oh yeah, 200 GET
you know what though...if it really gets to your nerves, you can always approach him...up-front-and-personal...and demand what is going on between you two. It sounds awful and disgraceful, but I can say from experience that as a worse-case scenario, I feel it relieves you of the pressure of "does he/he not like me" feeling and just letting you move on. It happened to me once...and if i did not say it to a past crush and she denied me, I wouldn't be dating the wonderful girlfriend I have today.
otherwise...patience is a virtue; just let it flow. I feel even if this fails...we'll still be here for you.
Agreed. Just go with the flow.
Hang in there! :)
Poor Thunder Ch-
AAAAAAH THE FIRE TRUCK HAS STOPPED OUTSIDE AND THE LIGHTS ARE FLASHING! AAAH FIRE!
I hope it doesn't spread to my house!
This is your fault!!!
Oh it's gone now.
As I was saying:
Poor Thunder Chan.
>>200
Considering your looks and tastes, and how you're calling him for a date, I'm starting to think he must be gay.
> relationships are kind of like playing a game, right?
Actually, that's why they often fail. The average girl likes to play with guys' feelings. I hate those stupid run-and-catch games, all they do is fuck guys up and often make these girls miss a potentially good guy who gets confused, depressed or pissed off and forgets her.
You, on the other hand, seem more direct, which is good and honest; in other words, the right thing to do. If you think you don't have much of a chance by now, then perhaps you could give it one last, definite try, as >>202 said, to ask him up front what he thinks about you and if he's interested on a relationship. Maybe he is, and in the worst case that he says he's not, you'll have an easier time forgetting about him.
Would you like us to kidnap some pretty boys for you? You can pick and choose which one's you wanna keep. :)
>>207...that actually makes you feel bad. That's like saying "I look stupid...so here are better guys you should go out with." I'm not saying that's not her resolve...but she's still hooked to this guy...
are you feeling better Thunder-chan?
>>207 why do you need them when there is.... me!
Flexes muscles choooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!
>>206
Yeah...I kind of fail at playing games, anyway...I have more of a guy mind, I guess. You're either attracted or you're not, you're either interested or you're not. You're right, I am a direct person.
I've been giving this a lot of thought, and I guess I wouldn't want to be with someone who wants to toy with me anyway. He's clearly not OMG PERFECT or any kind of "prince", and once I look at him realistically, it's easier to start picking myself up and prepare for moving on.
Screw the boys, let's go chase girls together.
>>Soccerfuu - I actually was feeling pretty bad, and I swore to myself I would not come back and update this thread again, but reading these replies made me smile. To answer your question, yes, I am feeling better, and it's thanks to you guys.
Well, at least AmazingHappyBoy is amazingly happy...
Also, I'm curious at who is tripcoding Lightning? （*ﾟーﾟ）
You not what you need, Thunder?
I big, fat joint to smoke.
A huge one, the size of a very large... mobile phone!
It will clear your head!
Oops I said "not" when i meant "know"
>>213
Maybe you need to smoke less. ( ﾟヮﾟ)
Oh! and an update for you guys, we will see if it is the last real update on this thread or not.
I did get tired of waiting around for a response, so I sent him a message that put the ball fully into his court.
Basically, it said, "Sorry I'm sending you all these messages...I guess I'm used to pursuing, because I'm used to dating girls.
Anyway, you seem pretty busy right now, so why don't you contact me when you wanna see me?
再見~"
再見 is especially useful, since it's used to mean "goodbye," but literally it means "until we meet again" or "hope to see you again." If he doesn't like me at all, then I'll have my answer, whatever it may be.
>Anyway, you seem pretty busy right now, so why don't you contact me when you wanna see me?
This is pretty much the best you can do. I went on a date with a girl once [my only date evar, and it even went well, or so I thought] who then pretty much turned flaky afterwards, so I just told her exactly that and, as I suspected, never heard from her again. Hopefully that won't be the case with you though.
Also,
>>210
>Screw the boys, let's go chase girls together.
Don't give up on guys just because of how one behaves. D: I'm sure I don't need to tell you that most of the guys in this thread would love to get to know you.
But that's not saying much (;_;)
if you know where this guy lives, why do you go to him Thunder-chan?
New story: i came back from a school trip, and I was waiting for my girlfriend in front of the school. Unfortunately, she arrived with urgent business with someone's friend, and that friend's grandfather was in the car (I'll explain why that was important later). When I tried to just talk to her...she was running off quickly...and just when she was about to leave, she told me "sorry, I got to go...goodbye." I was in shambles. I cried for a while...thinking I got dumped. Eventually I went home...and I was very depressed.
A few hours later, I was lying down when my mother answered the door. Apparently, it was my girlfriend...out of breath. She pulled me out to my backyard, but I was silent. She then told me why she brushed me off. Apparently, the grandfather was FUCKING STUPID about any girls (this is Mexican culture) dating other guys, and that he saw us hugging or kissing, he would blab it to the entire neighborhood in her city (we were hiding the relationship at the time). When she got home from school, she thought it wasn't a big deal at first. But as time passed, she said that she had a huge throbbing in her heart, and basically told her sister (even though she was against it) she was taking a bus and heading to my town. My girlfriend got lost, but eventually RAN to my house...and that's where we stand. She cried after explaining...and after realizing how stupid I was for doubting her...I just hugged her for the rest of the night. It was one of those moments where I just felt like "this girl might be all mine one day..."
So Thunder-chan, all I'm saying is to keep your head up still. Sure, the chances may look slim...but like I said before...texting/calling isn't going to help you out. If you really want to get this off your chest (and I don't think saying you dated girls was a good idea to start off), YOU HAVE TO SEE HIM FACE TO FACE!! If he turns away, then you'll know. However, only time will tell how emotions will sway. One day, you'll might think this was just "a hardcore crush" that just came and gone...OR...this guy would finally realize how lucky he is to have you as a great friend. In any case, if it ends out on the downside, don't ignore him; continue the friendship. Ending a friendship would only hurt your self-esteem more.
I love you all guys...but we have to give it up to Thunder-chan...she deserves all the help and praise she needs.
>if you know where this guy lives, why do you go to him Thunder-chan?
because that's called stalking...? XD
Your story is very sweet, soccerfuu, but it sounds like you guys had a relationship before that event. I can't even get that far... ( -_-;)
I know I do have to see him face to face, since every time face to face he's been like a dream, but I don't want to be throwing myself at him, either. I admit, the dating girls part might not have been smart, but I was a little bit upset and I wanted to imply that me chasing him down all the time was treating him like a girl, especially if he's supposed to be a "dominant Alpha male" type.
But you're right, only time will tell from this point on...I also really wonder if it was ever a friendship in the first place, or if we were dating from the start. Blarghh. So many questions, no answers.
Yeah, although I forgot my previous trip code (very forgetful here). Anyway, lurking through.
日本語でおk
>>219 Thunder-chan...it isn't considered stalking if you just knock on his door (my God girl...you think I was saying "pop up in front of him and demand for his answer). I mean...you did go to house before...rite?
If not...then yea...throw that advice away. Damn...the waiting game is so irritating!!
you're going to hate me for saying this... but, why not move on?
Hey, 2x dude from earlier in the thread. I don't remember the exact twenty it was and as the thread was deleted... well nevermind.
I'm sorry for you Thunder... I hope your last shot gives something, I really do. But if nothing happens, I think you must prepare yourself to move on; and before you start getting all anxious again, I must tell you something; move on with a huge smile on your face. Don't let that get you down. Instead, use all that disappointment and frustration and channel it as a strenght, okay?
Oh, and I hope you'll still hang out around here whatever happens. You're kinda the cheerful type and give out good advice. Well sometimes at least :p
>>221
あたしは 日本語 が できません。（｡；-；）
Again, soccerfuu...we're not on those terms. I think it'd be creepy if I just went to his place without telling him first, especially since the ball is in his court now.
The feelings are slowly fading...if he wants to be with me, by now he'll have to win me back.
I don't hate you. I think this is wise advice. （#・-・）
I think you're absolutely right. Everybody here has been really supportive and really wonderful, and while I was hoping to be able to tell a nice romance story to everyone, it's true - not all of us can be Densha Otoko. But I value everybody who's shown their support here more than this guy who just seems to dick me around.
I have definitely come to love /love/ so I will definitely be here no matter what. （＾ヮ＾*）I just don't always tripcode when I'm not in this thread ;D I don't want people to think I'm just here to attention-whore...
>>225
I sure hope that outside of your thread you're just a Secret Admirer like the rest of us... hehe
I would want Thunder to give me advice on romance in a time of need ;-;
......aaaaaand we're back online.
somewhat.
not really.
I just got a message from him saying that he "understands my aggressiveness" but he really is very genuinely busy. He promises to call me...
I don't want to be waiting around for him, though, and at this point I don't plan to. Self-righteous and alone doesn't look so bad anymore...
I'll message him back, but in a day or two. He says being "sketchy" means being too tired to respond to messages - what does he think I expect from him? A hello would be fine. It doesn't take that much energy to text...I don't always have to see him, if that's what he thinks, but he apparently doesn't get that.
In fact, you don't even need to message him back on this... just let him call. He will... and if he doesn't, I think there's nothing more you can do.
>>231 yeahyeahyeah, this guys got it!!
If he wants you then he'll call!
Just for the record, physical beauty =/= good/hot/cool person. I dated a fucking gorgeous female for awhile, who was a total bitch and more than a bit mentally unstable.
As for OP, I think he's feeling overwhelmed by a number of things right now and is avoiding talking to you because he's worried about that adding more pressure and about being in a bad mood and saying or doing something stupid.
I think your best bet for right now is to ask if you can bring him some take-out when he's doing his homework or something. That helps with his financial burden, his time issues, him needing a mental break from what he's doing, and gets you a moment to connect with him. When you talk to him, mention that you understand that he's busy and apologize for being selfish, then mention that you just got a bit upset when he didn't call you on the 20th like he said he would. Leave it at that.
Have you tried asking him to xxx in your eyesocket? Thats always a turn on for a guy...
I feel this thread has run its couse. sigh But it just doesnt seem right to leave the last post as a 'xxx eyesocket' comment. Anyone have words of wisdom to kindof end a thread like this?
Life is short. If you want something, don't wait. Go for it with all your being. If you cant get it, then you won't regret failing.
Whatever you do, Thunder, I hope you will find your happiness.
Hey guys. Thunder here.
I'm surprised to see that this thread still generates interest...Looking at it makes me kind of depressed. I'm still here and posting in /love/, but I'm simultaneously obsessed with romance and also wanting to take a break from it at the same time.
I haven't messaged him back. I don't want to >>234 because it feels like I am throwing myself at him. Like we've said...if he is really interested, he will contact me, right?
Argh. I don't even want to be thinking about him anymore.
I did a good job putting him out of my head these last two weeks. But today I saw this thread and I stalked his facebook. Every time I saw a girl post on his wall I wanted to punch them. ＿|￣|○
There is a weird compression feeling in my chest...
I am trying to put it out of my head. Thank you for your support, guys. You are, as always, wonderful. And I think you always will be.
Thunder, he doesn't like you and never did. I'm sorry that I have to be so blunt but we all need it at times, my advice is to move on and get back in the game, next time you're in this situation I'll guarantee that you can handle it much better.
Also, as a rule of thumb, if someone says they'll call you, if they haven't called within 2/3 days get in touch, if not then just leave it, nothing is less attractive than clingy people. For example, to win my girlfriend over I ignored her at times and was intentionally vague other times, this let me know if she really wanted me, she showered me with affection but played a similar game. We've been together 8 months on and off.
Good luck hun.
nooooooo thuuuunder-chaaaaaaaan
you have lost the fighting spirit!
MY FLAMES OF PASSION HAVE BEEN PUT OUT!
it...is...oover...
dead
ps: good luck in the future
Sadly, I think >>240 is right. If he shared even of a sliver of your feelings for him, he would have at least said something. Optimistically (Also Improbably) he could just not be saying anything out of fear that a beautiful, intelligent girl such as yourself, would reject a /b/-tard like him.
God, now that was a struggle.
>>243
At the risk of sounding desperate, do you want to talk off-site Thunder-san?
Also, for anyone wondering, the girl I mentioned in >>240 lives thousands of miles away :(
Yes, I do, Lonely-chan. I can't leave my info, though (too easily identifiable) but if you want to leave yours I will certainly contact you!
aw yay!
ONE HAPPY PERSON FROM THIS THREAD
not all sadness!
i wanna talk wit Thunder-chan too!
striker_20002003@yahoo.com
plz write soon!
Added you on Y!IM, soccerfuu.
mind if you write a quick letter to the address? y!mail is being funny today with IM
>>251...Thunder-chan...i found out i can use Y!IM online...i should be on now...(write an e-mail if i don't respond)
Would you mind giving a back story quickly as 4/5 of the thread is missing and I'm a new lurker? If you don't want to then that's fine too.
post thunderchan!!!
Intriguing. Please continue in your exposition!
awww continue to post!!!
Well, something that I never told the first time around is that we actually kissed. Why didn't I tell it? I was nervous and wondering if it actually meant something, or was it the result of being drunk.
--OLD POST--
[at his place] he introduces me to his roommates, joking that he's bringing a girl home to freak out his conservative Christian roommate. (I am hoping beyond hope that he likes me that way) His roommates are kinda frat-boy looking and very attractive. Not as attractive as him, though...
We end up doing shots of whiskey. They have a butler closet, apparently, a small, dark space for drinking in. He says, "Come in closer," and I can't help but think how this could be really romantic, since it's dark and they have fun lighting....
We do three shots and then he mixes a drink that he insists that we share. Surrogate kiss! 8D ...okay, lame.
I'm pretty tipsy by the time we start walking towards the train. He slows down to wait for me because I'm wearing heels, and he laughs when I point out that my legs aren't as long as his. We sit on the train together and he has his arm on the back of my seat - the alcohol emboldens me and I lean into him, a little.
(´･ω･`)
He's way too 1337 for me...-,- I mean, gorgeous, smart, funny, AND interesting?? He could have any girl...I'm not...not the kind that boys like this go for...
When we get to the bar, he says, "beer? dancing? Both?"
I say I don't need a beer, and he asks, "are you sure?" and then he suggests we split a beer. He asks me what kind, I say, "Heineken." He makes a pleased noise - "I was just about to suggest that very same brand."
I am reading too much into this, i know...
And then he asks me to dance.
Welcome back Thunder! :D
Didn't know about the kiss thing... this guy sure is weird. I'm too baked to make up any more insightful comment as of now.
Off to bed.
so was this... before he got "busy"??
>>263 Hi Thunderchan!! I blushed when i read this story, because i liked it so much!! :))))
so did something happen? is this why you're updating again?
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