thunder, but I think you did get a bit clingy. Play it cool and get your mind on something else like anime, or extreme water polo.
Theres nothing worse then being completely infatuated and then getting a bullet to the heart. I know I've felt it; and I bet there are others who have too.
So just play it cool madam.
do you draw or read frequently Thunder-chan?
I do, Soccerfuu! In fact, I just finished my portfolio today.
>>153, yeah, that was what I was afraid of. TRYING VERY HARD TO PLAY IT COOL. ( ˃ - ˂) I'll wait for him to call/text when he feels like it.
I don't really watch anime, though...tell me more about this extreme water polo of which you speak.
Sorry, that was me again.
let's see some of your artwork, Thunder-chan...it must look really sweet.
as 4 just playing it cool...just keep drawing or do something else. Maybe make something for him when he gets back...
Interesting thread ^^
Anyways goodlucks to all Thunder, Soccerfuu9, and all the 4-ch people in romance.
I am rooting for you all. -Kira
haha, maybe I'll post some artwork later.
Wouldn't making something for him be too much...? If I don't want to come off as crazy and clingy...
NEwayZ I have an update. So...I didn't touch the phone for days after the last call, and you know what? It worked, guys. He texted me this morning asking me what I was doing...I asked him, aren't you away already? And he responded, "Nah, I decided to stay one more day."
Me: (internally) GREAT SUCCESS!!
We made plans to do lunch. It was kinda awkward when we met up, like every time I thought it was a moment to take his hand we'd separate or something or he'd walk faster and I'd miss it, haha. ( ._.;;)
He's also poor this time around, so he didn't offer to pay. I knew this, but I wanted to offer to pay for him to show him I could do something nice for him, too (is this a dating faux pas?) but when we ordered at the sandwich shop and I tried to order together he told the girl, "separate..." and looked at me. I hope he wasn't offended that it looked like I expected him to pay for me. I smiled and said, "I can take care of you too, you know..." And he very adamantly refused -haha, I hope this didn't insult him as well.
Well, we walked to the movies again and we were in the city, so I kept on getting shuffled about by the crowd, so he finally said, "here," and offered me his arm.
（ ´ー｀）
Anyway, we ended up going to see Speed Racer. (We really loved it!) I put my hand on top of his during the movie, and again he readjusted it so that it was more comfortable. At the end of the movie, I said, "did you know, that 'go' in Japanese means five, so it would be Go Mach Go Go?"
He laughed about it and then said he didn't.
So then I said, "and there's another word in Japanese that I like...my Japanese best friend taught it to me."
HIM: ??
Me: ...deeto. (デート...forgive the romanization if it's wrong...de-to?)
Him: which is...?
Me: Date.
Him: Ah. -laughs- I see.
Me: So...when you get back...you'll take me on a デート, right?
Him: -smiling- Yes.
!!!!
GREAT SUCCESS.
(And to those of you who are wondering, yes, that was sickeningly rehearsed in my head for a long time ahead of time...)
He had to catch his bus right after the movie, but he took the time to walk me back to where I needed to be. He gave me a hug when he left, and I think he wanted to kiss me on the cheek, but we were in a public place.
He said, "Mark your calendar, I'll be back on the 20th!"
I'm happy. THANKS GUYS! YOU ARE ALL AWESOME.
（ ´ー｀）
congrats Thunder-chan with the huge upgrade!! Yet...this story is still going on. Like I said...this isn't a big bang...it's just a slow progression into a girl's love life story. I'm just happy to be a part of this...
awwww that's soo sweet!
>I'm happy. THANKS GUYS! YOU ARE ALL AWESOME.
NO U!
thats great now the story continues ^ ^
its nice to see this thread with good updates hope they could become real couples
Well what you're currently doing is called dating... You'll start feeding him any minute. Now the thing with him not paying is weird. I am a guy and I pay even if a girl is rich (I am far from rich unfortunately). I know that sometimes that may make girls uncomfortable, but seriously most of the time guys should pay, unless we date money-sucking bitches whom I wouldn't in the first place.
Now the other thing... Too many calls, messages, voice-mails on Saturday. And he comes out of the blue and texts you like nothing happened. Some sort of play if you ask me. For some reason he seems to like keeping you desperate... It's really irresponsible of him to act that way, but hey it works with most girls...
Good luck and keep us updated.
Actually, my friend expressed this concern as well, since he classifies himself as the "Alpha Male" type, yet every single move has been on my part. (There was a deleted post where I was the first one to take his hand). The first two times we went out, he asked me to call him, and the second time, he said, "Call me. You'll call me right? You promise?"
...he's never the one calling me first.
My friend said to watch out that I don't become his "backup," where he knows that I like him a lot, but he only sees me when he feels like it, and he might be seeing other girls too...
But I tell myself she's overthinking it.
Well there are guys like that. Intelligent guys, smooth-talkers who make you believe every possible compliment they make... The last thing I want is brag about it, but I am one of them so I know my type I guess. We are capable of seducing any girl we feel like (and I am just average when it comes to attractiveness, plain face)... We use our intelligence, extensive knowledge of social trivia and many other "tricks" to make girls we like believe that we're like that only with them. In reality, guys like us are usually in that open-dating scheme with at least three girls at a time. We're virtually incapable of pure love or at least we don't believe in it until it happens...
I am saying all this not to bring your hopes down but to take care because you might end up hurt. Despite your quirks (we all have them anyway) you seem nice and a bit naive, just the kinda girl he grabs for dinner... Of course, I might be wrong, but it doesn't hurt to be a bit cautious... One positive thing is that other girls who he is potentially seeing now are in pretty much the same situation...
I read all your posts and you said somewhere that he's authoritative and when he tells you something he makes you feel like every thing he says is a fact. Next thing he will start saying something about you and start controlling you in a way. He already does that... But, if you are submissive by nature and you don't care as long as you're by his side then there are good news -> he likes you, even as a backup... Although, I am pretty sure that you have some dignity and you want get to the point of literally begging him to stay with you...
I think that for now it's best to play along and take a rational look at his behavior. That will give you more answers than all of us 4channers together.
I am rooting for you!
>>166 as much as I want to say you gave good advice on the last sentence...i love how you advertise yourself as a "player." Let's try not to brag...ok?
anyways, thunder-chan...i understand the feeling of being "a shoulder to lean on." However, if what you say is true about yourself...then he's not getting all that you are. being cautious like wat >>166 said is only IF you feel that either a) you feel he's not into you or b) you're desperate. despite that, i'm thinking you are fine with the situation; it's just a phase where you think "is he really thinking about me...should i even care still?"
i can tell you this...when my girl and I were first starting to aim towards the dating tree, I ALWAYS had to call her (she didn't have a care in the world why I kept calling her). It took a couple of months before she decided to call me and say "I just want to say hi." That's the first part. Don't fret; it's still early...it's only the end when you hear "I can't see you in my life"
Hey, I haven't checked this thread for a while.
What's going on?
quick re-cap of the Thunder-chan story:
1) Thunder-chan feels insecure about sexuality and about present crush
2) Comes to 4ch for help, and gets "resourceful" advice
3) Posts images of herself that made guys want to have her
4) Went out with guy for the first time
5) Hung out a couple of times with the guy, occasionally holding hands
6) Boy leaves for wherever place that was, making Thunder-chna sad
7) She questions boy's intention with the dating situation...
8) Posters congrats her like New Year's Day
9) Hears good and bad advice from friends and 4ch posters
10) Thunder-chan get to go to lunch with boy
11) To be continued...
She was obviously raped and killed.
If anyone finds the body, just... Just take some pictures of it, okay?
Bye Thundey
That's because you don't have proper spyware detection. I'm sorry, but, your computer is infected.
>>176
Maybe they have a proper web browser instead.
Oh wow, I'm really reminded of Densha Otoko for some reason. Haha...anyway, great job, Thunder-chan. Just be careful 'cause >>166 could be right.
sorry, but i'm bumping this thread because right now...i'm like Thunder-chan when she had to wait for her crush until the 20th (which just passed). I'm in another county from my gf...and I'm sad that I'm not with her because it the first time in a while we're REALLY apart (we graduated from college Saturday). However, unlike my past experiences where I thought "is she going to cheat on me; will she even call me; does she even care that we're still going out" were the reasons for feeling anxious...I realized that I love this girl too much to just think she'll do something stupid. In other words...I trust her a lot more and I'm waiting to come home for her.
Sorry to rain on your thread, Thunder-chan. However, take this advice whenever you don't see your "boy" for a few moments or days: if you continue to love him more than yesterday, then it means you are involving your trust more towards him. You can take our advice one way or another, but all I can say is if you continue to love him...then the dream you are trying to achieve is just within your grasp.
Hey guys.
It's past the 20th, as mentioned, and still no word from him. I gave in and texted him - just once, mind you - on the evening of the 20th, just to let him know I was in town in case he was back. (I was, for reasons completely unrelated to him, I was seeing my friends).
No response, and no word since he left.
I'm a little depressed I guess, but I'm sure it's nothing...
If he doesn't contact me in a week I guess I'll worry. But until then, I'll keep my chin up and I encourage you all to do the same in your own affairs!
Thanks for your kind words and encouragement, everybody. And thanks for your support, soccerfuu...I guess we all think crazy things sometimes, huh.
That sucks, Thunder-chan. I have to admit that I'm getting a bit worried right now...Anyway, keep your chin up and wait it out! We'll provide support for ya!
apparently...we're all crazy in love with this thread Thunder-chan!! right guys?
lets hope this would turn into a happy ending
I wonder if he's called yet!?!?!
lol Thunder, since you have shown your thighs on those pics, you've got a lot of interest in this thread suddenly :) btw, I didn't see anything wrong with your weight. I know you mentioned that you have to lose weight. Maybe it's me, I don't like too skinny girls :)
Anywayz, I hope everything works out for you
New here. Just wanted to drop that:
Hey guys. I'm so happy you're all reading my thread! I really appreciate every single comment and everybody who reads and doesn't comment, even. But I wonder if we are coming to an end...and not the happy one that I first posted about after I wrote about our successful "date," either. (That post is now deleted, but I took his hand and he continued to hold it for the rest of the time we were together. It filled me with a huge amount of hope and optimism.)
Anyway, this is probably going to go over the character limit. But basically, I'm kind of depressed now.
I knew I said I would give it a few days, but today I gave in and texted him - just once- I know enough not to send too many texts or be overly affectionate in them, but I just wanted to invite him to the aquarium with my friend and me, since my friend is leaving for Japan soon. (The boy and I had talked about going to the aquarium before, and possibly going with my friend.)
No response.
So basically, it's been almost two weeks since we've spoken in any way. It's the longest I've gone without communicating with him since I've met him. (Even when he was sick and couldn't see me, I called him and we chatted on the phone.)
I'm really wondering what's going on...Like, if you like a girl, you would want her to know, right? Especially if he claims to be the "Alpha Male" type. He said he'd call. He practically promised.
And we've text-flirted before, so it's not like he doesn't text at all...
Although, he has said that he's "sketchy" with the phone, and that he sometimes doesn't pick up/respond within a reasonable amount of time...
Part of me knows I am being particularly paranoid because this is a case of I like him > he likes me.
In my more paranoid, crazy moments, I think he has been playing me all along, and he's possibly seeing another girl.
In my overly forgiving moments, I think something's happened to his phone.
In my cynical and bitter moments, I think maybe he just doesn't care, period.
I'm especially bitter right now because this shit always, always happens to me. Every time I think I might have a romantic prospect with potential, something that could possibly lead to a loving, long-term relationship (the ultimate goal, of course), something happens to ruin it. Life's not a fairytale.
And I think I should give up on this childish concept of "love" altogether.
Don't mind me, I'm just being a bitter, poisonous single.
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I know I may be getting ahead of myself here, but I need to prepare for the worst, right?
Anyway, thanks everybody for reading and caring. It really heartens me to know that some guys like my type since I'm feeling particularly inadequate in some way. Not ______ enough, or something.
I hope everybody else is having better luck than this Thunder-girl!
Hope you'll feel better soon. Being single is not that bad...
Sorry to hear that, but this leads me to my suggestion:
Don't text or email. Call. The problem with text messages, emails, and, to a lesser extent, IM, is that they can be ignored, and the receiver can pretend to be away, not listen/notice it, or whatever. However, with a call, he needs to give you a reply immediately, and explicitly acknowledge what you've told him. It's the same for business. With elusive people, you have to be a bit more pushy and inquisitive.
eh why giving it up when its getting good already dont you think something happened to him?
I agree with >>190. Give him a call instead of a text, since texts aren't really as direct. Don't give up yet, Thunder.
Been reading this thread for a while but don't give up on him if you truly dig him a lot. Like previous replies suggest, call him to see what's up.
Hope everything's cool, Thunder. fingers crossing
>>OP
This is >>165 again.
I kind of expected this behavior on his side. But Thunder, don't for a moment look down on yourself. Although I don't want to speak in everybody's name, I honestly believe you're the type of girl most 4-ch guys would like to date, and probably more than that = have a serious relationship with you. The way one speaks/writes gives them away, and you're somebody with very pure personality, which is virtually non-existent today. Don't create an image of yourself based on one careless and irresponsible guy's behavior. And let's not be too negative... Maybe he had something important and who knows if he's in the town even, so it's not like he avoids you necessarily. If you overthink it like this, you'll just hurt yourself.
I agree with the rest of guys here, don't just give up and walk away like that. Give him a call. Be true to yourself and him. You know yourself better than us. If you think you are a strong person who is able to accept a defeat and overcome it, then you are ready to deal with this situation. There's nothing wrong with opening up about your feelings once in a while. You might tell him that you see him as more than just a friend. If he rejects that, then big deal.. didn't work out... Happens to everybody... If he makes fun of you (for some reason I have such an impression of him) then you were losing your time with him, in the first place... I know it's hard to deal with love or profound liking but there is something you have to learn for your own good. You MUST save your emotional energy for somebody that deserves it. Otherwise you will meet the right person for you (sooner or later) empty-hearted. Sorry for tl;dr. I definitely didn't want to sound preachy...
CALL HIM!
Rooting for you.
We're all rooting for ya!!!
if we had the opportunity, we would steal this crush's #, dial him up, and vocally interrogate him about his feelings for Thunder-chan...or we could also steal his info about where he is and become the Spanish Inquisition.
I agree with soccerfuu9!
Has anybody got a REALLY bright light bulb and a chair I could strap him down to?
Perhaps a pair of pliers or something?
Oh no, not the comfy chair!
Hey guys. You are all really wonderful...I know I keep saying that, but damn, you all know how to make a girl smile, even when I was feeling so ＿|￣|○
Anyway, I know everybody was pressing for a phone call, but I was wondering if his phone was messed up, and so I sent him a facebook message about the aquarium. He responded a couple of hours later, saying that his phone was being 'sketchy.' I was like, "What does that mean? Like it's broken? XD" I'm going to go ahead and believe him, of course, (even though the paranoid part of me wonders if it's an excuse) and he said that his research project has started, and he's working 50hrs/week, but he'll see if he can try and get some free time this weekend. I messaged him back about what his schedule is like this summer (and about the phone) and he hasn't responded yet. That was...a couple of days ago?
Anyway, I've been thinking, and I can see now that this is a case of I like him> he likes me. Which isn't a bad thing, but like -- clearly I'm not a priority in his life, even though I have such a huge crush on him in mine. So really...I need to just chill the fuck out. He doesn't care about me, so I shouldn't care so much, right? It's just hard, haha...＿|￣|
All my girl friends are saying I should give up on him, but I thought that over too, since it's a case of my pride vs. my heart, FIGHT. They say things like, "you're too good for him," "no guy should ever treat you that way" - but if I go that route, I just end up self-righteous and alone. I appreciate this support, but it's not like I will settle down with just anybody. I really thought that he was everything I was looking for (looks, smarts, sense of humour) and even though I see that he's flawed, he's still worth pursuing, in my eyes.
The way I see it, (dorky talk ahead) relationships are kind of like playing a game, right? And now I've just entered hard mode. I know I have a chance, and the right stats, i just have to beat down his HP until he likes me the same...XD; If I throw down my controller, it's not even GAME OVER. It's just quitting. You can't beat a game that way.
Did that make sense?
I know you guys hate it when girls "play games," so I don't want to do anything manipulative, and I really do like him...But I really wonder how he sees me, from his guy's POV.
Thunder OUT, keep on rawking, you guyz!
